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bamabbwsub -> RE: "Deleted Unread" in personals - what gives??? (1/26/2008 9:42:11 PM)
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Frankly I think it's a little rude that they can't manage the one click it takes to send an automated "Thanks, but not interested" message, but I accept that it's part of life here that if she's not interested, I probably won't hear back. Sigh.
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Let me tell you what is likely to happen when a submissive responds "sorry, I'm not interested." Some dominants then begin a sad, pathetic, and whiny campaign to win the sub over. They list all of the reasons why she should give him a chance and get to know him. It's not fun seeing a D type revert back to childhood. So it's best if they understand that:
no response = not interested
AE, I personally am with You on this particular topic. I find it rude to delete someone's e-mail without bothering to even see what it says (but then, I'm a curious sort). I also find it very rude not to get some kind of response to a well-written introductory (read) e-mail. (I do, however, personally ignore such highbrow introductions that simply state, "Hi" and nothing else. Ugh!) If a person takes the time to write an e-mail that is genuine and doesn't appear to be a copy/paste e-mail, then I find it only courteous to reply back in kind, even if it is to say, "Thanks but no thanks."
With that said, however, KatyLied also has an excellent point. After I have replied with "Thanks but no thanks," I've often gotten a second e-mail trying to tell me why we would be a good match, or asking me to explain what it is about them that I don't find appealing. For that point alone, some subs may not consider it to be worth the effort.
For me, however, I tend to be polite until I'm forced to be otherwise, so most initial sincere e-mails get some sort of reply.
Some here have said, "Don't take it so personally." Although any kind of rejection can be difficult, You might consider that if they don't even bother to read Your message, they are missing out on YOU and they aren't worth YOUR time. I perved Your profile and You seem to be an interesting, intelligent (but perhaps overly gregarious) guy...and You mistakenly prefer skinny girls -- ha!
Anyway, best of luck to You in Your search...don't give up!
***edited for clarity***
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