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AlterEgo69 -> RE: "Deleted Unread" in personals - what gives??? (1/26/2008 5:23:12 PM)
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Holy cow... We are clearly "talking past each other" here, folks. I really don't care to participate in this conversation any more, but a personality defect of mine is that it's hard for me to walk away from a challenge (like KC's), even when I know it's the better decision. So one last time, I'll try to explain what I thought I made clear before, but apparently didn't.
My base post was simply asking the question "what gives with this". I couldn't understand how people could possibly have an ad up, ask for attention, then delete e-mails with ZERO investigation of who they came from. That was my incorrect conclusion about the meaning implied by "deleted unread". Now that it has been clarified that there are plausible scenarios for "deleted unread" that differ from the assumption I was making, I stand corrected and enlighted. Once that enlightenment occurred, the thread had served its purpose as far as I was concerned. The rest of this thread strikes me as an off-topic tangent, but since I seem to be being attacked (for what? asking an honest question?), I'll go ahead and make the mistake of defending myself. Again. Sigh.
KC, with all due respect you're just not thinking logically when you keep bringing up my own statement about requiring a picture else I will not respond, and suggesting that it's hypocritical. Quite to the contrary, it is exactly that sort of honest disclosure that I think other people should include in their profiles. I never said they had to or that it was their obligation to. I only said my opinion was that they should. By having that statement in my profile, what I am doing is setting forth my terms: Here's what you can expect - send a picture, get a response, don't send a picture, don't get a response. And as others have pointed out through correct observation but often misplaced criticism, I am frankly pretty "picky" in several other ways. I am looking for a certain type, and have physical requirements that some people would regard as shallow. THE WHOLE POINT IS, I DISCLOSED MY CRITERIA IN MY PROFILE. That way, anyone who bothers to read my profile knows the deal, and their time won't be wasted if they're outside my criteria, unless they choose to ignore what I say, in which case it's obviously their problem. All I was trying to say is that I wish everyone here would make a little more effort to exhibit the same courtesy! If you have specific age, weight, or interest criteria and you want to set up filters, OF COURSE you should set up filters. You have every right to use filters. All I was trying to say is that in my view, it is rude to knowingly have a profile that INVITES communication from anyone, then have filters to apply undisclosed criteria.
The suggestion (repeated twice, I believe) that I should create a bogus female profile for the purpose of "seeing what it's like" blows my mind. I simply don't have it in me to something so horrendously selfish, disrespectful, and rude as to intentionally waste HOURS AND HOURS of a whole bunch of people's time, just for the sake of proving to myself that women here get a lot of e-mail. I already knew that women here get a lot of e-mail. What I didn't know is that apparently, many people here would do something like creating a bogus profile and wasting everyone's time just to demonstrate a point, then feel no guilt whatsoever for having done so. Yes, I knew there were people with that amount of disrespect for others' time on this site, but I hadn't realized they are actually proud of it, and make no qualms about being willing to waste huge amounts of others' time indiscriminately. Wow.
In closing, it's clear that most of you either don't get my point, or disagree with me. That's cool - it's certainly your right do disagree. And I do admit to being brand new to this forum, so perhaps part of this is my own naivity. In any case, I really didn't mean to start a holy war here. I had a question about whether Deleted Unread really meant what I thought it meant. I got the answer I needed: No, it doesn't, and my understanding was incomplete. Having now been enlightened, I got what I came for out of this thread, and don't plan to read or contribute to this thread any further. If I still haven't made my point clearly, I'm sorry. If you disagree with me, I respect your right to do so. In either case, I'm moving on, and hope you will too.
AE
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