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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/23/2005 10:39:05 AM   
MissPriscilla


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Status: offline 		Hello slimsub!
I, as well as others, understand what you are conveying......
<prerequesite>I'm very up front and honest..........
Welcome to the human world.
And, I'm happy to make your acquaintance.

#1. It is very hard to find someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, aka Marriage/Permanent.
#2. You think it will be any easilier to add another factor, "kinky" ..............
#3. I wish you success in your quest.

<snickering> you are of age to know and understand that finding a 'mate'. is difficult. So..... you think if you go 'kinky' then your chances of finding a mate will be better????

Come on, slimsub............ grow up. "Kinky People" are and can be 'wierd-er' than 'normal' people.............

As for the age............. deny deny deny...(okay, that is another subject)
You are correct......... it is an elimination factor!
But, when one is on the "Internet", and the <little box states - AGE>
what do you do???? If you leave it blank, the software program will not process it and it keeps coming back up on your screen -- ADD AGE.............
ADD AGE
ADD AGE.............

I'm in a humorous mood, I only can imagine adding a smile to your face today, 'cause I'm sure I haven't helped in assisting you in finding a 'permanent Mistress' - except to chill-out, relax, be patient, be nice........... It will happen.

But, that is okay, because you have age and patience on your side.

I do really wish you success in yor endeavors.

Smiling,
Miss Priscilla

http://www.Miss-Priscilla.com




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ORIGINAL: slimsub

Let me rant here. I am a very intelligent, financially secure, good conversationalist sub (not like some of these bozos on this site) who is also honest and doesn't lie about his age. I have played around for years but now want to make it permanent with the right Mistress. I would even relocate (never very easy) for the right person. Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time? My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.
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Let me rant here. I am a very intelligent, financially secure, good conversationalist sub (not like some of these bozos on this site) who is also honest and doesn't lie about his age. I have played around for years but now want to make it permanent with the right Mistress. I would even relocate (never very easy) for the right person. Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time? My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/27/2005 5:53:38 AM   
MistressKay


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Status: offline 		I must say I was quite surprised by the responses. If someone voices a concern - then they are seen as complaining... if someone does not voice that concern then they never find the answers they seek - seems the sub in question is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't.

In answer to his "rant" which we are all entitled to do (thanks to freedom of speech) - there are older femDommes out there, but they are probably harder to find as women in your own age group don't tend to participate in communities and such. On a side thought perhaps it isn't that femDommes aren't interested in older submissives so much as you arn't interested in femDommes your own age? I don't have all the facts so can't even begin to make a guess but what I can suggest is the following...

Continue promoting your strengths for you have many of them!

Stop downplaying your years as if it's a bad thing - age isn't a bad thing and constantly promoting that you look younger than you are only implies that you are ashamed of your age. Every year you lived help make you who you are today - be proud because that self-confidence does effect how people see you.

Try approaching older FemDommes who will have more in common with you anyway - there really are some generation gaps that all the best intentions cannot easily overcome - a woman your own age can potentially understand you on a deeper level. There are many FemDommes in their late 50's who are quite active in local bdsm communities - that is certainly worth looking into.

The real problem with age differentials is our reference points - Someone who grew up in the 50's will have very different beliefs and experiences than someone who grew up in the 70's. Much has changed and the values that one generation grew up on changed in the next generation. Our past helps define who we are and it is certainly easier to communicate with someone with a similar education & intellectual level who understands where we have come from in life.

I know for myself I have no interest in younger submissives specifically for that reason - I need someone in my own age group (mid 40's) who can communicate with me with an ease of understanding that comes from sharing the same time references in life. I also find men in my own age group much more attractive to me and this could very well be genetic coding that keeps our species mated in similar age groups.

I realize it isn't easy to find a life partner - especially a femDomme for a potential life partner as that is a much smaller gene pool to fish from. You may actually have better luck dating vanilla and adding bdsm to that relationship (if she is open minded) than trying to find a femDomme. That is just one more option to consider.

Regardless of your path, I do wish you all the best

Lady Kay
Ottawa, ON Canada

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/27/2005 10:05:38 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: slimsub

Let me rant here. I am a very intelligent, financially secure, good conversationalist sub (not like some of these bozos on this site) who is also honest and doesn't lie about his age. I have played around for years but now want to make it permanent with the right Mistress. I would even relocate (never very easy) for the right person. Why am I judged because I arrived on this planet at a particular point in time? My looks, attitude, health, etc are much younger but I am judged because of a number. We have all met people who are much older in everything than their chronological age. Should I just get realistic and just give it up? Any thoughts would be appreciated.


Sorry to get to this thread so late.....

My immediate answer is that age preferences are just like all other preferences -- they are one of many things we consider about potential partners.

I think that age also can trigger limits based on family background and ethical matters. Few of us would be upset to see that someone limits their potential partners to those above 18 or 21, right?

So why have an older age limit? For me there are multiple reasons. I really don't find it erotic to think of being with someone whose the age of my parents or my brother/sisters (I'm much younger in my family) because of our how family worked. I also find that I want to have a lot of cultural similarities and that this works better with those close to my age or younger.

On my part, it isn't an attempt to insult anyone or to make anyone feel bad. It is an attempt to help me find the best potential partners. Online part of that assessment is age. In the local community, where I can see someone interact and get to know them hopefully before there's any kink interest, I can see myself saying 'age in this case doesn't matter cause I like you'.

< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 9/28/2005 1:54:33 PM >

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/28/2005 9:55:30 AM   
BOUNTYHUNTER


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Status: offline 		Maybe you should check that attitude at the door slim,there is someone for everyone it will happen for you keep the faith...THE BOUNTYHUNTER

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 7:41:16 AM   
prettyfellowme


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Status: offline 		Slimsub,

Your thread here just copied my profile to a tee. The only difference is, I may not be as financially secure as I'd like to be right now. I think that will change shortly. I have been getting rejected for the same reason on these sites for the last 4 years, and I'm 8 years younger than you. I'm about to give it up also.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 8:01:41 AM   
prettyfellowme


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

It's important because I'm 27, I have a hot young body, and skanky old men gross me out.
LOL, okay kool, but how do you feel about skanky young men? M

Thank you M. At last. If a sub male wrote that line you'd be on him like stink on shit, but since it's a domme female, it's cute.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 8:05:39 AM   
prettyfellowme


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressKay

I must say I was quite surprised by the responses. If someone voices a concern - then they are seen as complaining... if someone does not voice that concern then they never find the answers they seek - seems the sub in question is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't.

Mistress Kay, God I love you. You may be the best domme on the planet, but please be careful. You're just supposed to take the side of a sub.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 10:27:12 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I think you shpuld keep trying it is true for me age is just a number. Some women like older men my husband and my late master were both 22 years older them me. I never had any problems with age so keep trying.

littleone

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 10:29:36 AM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme


quote:

ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig

quote:

It's important because I'm 27, I have a hot young body, and skanky old men gross me out.
LOL, okay kool, but how do you feel about skanky young men? M

Thank you M. At last. If a sub male wrote that line you'd be on him like stink on shit, but since it's a domme female, it's cute.


I wonder how she feels about smarmy old men.

Akasha

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 10:58:31 AM   
lonewolf05


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age is a necessary evil to deal with. just like many other things in life everyone has to deal with sooner or later.

it's the nature of the beast.

nobody likes to admit to it.

just like polite folks dont admit they take a dump in the john or toot a fart,....but they know damned well they do anyway,.

have a good life and take care. best wishes to you.

wolf


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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/29/2005 3:27:06 PM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

I have been getting rejected for the same reason on these sites for the last 4 years, and I'm 8 years younger than you. I'm about to give it up also.


No offense meant prettyfellow, but if you're rejected lately, you might consider the negativity that is projected from your Journal entries, which are attached with your profile. You would probably find better responses, if your journal reflected at least something positive, fun, or non attacking to the Dommes you've had contact with so far. Some of your comments seem to be projected onto ALL Dommes, and that's not a good intro, as I see it.

I'm sorry your experiences are bad, but rejection may come from how your presenting yourself too. Your profile here, and the Journal entries can probably be considered as the 'first impression.' Is it a good one?

Things will get better, because from what you've been posting lately, I don't think they can get worse, right?

I've actually found that I meet more potential playmates, when I'm "not" actively looking for them.

K

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RE: Why is age so important? - 9/30/2005 7:00:16 PM   
MistressAkasha


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Status: offline 		Age.......? I could honestyly laugh. Certain people, which seems to be the majority of the population seem concerned about things of less importance, and these things happen to be issues that get in the way of finding one's trueness. I am a very very young Domina; I have been trained by some of the best in my perspective. Needless to say, it would be nice to have a handsome man at my feet, but I currently own a slave that is old enough to be my grandfather almost. He is genuine and knows his place; I cannot imagine a better slave or one to better serve me.

I have always been understanding, diverese, and true. While things like looks should not get in the way, they do. I have been told that this is human nature....but I'm a human "last I 'checked'", so why is it that I don't have this problem? **Slimsub, hold on......there's a wonderful domme out there somewhere.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/1/2005 1:47:47 PM   
slimsub


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Status: offline 		Mistress Kay, your advice was wonderful. I altered my profile to delete all references to my age. More good news; I may have found a wonderful Mistress. Am going to spend a week with her and see how it goes. Yes, I just needed to be patient. Everyone, thank you for your responses (positive and negative) but especially to those who were very supportive.

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/3/2005 8:34:31 PM   
tasha_tart


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Joined: 2/20/2004
From: Ontario, Canada
Status: offline 		Why should age be any less valid than other criteria when attempting to narrow the field?

If I read a Domme's profile, and She states "must be local" and I'm not, I move on.

If I read a profile that says "not interested in cross dressers," I move on.

If the profile says "must be between X and Y years of age," and I'm not, I move on.

Well-stated preferences in a Domme's profile tend to keep me from wasting my time and Hers if I don't come at least *this* close to fitting them. Of course, they probably don't serve their other purpose too well; I'm betting that inboxes still get filled with a lot of unwanted/unsuited replies.

If a preference is a "nice to have" rather than a "must have," then I can decide whether I come close enough to take a chance on replying.

Just my $0.02 worth.

tasha

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/6/2005 3:29:03 AM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		Perhaps there is too, that the older one gets the more likely it is most of them already have mates and subbies, so the ones as old as he w*ould like to meet are already taken

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/6/2005 9:23:36 AM   
submissiveleo


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Status: offline 		OK then to ALL

if you did not actually know your age how old would you be?

best post your actual and real age tooo

NO FIBBING

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/6/2005 9:47:32 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		Hunh? say wut?

<shakes her head, blinks, and reads again.

What's the question?

Texas Maam

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/6/2005 11:15:09 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I am going to take a wild guess and say we are being told to be honest about our ages in profiles. And I totally agree! There are several men that I know IRL on this site who wildly underreport their ages----and what good will that do them, when they are claiming to be under 50, but look like someone's granddad?

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/6/2005 6:47:32 PM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: submissiveleo
if you did not actually know your age how old would you be?

best post your actual and real age tooo



quote:

ORIGINAL: TexasMaam
Hunh? say wut?

<shakes her head, blinks, and reads again.

What's the question?


There's a concept of "real age" out there, that is based upon how healthy one is, and how well they live. Check out the website to test your "real age." The website address is the same, at dot com.

My "real age" is considerably lower than my chronilogical age, due to many lifestyle changes, and healthy habits. Check it out, it's quite interesting.

There is truth in being younger than your years.

K

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RE: Why is age so important? - 10/7/2005 7:18:43 AM   
Kindred2Evil


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Status: offline 		Age is a factor in just about any relationship I think. I prefer males who are closer to my age than older ones because I want someone who fits into my everyday life, not just my lifestyle. I don't want to answer questions like "Why does your dad spend so much time are your house? Oh, not your dad? Then who is he?" Maybe it comes across as being selfish or whatever, but it's the truth.
There's nothing wrong with being an older submissive or dominant at all, I've learned a lot from people who are older than me. It's just a personal choice.

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