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ORIGINAL: SassySarijane

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ORIGINAL: adoracat

so is Daddy.  i dont call him evil bastard because he's cute, which he is.  *giggling*

kitten

*laughing* I love that type. Wonderfully sadistic with the sense of humor that so perfectly compliments it.

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
A real sub does not pick and choose when they can be sub. They just ARE.

Oh Please.

We are all human beings.  Being sentient means we have the ability to make a choice, not act on instinct alone.
There is no 'real' one true wayism, that is such an ancient and misguided lie.
 
And OG is far more polite than I am.
 
the.dark.

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RC&dc

love isnt gazing into each others eyes - it's looking forward in the same direction

(in reply to AcademyForSlaves)

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ORIGINAL: SassySarijane

*perk* Beatings???? I am sooo there

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves

You wrote that a submissive person is "equal" to the Domme/Dom until the sub wants and chooses to submit.

There are people who believe that to be sub is to be sub. Period. That they are never "equal". To believe you are equal to a higher authority seems to contradict with being an opposite to them. One is up, the other is down. One is dominant, the other is submissive. One is on top, the other is the bottom. One calls the shots, the other obeys. Etc.

Now that doesn't apply to being an equal human being on the planet who deserves human rights, respect, etc. Of course we are all equal in that regard. But we are talking here about a BDSM lifestyle.

A real sub does not pick and choose when they can be sub. They just ARE.

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A real sub does not pick and choose when they can be sub. They just ARE.

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Honestly? I find it more of a myth than a reality. Yes it does happen. Yes it can be bad but not always - but when it is used negatively by people making accusations it's because certain people enjoy having power and trying to gain authority of others relationships and telling them what their relationship is - including the infamous quote 'Sounds like topping from the bottom '. It is and has the effect of diminishing and degrading anothers relationship so as to gain their own hold.

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: AcademyForSlaves
A real sub does not pick and choose when they can be sub. They just ARE.

Oh Please.
We are all human beings.  Being sentient means we have the ability to make a choice, not act on instinct alone.
There is no 'real' one true wayism, that is such an ancient and misguided lie.
 
And OG is far more polite than I am.
 
the.dark.

Oh come on now the.dark., don't hold back, tell us how you really feel

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ORIGINAL: aftershox


Sounds to me like this might be TFAB ..Topping From a Busybody. LOL Or perhaps TFT Topping From a Troll.

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild

I'm taking the stance of the Devil's advocate here. After all that is said and done, BDSM is not the end all: be all. It is an enhancement to our lives, the icing on our cake, it does not replace the reality that we are in a relationship in the same manner as outr parents. The only bloody exception is the kink adds a different twist to what would normally be a common vanilla relationship.