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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 3:44:59 PM   
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It's discussions like these that make me wonder if i actually belong in this community.  sigh.

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 3:46:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: schoenekitty

I was just wondering how common it is for slaves (preferably nongorian- sorry) to be required to speak in the 3rd person? How hard was it to get used to? Did/does it still feel like you talking? My master would like me to do it and I don't feel like it's still me talking, like I can't truely express myself honestly and emotionally in this manner... Any thoughts to that as well?



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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 3:54:29 PM   
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Gris... she said speaking in 3rd person, not doing a 3rd person.

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 4:58:27 PM   
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Gris... she said speaking in 3rd person, not doing a 3rd person.

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 5:15:01 PM   
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Master does not like third person speech and so I do not use it. Personaly I don't like it either I have found in situations where either I have used it or sub/slave friends have used it that if anything it draws more attention to that person then just talking in the first person would.

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 5:23:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: schoenekitty

I was just wondering how common it is for slaves (preferably nongorian- sorry) to be required to speak in the 3rd person? How hard was it to get used to? Did/does it still feel like you talking? My master would like me to do it and I don't feel like it's still me talking, like I can't truely express myself honestly and emotionally in this manner... Any thoughts to that as well?



We use it ONLY when we are role playing.. and only when I'm the Lone Ranger and slave is Tonto. :) 
 
Other than that, I ignore the practice and if someone insists on using it.. I tell them to please get "this slave" and to apologize for speaking about them in their absence.
 
I would not insult my slave's intelligence by having him speak in this fashion.
 

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 6:19:49 PM   
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QuietDom feels that for one to speak of oneself in the third person is far more akin to self-aggrandizement than self-abasement.  He is not pleased when others speak to him in such a manner.  Surely the rest of you can see just how obnoxiously pompous QuietDom sounds, speaking of himself like this, even for these few sentences.


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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 7:04:18 PM   
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So you have two things to decide.  Who is the dominant in the relationship.  You or him?
If it is you, then you do what you want.
 
If it is him, then you have to decide whether you can submit to what he wants and ifnot, explain it to him and don't submit.
Submission isn't always easy, it's hard work and you don't always get to do what you want and what feels comfortable - it's about submitting to the desires of another, someone whos decision is what is more important than what you think you can or can't do.
 
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Awesome post, in my opinion, and should be copied/pasted into about 90% of the threads here. 

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 7:05:29 PM   
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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 7:11:43 PM   
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~fr~ ~disclaimer~ i have not read any responses.  i apologize if this is a repeat.

A couple on here (Mercnbeth) are Master/slave (but oh so much more imo).  Merc requires beth to not only speak in 3rd person but write in 3rd person.  Honestly, beth is almost the only person i have seen that carries it off with beauty and grace.  From what i have seen, for her it is far more than just a "fad" or a cool way to type.  i highly recommend that you seek out their opinions.

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 7:33:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Rover

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

Well, there is also a tradition in leather/old guard training methods whereby the 3rd person is used. This tradition is probably dying out, but still exists in some circles.


I'm curious as to your source for this information. I don't recall it having been mentioned even once by Joseph Bean, Guy Baldwin, Gayle Rubin, Jack Rinella, Jay Wiseman, or any of the other sources for factual information about the "Old Guard" that I have read and/or spoken with. But I'm always anxious to become better informed.

John


I was talking specifically about certain training methods that some use. It has to do with re-ordering the slave's "ego." Adjusting it, refocusing the ego, teaching the ego new priorities, namely - to focus on Master. Check out this leatherman's site. He explains it much better than I.

http://www.bornslaves.com/index.html

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 7:40:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName


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ORIGINAL: Rover

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ORIGINAL: MistressNoName

Well, there is also a tradition in leather/old guard training methods whereby the 3rd person is used. This tradition is probably dying out, but still exists in some circles.


I'm curious as to your source for this information. I don't recall it having been mentioned even once by Joseph Bean, Guy Baldwin, Gayle Rubin, Jack Rinella, Jay Wiseman, or any of the other sources for factual information about the "Old Guard" that I have read and/or spoken with. But I'm always anxious to become better informed.

John


I was talking specifically about certain training methods that some use. It has to do with re-ordering the slave's "ego." Adjusting it, refocusing the ego, teaching the ego new priorities, namely - to focus on Master. Check out this leatherman's site. He explains it much better than I.

http://www.bornslaves.com/index.html

MNN



Between you, me and a fencepost... these folks have about as much to do with "Old Guard" as Tang does with space travel and lunar landings. 
 
John
 
P.S. - Anyone calling this a Leatherman's site in the fashion of an "Old Guard" Leatherman should have their mouth washed out with soap.

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 9:52:29 PM   
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Hello,

Out of curiosity, do you know any of the people who have created www.bornslaves.com?  Have you had personal experiences or interactions with them?  I know that Slave Master has been very involved in the gay leather scene for many years and I believe he was one of the founding members of Butchmann's.  I am curious if your opinion is based on the web site only or if perhaps you have some other knowledge.

Be well,

Peggy



Between you, me and a fencepost... these folks have about as much to do with "Old Guard" as Tang does with space travel and lunar landings. 
 
John
 
P.S. - Anyone calling this a Leatherman's site in the fashion of an "Old Guard" Leatherman should have their mouth washed out with soap.
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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/29/2008 11:11:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: QuietDom

QuietDom feels that for one to speak of oneself in the third person is far more akin to self-aggrandizement than self-abasement.  He is not pleased when others speak to him in such a manner.  Surely the rest of you can see just how obnoxiously pompous QuietDom sounds, speaking of himself like this, even for these few sentences.



To be honest thats the way I have always felt about this...TO ME when people talk in the 3rd person it makes them sound like they are really stuck on themselves....like they are all self important.....TO ME it doesnt come acrossed as humble AT ALL.


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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/30/2008 2:07:07 AM   
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guess as with many things;
different people, different tastes.     gladly..makes this forum so interesting  :P

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/30/2008 5:35:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeggyO

Out of curiosity, do you know any of the people who have created www.bornslaves.com?  Have you had personal experiences or interactions with them? 


I don't know any of these people on a personal level.  Nor do I need to know them personally in order to evaluate the website and conclude that it is not what MistressNoName claims it to be.
 
Be clear, I'm not calling Slave Master "fraudulant" since his website does not portay itself as representative of "Old Guard" Leather.  I'm simply (and clearly) stating that other people's portrayal of the website (or them, based upon the website) as representative of "Old Guard" is completely contrary to the documented factual record.
 
This is a website largely dedicated to "New Age" leather spiritualism.  And while there's absolutely nothing wrong with folks incorporating spiritualism in their BDSM, there is nothing to suggest that "New Age" spiritualism even existed in the "Old Guard" era, much less that it  played any meaningful role in their society.
 
Similarly, the website was offered as an example of "Old Guard" training methods that utilized third person speech by a poster on this board.  This is also something that, if true, seems to have escaped the documented factual record (and thus I feel justified in concluding that it's not true).  I don't see where the website makes such a claim, but if it does then I would consider that a fabrication.

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I know that Slave Master has been very involved in the gay leather scene for many years and I believe he was one of the founding members of Butchmann's. 


Master Steve is the founder of Butchmanns Academy, though Slave Master is an instructor.  He has legitimately been involved in the gay leather scene for some years (his website says fourteen).  None of which changes the fact that the New Age leather represented by his website bears no resemblance to the era commonly referred to as "Old Guard".  Seriously, it's impossible to conceive that any of the accepted historical accounts of the era failed to mention this.
 
And frankly, in Slave Master's defense he should not be held accountable for how an anonymous poster to an online community may say about his website.  This is not about defending Slave Master who (near as I can tell though I have not read every article at the site) has not made any claim that would require a defense.  Misstating other people's positions (such as has evidently been the case with Slave Master) brings undeserved scrutiny upon them, and in this case I believe that an injustice has been done to Slave Master.

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I am curious if your opinion is based on the web site only or if perhaps you have some other knowledge.


My opinion is based upon a cumulative understanding of the "Old Guard" era based upon what recognized Leather historians have written, having personally discussed the topic with a few of those historians, and comparing that to what I've read at the website.  Admittedly, I do not consider myself expert on the topic, though well informed and conversant.
 
John

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/30/2008 5:38:29 AM   
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I would just like to point out that John and I talk to each other in third person, behind y'alls backs.

LOL
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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/30/2008 5:45:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I would just like to point out that John and I talk to each other in third person, behind y'alls backs.

LOL
Ron


Well, you talk in third person.  I'm taking their wallets.
 
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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/30/2008 5:46:30 AM   
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I would just like to point out that John and I talk to each other in third person, behind y'alls backs.

LOL
Ron


We are not amused.............:)

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RE: Who is required to, or requires his/her slave to sp... - 1/30/2008 5:58:43 AM   
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i must be one of the odd ones that love speaking in 3rd person
though it is hard to find a person who appreciates it or enforces it

i just love the constant reminder of my place
and who i serve

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