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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:08:39 AM   
Sundowner


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Mmmm Sundowner are you looking to start a cat fight here. Wenchie bring me a beer before you begin.


Oh bugger. You mean it's bad form to flirt with two beautiful ladies at the same time!

Hadn't thought this through properly had I?

Help!

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:10:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, Sundowner, amazing passionate desire - whatever bug I had is gone. And wenchie and I don't FIGHT over men... we call it jello wrestling.

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(giggling over the fact that a thread about the meaning of flirting, has turned into a thread OF flirting, and no, I couldn't drag another Hitchhikers Guide reference out of that one)

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:10:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		lol... Some interesting replies.

First, yes... it is long.  Sorry about that. 

I do want to clarify that it wasn't my intent to sound as if I was putting down flirting.  I consider it an artform and enjoy participating myself on the rare occasion when I have the chance.  My thoughts were to perhaps broaden our ideas about how flirting can be viewed... and maybe point out how it's often not taken (or seen from an outside perspective) quite as intended.

I do concede that my explanations don't cover all the possibilities... it was way too long already.  But it's interesting that so many say that it's simply fun.  Have you thought about just why it's fun?  What is it about this particular kind of interaction makes you feel good?

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:10:47 AM   
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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:15:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sundowner she is from California. They tend to giggle there.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:17:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

lol... Some interesting replies.
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Have you thought about just why it's fun?  What is it about this particular kind of interaction makes you feel good?



Sorry TreasureKY - not hijacking the thread to be a HNG.

For me it is so much fun - I get to "meet" interesting people (those who respond to flirting anyway) and as has been said, it can make someone feel good - feel wanted or acknowledged if you like - which can help their ego, self-esteem, whatever.

Of course the problem is that many people who'd benefit from a bit of light-hearted fun (and possibly an ongoing contact) are too shy to flirt.

(In my own case my social worker has said that, since I've paid my debt to society, I shouldn't hide away - I should get back into the community and meet people, so long as it doesn't interfere with the probation restrictions of course).

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:19:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

Excuse me - giggling is not the reaction we're after


As long as I don't point at the same time, it's all good. 

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:19:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Sundowner she is from California. They tend to giggle there.


What? California's in America isn't it? That's a hell of a walk from the UK. 

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:20:54 AM   
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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:23:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Look - Dnomyar - you clearly know sweetwenchie, and I'm trying to be helpful to TreasureKY, so if we start off pairing her and me and you and the wenchie girl then we could ......

.... oh shit, There's Cali to think of. Er ...... either of you girls into threesomes?

<calls down the hall - "Coming Cali! - Won't be a mo!")

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:30:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		No California is not in America. It is a third world country.  Im waiting for the threesome answer. On the flirting. How would you flirt without comming across as being to forward.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:37:46 AM   
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I'm so sorry about this treasureKY - the length of your post shows you really are interested in the question.

It's just that with two amazingly hot girls, fluttering bits, the possibility of jello and two hot girls, one rather gets distracted.

I blame Cali and sweetwenchie myself.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:38:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

lol... Some interesting replies.

First, yes... it is long.  Sorry about that. 

I do want to clarify that it wasn't my intent to sound as if I was putting down flirting.  I consider it an artform and enjoy participating myself on the rare occasion when I have the chance.  My thoughts were to perhaps broaden our ideas about how flirting can be viewed... and maybe point out how it's often not taken (or seen from an outside perspective) quite as intended.

I do concede that my explanations don't cover all the possibilities... it was way too long already.  But it's interesting that so many say that it's simply fun.  Have you thought about just why it's fun?  What is it about this particular kind of interaction makes you feel good?



i think the only think i have to object to is your use of the word "relationship"....in the observation that flirtation can open you up to a relationship.  i'd chose the word "interaction" instead of relationship, but that's me.

i have friends that i flirt with.  i am naturally a bit flirtatious.  but those people know where the line is drawn, and where overstepping the boundaries begins.

"oh if you werent in a relationship!" is cute.  "you're poly, why CANT we just have some recreational nookie?" is not.
"Oooo you look edible!" is fine.  "c'mere baby let me eat you" is not.
"it can be hugs tiem now, pleez?' is wonderful.  hugging me and rubbing up against me in a frottage sense is not.

making someone laugh and feel good is all a lovely thing.  causing someone to have that horrified look as if they've just stepped in something warm and stinky....is not.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:39:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Obligatory on-topic response:  I have a warped mind. What I call fun may not be fun to someone else. Why is it fun? I dunno.

Threesome question:  ONLY three?  I think someone is limiting themself here.

Cali



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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:41:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		The reason it is fun for me is that it makes the person I'm talking to feel good, and, often myself as well.
It wouldn't be fun for me if I were serious because then I would start to think about HoneyMaster, and how this would hurt Him.
Then, instead of feeling good about myself, (as flirting tends to have happen), I would feel ashamed, and unhappy.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:44:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like you Sundowner. You know where to place the blame.  Mmmm have a question. Is  flirting more about you feeling good about the reaction you get back out of it. If so isnt that jerking the other persons chain.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:46:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would have a big problem with my Master flirting....and I won't do it either.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:47:53 AM   
TreasureKY


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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

Look - Dnomyar - you clearly know sweetwenchie, and I'm trying to be helpful to TreasureKY, so if we start off pairing her and me and you and the wenchie girl then we could ......

.... oh shit, There's Cali to think of. Er ...... either of you girls into threesomes?


lol... I understand Cali is pervy that way.   Personally, I always got bad marks for sharing, but I did show an aptitude for playing well with others.   Go figure.

And please don't worry about any derailment.  Flirting in a thread about flirting seems highly on-topic.

quote:

ORIGINAL: adoracat

... i think the only think i have to object to is your use of the word "relationship"....in the observation that flirtation can open you up to a relationship.  i'd chose the word "interaction" instead of relationship, but that's me.


Fair enough, and that's why I said I use the term very loosely.  Your word "interaction" would probably be much more appropriate.

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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 11:48:00 AM   
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What is it about this particular kind of interaction makes you feel good?


I think some of it has to do with attention.  Receiving attention and giving attention, in a specific manner to a person.  Sometimes you never know where flirting may lead, and that is also part of the fun of it.


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RE: Just Flirting... - 2/21/2008 12:00:59 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		OK. You flirt and the person takes it the wrong way. After you correct them how do you feel when you see them again.

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