LadyJeelys
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ORIGINAL: VampCristina
I did not post this to start a war. I merely wanted other dommes insite on this. I know very well how to deal with the situatio as I always ave( I ignore ) I know just what others issues are. And know how to deal with people of all walks of life. There is no need for anyone's animosity or attitudes as I am seeing respond to my post. I am moving on chat away!! Have a great weekend everyone. I rather gear my energy towards a positive state. Thank you for your comments.
If you're truly wanting insight...well, I don't see the problem. Why does it annoy you that some men are rude to some women? In the real world it happens everyday. Yet when it comes to IM's or emails, we can just hit delete.
Or, if we're of the mind, we yank their chains with, "Wow, Sir, you've shown me the error of my ways...I am truly submissive after all". Then sit back and mock when they go on and on and on (as seems to be the inevitable result.) I, no tbeing very nice, would be sorely tempted to set up a meeting and let him experience my teeth while I was on my knees before him. But them I'm a teeny bit sadistic. Sigh, guys are so vulnerable it's sweet.
Or, if you're feeling cranky, argue back--point out the stupidity.
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ORIGINAL: VampCristina
Thank you for hearing me out. I only mentioned it to hear other Dommes advice or intake on it. Is it a womans fault in any situation that she is picked on or abused. Simply for being a female or attractive, secure, confident , women. Why is it our fault? Female Dommes have the right to promote themselves as they wish. I did not post anything rude nor disrepectful on my profile or in here. I merely bought it up to see how other Females felt about this. I am not whining nor am I weak as some people have suggested.
You may not be weak (I personally think we're all weak--the whole human condition thing) yet, some of your posts seem, well, out of control. Which may be why folks are thinking weak.
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The letter from that Dom was addressed to my photo (which really was me) of my feet and legs.
Sorry, I can't pass up an oppurtunity to be smartmouthed.....did he really address your photo? Your photo has an address? Cause like that would be so vain.
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The Dom in question sent a very rude, nasty letter indicating what he would like to do with my feet and legs (I wont say).. He also has aproached me on other sites as well as several other Domme friends of mine from our state with the same rude letters.
Ok, so he's a troll. The reality is that many folks who are BDSMers aren't mentally stable. I suspect that just about all of us, Domme or sub, have encountered our fair share of wackies. Just as we encounter wackies in the grocery store or at the post office. Ok, so there is a really high percentage at the post office, but you get my point. When we create profiles, we are creating open invitations for us to be contacted--if we don't want to be contacted we shouldn't create the profile or only create those that create hidden identity.
And rude isn't rape, or assault or molestation. People who've been raped, assaulted or molested have endured more than a snippy or suggestive email that they didn't have to open to start with.
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In one way or another to call us fakes!
Oh the burden to be endured. Sniff, called a fake. I'm so hurt. I, I, I just don't know if I can go through my day..... Seriously, if being called a fake is the worst you get, do the happy dance. I've been called everything from Satan's seed, a heretic, snake handler, a b------, a whore and demon possessed----and that was all in church! (Just love my brothers and sisters :) ) Bottomline, though, thoses words were more about room to grow in the name callers than in me (though I have plenty of room to grow, just not in my jeans.)
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and we belong on the bottom as as his slave..I think he's out of line.
Well, certainly, such an ugly view of slaves is out of line. However, it seems you echoed that view in your first post.
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And yes I have ignored his letters and blocked him.
So what's the issue?
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Funny thing is I tried the bottom over 20 years ago while experimenting when I first was introduced to BDSM. I am not! interested I am a TOP by choice.. I am Dominant by nature.
Ok. But are you trying to justify yourself to strangers on a forum or for yourself. So what if someone doesn't think you're Dominant? If you and your guys see you as Domme, you are. You don't have to justify yourself to anyone.
And most folks in Ds relationships have tried the opposite end of the "exchange" at some point. Hopefully, it helps the Dominants understand the subs more and the subs understand the Dommes more.
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He hasent the right to treat all female Dommes like this. No man has the right to treat any woman like this..
Actually, until he breaks the law, he does have a right to response to posts and profiles.....just as we all do. We give that right when we create profiles that invite responses. And being Dommes does not mean that all men treat us the way our collared slaves treat us.
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€And yes I have been seeing this before on line. I am certainly not igorant. I am not a newbie
Again, you don't have to justify yourself.
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But after dealing with it over a long length of time one gets tired of it... Especialy when it is done ot a lot of people in the same area or state. This person has severe issues!! that he has to attack all Dommes at once.
Well, I'm Domme and he hasn't attacked me, whoever he is. And he may well have personal issues. In which case I'd avoid him.......but bottomline, just because he doesn't think women can be Domme is no skin off my nose.
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I merely addresed it to see what other Females felt about this. It is my right as a woman and a human to bring it up.
Yeah, you do, to an extent. You used the same "right" that he does---you used a privately held forum which is open to public use. Human rights, though, well, that just goes to show how "human" rights are being stretched and molded to cover just about anything and everything these days.
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If certain people have the need to present animosity it is their issue not mine. It is a free country we have the right to defend our honour or rights as people and women.
Sure, and again, the previous posted have the same "right" to respond. Of course, under those same "rights", people have the "right" to disagree with you.
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Say what you will at this point but people with insecurity issues always have to knock down others who are secure about themselves.
It is very easy or us to see any disagreement as insecurity in others. When we don't like something in someone, or just plain don't like someone we see their weaknesses as glaring character holes. Of course when folks agree with us, and mirror our own opinions and likes, suddenly those glaring holes are merely personality points.
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I have seen it all my life and since being in cyber land the past 6 years I see it even worst.
I'm going to guess you're a tad melodramatic in personality. No one has seen it all, and trust me on the internet you won't see the worst. The worst life has to offer are things like a parent suffering the death of a child, of someone being hung from a soccer post, beaten and left for dead, a 70 year old woman being burned to death by her own village, mass murder of an entire religious community, the human trafficking industry (which has more people living as true slave today than at any other point in history), having acid thrown in your face, etc. These are the kind of things that are the worst-----and hopefully, if you're like me, you've not seen them.
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Most people hide behind keyboards.
Most people hide, it's a reality.
I am here as I am in person being an Aries. I am straight up real and honest. I say what I feel . I dont fear defending myself to no one. I said what I said ,who ever doen'st agree it is your business.
That would sound like a strong statement of self.....exept folks who really are strong in self don't need to defend themselves.
So, you want insight from a Domme.....well, my insight is that being Domme doesn't inur us against self doubt, being in the "life" (off topic, I really hate that. I mean, I don't live a lifestyle. I just go about my life the way everyone else does) does not guarantee everyone will drop at my feet and give me the honor to which I have grown accustom. Yet, at the same time, as a Domme, from my point of view, we should be so aware of our own flaws (since we're correcting the "flaws" in our slaves), that we have patience with the flaws in others. So this guy is a jerk, pfft, I've been a jerk...ett? so many times in my life, I know exactly what that stone feels like. Unlike him, you, as Domme, have the ability to be in control---not only of yourself but your situation. In all those years in the "life" and all that time of experience, you've got the skills and self assurance that you can take back the power you've ceded to him. Flick him off like a bug, instead of letting him tick you off.
And one more piece of insight, so what if other Dommes disagree with you? Pffft, you'll get over it and so will they.
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