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Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 1:24:35 PM

slimsub

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Let me rant here. I am a very intelligent, financially secure, good conversationalist sub (not like some of these bozos on this site) who is also honest and doesn't lie about his age. I have played around for years but now want to make it permanent with the right Mistress. I would even relocate (never very easy) for the right person. Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time? My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 1:47:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimsub

Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time? My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

And size doesn't matter either, right? <kidding>

Don't give up, slimsub. There's hope for all of us!

I too am judged as being an "older" woman, at 47. I surely don't feel 47, and most people have offered that I look younger than my years. I feel younger...than what I thought 47 would feel like. I too do not lie about my age, but have offered "mid-forties" as my range. I have found many men lying about their age, but only noticed that more recently.

I will only speak from personal experience, and let you know that every single man that I've met (for a possible personal relationship), that was older than me (from 2 years to 15) has been too old to keep up with me. I found almost all of them to be older than their years, either from living a hard life, or not taking care of themselves. Again...not saying it's the norm...but it's my experience.

Now when it comes to public/party/club scenes, I have enjoyed a variety of men, in scene. I have enjoyed a young man of 22, up to a man in his eighties. All were great fun to play with, but none were relationship types.

Age IS a number, and I'll agree with that for sure. I have also felt ageism in work and play but, I have to go along with Cher, when she was asked why she didn't date older men, she responded, "I'd rather be a babysitter, than a nurse."

K

PS Although, I have to say I have been acused of being...well many things,

...but younger men (those under 30) have gotten angry with me, when I've said that I wouldn't entertain the idea of dating them. Can't fathom seeing someone that's young enough to be my son.

PPS Welcome to the Message Boards, slim!

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 2:02:05 PM

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I am a very intelligent, financially secure, good conversationalist sub (not like some of these bozos on this site) who is also honest and doesn't lie about his age.

Those are great selling points, and when you meet the right person for you, they will make yours and her life less difficult, so don't lose them.

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I have played around for years but now want to make it permanent with the right Mistress.

Perhaps the people you are contacting are busy playing around for now as well. Connecting with another human being is difficult for so many reasons, not the least of which is emotional readiness, and similarity of long term goals. So cultivate patience; after all you didn't get to the good place you are in life by being impetuous and quick to throw your hands up.

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I would even relocate (never very easy) for the right person. Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time?

Since I don't like the word judged in this context, I will say that you are being excluded because of a person's preference for someone who was born closer to the time they arrived on the planet, or one who arrived earlier. Everyone has her desires and goals. Just as I always say it's perfectly okay for a man to choose younger, smaller, different color, etc, so too it is a woman's prerogative to determine who she wants to keep company.

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My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

I think it's great that you look younger, but you are not younger, and no matter how we try to convince ourselves, our bodies do change over time.
My point is, people have their preferences for practical and sometimes shallow reasons, and there is nothing any of us can do beyond loving ourselves, living life as we enjoy, and remaining open to the possibility of meeting the right counterpart for us.
I hope I didn't sound harsh Slimsub, you seem to be a nice guy, and I wish you well. M

Editted to remove parts that seemed/were insensitive to some.

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 9/17/2005 11:47:41 PM >

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 2:11:52 PM

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It's not a good start, to start your posting carrer on a new board with a complaint. Also not a first good impression.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 2:47:43 PM

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Thx for the kind words/comments. BTW, Feline Persuasions this is an observation not a complaint. There is a difference.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 2:48:53 PM

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I'm sure dommes just LOVE first-time subs who complain a lot.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 5:05:47 PM

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quote:

It's not a good start, to start your posting carrer on a new board with a complaint. Also not a first good impression.

Wow I did not realize that subs were not allowed to complain on these chats. I think there is nothing wrong with them voicing their concerns, observations or complaints. I think we all have a right to ask questions whether they seem to be complaints or not why else have a boards to discuss matters.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 6:35:08 PM

fastlane

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Hi, how old are you? My birthday was today and I lied....God help me...I'm going to Hell, but I hate thinking that my subbie knows I'm really 42, so I lied and told her I'm 52.
Fuck it, if she likes older men...now she has one.

Sue me!

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 6:55:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mistressfionn
Wow I did not realize that subs were not allowed to complain on these chats.

Yes, its true! A sub has to have at least 100 posts on this site before they can complain. Otherwise his hard drive will erase itself.

Okay, I am kidding. But I think slimsub is a new arrival. He is not like some of the guys who have been members for over a year lurking, then decide to post a rant and disappear.

I agree with M. At age 46 I know that I don't have the stamina or the flexibility that I had at 36. And its possible that my body recovers a bit slower from injuries. I am guessing that these things would be more pronounced for someone in their sixties. And of course there is a matter of compatibility - shared interests and background.

Finding a partner myr own age just makes sense to me. I realize that the pool of available dommes will get smaller as I age... all the more reason to settle down with a good one!

But slimsub, there are older dommes out there. A search of the profiles shows 22 dominant women aged 60 or above in the U.S. who have visited this site in the past month. Now, granted, there are none in South Carolina. I only saw one domme who was older than 55 in your state.

But if you are willing to relocate... have you contacted any of those 22 women?

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 7:25:20 PM

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hehe, well if you get someone who's a masochist, or who likes to give spankings depending on what side you're on, age is just one more good reason to get many spankings hehehe.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 9:01:29 PM

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Nothing wrong with an HONEST complaint, but there are several things wrong with this one. First, we're getting tired of the "Why don't people pay more attention to me" threads. And it's always everyone else's fault for failing to recognize what a gem the person is. No one ever asks whether THEY'RE doing something that turns people off.

Second, the OP is complaining, basically, that he's being discriminated against because of his age. Well, you have to be very careful when you make charges of prejudice like that, because they can turn around and bite you in the ass. It's all well and good for him to complain about the prejudice that he's feeling, but what about the obvious prejudice in his implication that dommes are all judging him on the basis of his age? After less than a week on the site, he's prepared to make a staggering generalization like that? I know for a FACT that there are dommes on here who prefer younger subs. Maybe he just hasn't found them. Or maybe he HAS found them, and they don't want to pursue a relationship with him. I wouldn't be too surprised.

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ORIGINAL: Mistressfionn

Wow I did not realize that subs were not allowed to complain on these chats. I think there is nothing wrong with them voicing their concerns, observations or complaints. I think we all have a right to ask questions whether they seem to be complaints or not why else have a boards to discuss matters.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 9:44:22 PM

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I just finished reading this and I decided ill go back to playing with my Lego toys and practice more for my clown routine.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 9:46:49 PM

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Do you wear big shoes for that routine? I love a guy with big shoes. :)

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 9:54:44 PM

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No I cant afford a pair :(

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 10:30:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'm sure dommes just LOVE first-time subs who complain a lot.

*grins* If they complain a lot, can always just put a gag on them.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 10:51:23 PM

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I think in many cases, people just feel that they would have difficulty connecting with someone who is either greatly older or greatly younger than them. As FTopinMichigan said, playing with someone very young or very old is one thing, but in the long term it is different. I don't feel comfortable with someone old enough to be my father, or young enough to be my son for the long term, as we are in very different places in our lives.

I'm sure that in time you will find someone. Nothing is instantaneous. After all, you waited all these years to make this decision, isn't it worth the time to find the right one for you to enjoy it with?

LordandMaster, with all due respect, the OP is a gentlemen of 65. I'm sure you didn't realize or simply made an error.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 10:57:21 PM

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I didn't realize. Thanks for pointing it out. But everything I said remains the same.

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LordandMaster, with all due respect, the OP is a gentlemen of 65. I'm sure you didn't realize or simply made an error.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/17/2005 11:55:16 PM

BlkTallFullfig

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quote:

I didn't realize. Thanks for pointing it out. But everything I said remains the same.

Well not exactly babes, lol...
You said

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I know for a FACT that there are dommes on here who prefer younger subs. Maybe he just hasn't found them. Or maybe he HAS found them, and they don't want to pursue a relationship with him

Recognizing that he is 65, and in fact complaining about ladies rejecting him because he's older, and your suggesting that you in fact know there are dommes here who prefer younger men, doesn't follow when you're disagreeing. M

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/18/2005 1:13:02 AM

Lordandmaster

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I would be pretty amazed if there are no dommes who are looking for an older sub.

In any case, ASSUMING that there aren't any, and whining about it, isn't the way to find them.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/18/2005 2:33:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimsub

Let me rant here. I am a very intelligent, financially secure, good conversationalist sub (not like some of these bozos on this site) who is also honest and doesn't lie about his age. I have played around for years but now want to make it permanent with the right Mistress. I would even relocate (never very easy) for the right person. Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time? My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Hey Buddy. I guess I'll start off by asking you how much real effort have you put out to meet someone? Surely you didn't arrive with the understanding that you could just throw up a profile, and in a little over a week your dream Domme would just come knocking at the door?

Other than what you perceive to be a disadvantage {Your age}, I think you have some good selling points. I think you need hang out for a while and just be patient.

Hang in there and good luck!

- The Ranger

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