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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Most of the people that I know who flirt do so casually.  Flirting for many people is casual, just light banter to get better service at a restaurant, an extra inch of fabric, ect.  Flirting for those of us who do is simply being charming.  LOL I have never bared my shoulder or breast, or even used sexual inuendo when flirting.  I have never run my fingers over someones body to flirt.  Such actions would be beyond gentle flirtation and carry over into direct interest. 

I see a non flirtatious world as one without smiles, one where you have to keep your head covered and body wrapped tightly in garments, in case someone would see you and assume you desired them.  Flirtation is not always sexual.  For many of us it is just being memorable enough to have someone think of you later and smile.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: adoracat
yes, it made perfect sense to me.   and i dont flirt with ALL my friends, for that reason.  just like some people arent physically affectionate, some people arent flirtatious, and i understand that.

i have friends that i know i can say "i really need a hug" to and some i cant.  and that's fine, i appreciate all my friends for who they are.

kitten

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Most of the people that I know who flirt do so casually.  Flirting for many people is casual, just light banter to get better service at a restaurant, an extra inch of fabric, ect.  Flirting for those of us who do is simply being charming.  LOL I have never bared my shoulder or breast, or even used sexual inuendo when flirting.  I have never run my fingers over someones body to flirt.  Such actions would be beyond gentle flirtation and carry over into direct interest. 
I see a non flirtatious world as one without smiles, one where you have to keep your head covered and body wrapped tightly in garments, in case someone would see you and assume you desired them.  Flirtation is not always sexual.  For many of us it is just being memorable enough to have someone think of you later and smile.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: SageAdvice

the girl is about to get ousted

she needs help. she is a drunk and slackiiiing off of workk

thanks and good luck

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: SageAdvice

the girl is about to get ousted

she needs help. she is a drunk and slackiiiing off of workk

thanks and good luck

Your fired!

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

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ORIGINAL: adoracat
yes, it made perfect sense to me.   and i dont flirt with ALL my friends, for that reason.  just like some people arent physically affectionate, some people arent flirtatious, and i understand that.

i have friends that i know i can say "i really need a hug" to and some i cant.  and that's fine, i appreciate all my friends for who they are.

kitten

Actually, I'm kinda weird about people physically touching.
Have you ever seen a cat's fur go up for no reason?
Mine does when people touch me...often even when I want them to.
I'm sure it has to do with childhood issues, but...it is what it is.
But I'm still a flirt.
About the most 'recreational' touching I do is reaching out and touching people on the arm when I'm speaking with them. It makes me feel that I'm making more of a connection.
Hugs are a problem for me.
I pretty much just stiffen up. Perhaps I'm afraid they want more than what I want to give. Idk...

~Christina

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I absolutely love to flirt.  It makes me feel sexy and feminine.  I have no agenda when I flirt.  It's never meant to lead to anything.  I flirt with people I know and with people I don't know.  It's fun and casual and makes me feel good, especially when they flirt back. 

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I love to flirt...

Yah walk in as if you don't notice anyone, slowly walk up to her, grab her hair and force her to her knees.  Then you kick her legs apart, flick out a knife and slice through her pants and rip them off her to expose her ass which you then proceed to rape.

Only problem is picking the right woman...

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

Let me explain....It is not an "art form." It is an etiquette. Flirting can be harmless...Like when you casually flirt with a waitress or a bartender...Not going to actually lead up to anything other than a meaningless conversation or maybe a free drink or two.
That kind I am pretty much okay with, it is very very short term interaction lasting only a few sentences.

Under most definitions of flirting you would also find the word "attraction." It usually should be steered towards someone that you actually have an interest in doing. Most men are stupid when it comes to flirting...they will miscontsrue someone who is only being "nice" as showing interest. We are visual critters...are little brains prevent us from having to go through the time consuming effort of attempting to distinguish between the two....Nice or flirting? What's the difference?....Fuck'em all and let God and the courts sort'em out.Ding Ding Ding yup. That is where I've had trouble, the bit I bolded. There have been times when the guy has wanted to take it further. A lot further even when I'd stated no. Saying no is hard enough for me but when the 'he' turns aggressive I panic inside and have difficulty in knowing what to do. There has been a couple of times when what I thought was simple flirty friendliness ended up with me in a bad position. When I was younger it twice led to date rape when those words did not exist and it was always the females fault.

There are places to flirt...The workplace can be cool depending on the sicheeeeation and rules and guidelines that might be in place. Funerals are alright...Probably not a good idea to try and bang the deceased's spouse. Pish posh, if they're in a coffin the living spouse is fair game  So just run with the health club, bar, social clubs, parties, and grocery store....I personally would recommend the frozen food section. I have heard that church can be a good spot to find some uptight snatch in need of some serious demonic release...Never gone, so it is all speculation at this point.

I highly suggest that the majority of you leave the flirting to the pro's...Just going to end up killed or unhappy. Trust me, I do leave it to those better equipped to deal with possible (and with me, probable) fall out!I'm glad you are off moderation, this post from you did that light bulb over my head thingie. Thanks.

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

You've put it the way I would have wanted to have put it, Kyst.

(And I'd love to flirt with you but I daren't - I'm in deep shit with Cali and two beautiful ladies annoyed with me I can't take)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I absolutely love to flirt.  It makes me feel sexy and feminine.  I have no agenda when I flirt.  It's never meant to lead to anything.  I flirt with people I know and with people I don't know.  It's fun and casual and makes me feel good, especially when they flirt back. 

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Tries to divert my eyes so I can read what Aileen is saying.

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

You've put it the way I would have wanted to have put it, Kyst.

(And I'd love to flirt with you but I daren't - I'm in deep shit with Cali and two beautiful ladies annoyed with me I can't take)

Nahhh, you've stewed long enough. You grovel quite, um... deliciously.  You're off the hook.

Cali
(struggling to keep that inner Domme from leaping out)

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ORIGINAL: camille65

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from within ORIGINAL: domiguy

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There have been times when the guy has wanted to take it further. A lot further even when I'd stated no.
 
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