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ORIGINAL: Lashra

It is very annoying and I refuse to listen to it. My sub does not nor ever will use 3rd person speech with me.

~Lashra

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ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow

I could/would never do it, it would drive me mad . . . and it annoys the hell out of me when other people do it (online and in person).

But

What ever works for ya

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

It’s a total mind-fuck, and power-control to the max.   
 
When I express an interest in something, I’d surely expect my submissive or my slave to jump at the chance to offer me just that…regardless of their own interests. 

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ORIGINAL: venusinblu

Actually, I will confess .. when I want something from my Master, and the best way to get anything from him is to go all girly and cute, I flutter my eyelashes, sit on his knee and whisper to him in the third person calling myself the pet name he gave me ... and after having a few orgasms inflicted upon me  I generally get what I want! .. so, it has it's uses!

Devious-nusnus, thy name is woman ... !

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: schoenekitty

Ha I totally agree... he likes it, I don't... grrr

Rover- that's definately comforting- I kinda felt bad about not wanting/being able to do it And thanks

So you have two things to decide.  Who is the dominant in the relationship.  You or him?
If it is you, then you do what you want.

If it is him, then you have to decide whether you can submit to what he wants and ifnot, explain it to him and don't submit.
Submission isn't always easy, it's hard work and you don't always get to do what you want and what feels comfortable - it's about submitting to the desires of another, someone whos decision is what is more important than what you think you can or can't do.

the.dark.

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee
I find it interesting that so many submissives have such strong feelings about it.  Perhaps there is a difference between ‘submissive- and ‘slave-attitude, huh?  When I express an interest in something, I’d surely expect my submissive or my slave to jump at the chance to offer me just that…regardless of their own interests.  What I’ve found is that whatever the s-type is doing to please me, it puts us both in a lovely frame of mind, and isn’t that what a D/s or M/s relationship is all about; enjoying The Exchange of Power?

Absolutely.  I am not going to get into the whole sub/slave debate, but something poked me with a big stick on the OP.  He is Master - what he says occurs surely?  If not, then there is a compatability issue in a relationship, and a question on how much authority the slave has in a relationship.

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ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow

Thankfully, in my relationship, he takes my feelings into consideration too, and would never ask me to do it.

See, this rocks and is all good.  But the OP doesn't specify if he knows her feelings(communication), and if he is taking her feelings into consideration and even if he is - then they do not sound compatable.  And that is the crunch hey.

the.dark.

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

Well, there is also a tradition in leather/old guard training methods whereby the 3rd person is used. This tradition is probably dying out, but still exists in some circles.

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ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb

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ORIGINAL: MsBearlee

It’s a total mind-fuck, and power-control to the max.   
 
When I express an interest in something, I’d surely expect my submissive or my slave to jump at the chance to offer me just that…regardless of their own interests. 
I have to admit I don't understand that mindset.  Does this mean if you love doing every petty little thing, every sensual turn, ect, and you actually enjoy it all, mean you are not really submitting?
Why do so many people assume there must be something you don't enjoy in the mix in order for it to be something real?
Heck, I picked up some of the smelliest socks on earth as a child, and I still would have rather done so, then have them stick up the room.
You don't have to be joyous or reluctant, you just have to do it.
That isn't submitting in my view, it is just practical.
I would have done the same if it came to it, even if it was nilla.  It is very difficult for me to see a qualifier of doing it regardless of wanting to, so I could feel submissive.
Kyst

I think submission that is wholly on the sub's own terms is not really submission.  Indeed, acts of real submission involve doing the tasks or activities one dislikes because it benefits or pleases the Dominant. 

That doesn't mean one has to dislike every task or activity, BTW.  I may love 90% of what I do for her, but it is that 10% I dislike that proves [to me anyway] that I am willing to sacrifice some of my own comfort [physical or mental] to make her happy.