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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:15:26 PM   
christine1


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:17:31 PM   
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And then, at 18, I finally told my therapist at the time that I was throwing up and had been for several years. He told my psychiatrist, and my psychiatrist told my mother, without my permission.


Okay, one more, then I swear I'm done with the fantasy world. The last I checked, and it could have changed, the age of majority in the state of New York is 19. Which means those people had every right to tell your parents what you were doing, without your permission. Otherwise (if in another state), file a lawsuit or shut up about it.

Whining about all the wrongs done to you in your life isn't helping you. And frankly, you might want to ask your doctor about delusions and psychosis, and whether you need treatment for that. I have a very hard time believing that so many "professionals" said so many things that would be cause for professional complaint at the very least.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:20:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am actually filing a complaint next time I see my therapist. My psych np doesn't return her alls. EVER. When I was in the hospital, my doctor there called her twice, she never returned her calls. My nutrition clinic has called her THREE times and she has not returned their calls, I called her twice myself saying I needed my meds increased b/c my anxiety level is so high and she never returned my calls. I just saw her like two weeks ago and she won't change or increase my medication even though I am on the lowest dose of both medications and they are not working.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:21:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		God Doll, thank goodness i dont live by you, all these practitioners are soo terrible, thank goodness though that you have them so that you dont have to take any responsibilty for yourself or else you would be in serious trouble

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:22:32 PM   
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We had talked online and on the phone and cammed for a long time before we met...


You didn't say any of that. Even still IMO your actions are stupid. Your excuses pathetic

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:24:19 PM   
Muttling


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I don't see where I have much in common with her...I mean, sure we were both abused...but thats about all. I was a straight A student...did very well in school...a perfectionist..............


This may be getting a little personal, but those traits are fairly common to self injurers as well as a few other personalities.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:27:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have actually had to take my mental health treatment into my own hands. My therapist didn't think my eating disorders was serious enough to be referred to an eating disorders clinic so I called the clinic MYSELF and gave them my info and they though my ed was very serious and made me be admitted into a hopsital, 250 miles away. I could have said no and just stopped going to the eating disorders clinic but *I* wanted to get better.

It is also my idea to be transfered back to the Day Treatment program b/c I don't feel my current clinic is helping me at all.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:28:26 PM   
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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:29:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		swtnsparkling, no this isnt a pile of horse shit. I had a therapist that would get very uncomfortable when I tried to talk about my sexual abuse when I was a child. He did refer me to a woman therapist to help me heal though. He would try to make a joke out of it too. And he was obsessed with my weight. My weight stemmed from the abuse I endured as a child. Now, being with my Master, I've finally gotten over my fear of someone else hurting me, my need to control my life, which was the only way I could survive as a child, thus my weight gain. I'm now starting to lose the weight, and I'm feeling damn good about myself now.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:29:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Venting makes me feel better. Talking things out...helps stop the racing thoughts...

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:31:59 PM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Ok, why dont you start a journal? or a blog? or something where you can vent

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:32:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dollparts85

I have actually had to take my mental health treatment into my own hands. It is also my idea to be transfered back to the Day Treatment program b/c I don't feel my current clinic is helping me at all.
 Okay I cut your quote in hopes that you will see this.You come across as surprised that you have to take your own health into your hands. That is precisely what you must do, continue to do, and do more aggressively. Change doctors if they are not helping you. Eventually you will either get a doctor that helps, or one will tell you that you need to step up to the plate and really help yourself. You are creating so much of your own misery and you don't have to do that. I think it has become such a habit of defense that you won't look at it. Hopefully you will. Stop using the words: but, can't, won't. Start using the words: okay, can, will.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:34:04 PM   
dollparts85


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swtnsparkling, no this isnt a pile of horse shit. I had a therapist that would get very uncomfortable when I tried to talk about my sexual abuse when I was a child. He did refer me to a woman therapist to help me heal though. He would try to make a joke out of it too. And he was obsessed with my weight. My weight stemmed from the abuse I endured as a child. Now, being with my Master, I've finally gotten over my fear of someone else hurting me, my need to control my life, which was the only way I could survive as a child, thus my weight gain. I'm now starting to lose the weight, and I'm feeling damn good about myself now.


One of my old therapists obsessed over my wegiht as well. She actually told me that she believed my depression and social phobia would get better if I lost weight and reccomended gastric bypass. LOL

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:35:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MstrDennynSlave

swtnsparkling, no this isnt a pile of horse shit. I had a therapist that would get very uncomfortable when I tried to talk about my sexual abuse when I was a child. He did refer me to a woman therapist to help me heal though. He would try to make a joke out of it too. And he was obsessed with my weight. My weight stemmed from the abuse I endured as a child. Now, being with my Master, I've finally gotten over my fear of someone else hurting me, my need to control my life, which was the only way I could survive as a child, thus my weight gain. I'm now starting to lose the weight, and I'm feeling damn good about myself now.


Im happy you found the solution for yourself .. congratulations .. Im sure it hasnt been easy and it is great you are on the road to recovery....... and I agree that not all therapists are able to deal with everything .. but I do have a hard time believing that a person can see such a large number of therapists and professionals and that every single one of them are incompetent.....

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:35:50 PM   
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Ok, why dont you start a journal? or a blog? or something where you can vent



Such ideas are helpful but the communication is one way.  If you don't like the thread, don't post.


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:36:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: camille65

quote:

ORIGINAL: dollparts85

I have actually had to take my mental health treatment into my own hands. It is also my idea to be transfered back to the Day Treatment program b/c I don't feel my current clinic is helping me at all.
 Okay I cut your quote in hopes that you will see this.You come across as surprised that you have to take your own health into your hands. That is precisely what you must do, continue to do, and do more aggressively. Change doctors if they are not helping you. Eventually you will either get a doctor that helps, or one will tell you that you need to step up to the plate and really help yourself. You are creating so much of your own misery and you don't have to do that. I think it has become such a habit of defense that you won't look at it. Hopefully you will. Stop using the words: but, can't, won't. Start using the words: okay, can, will.


I have asked several times to be changed from the psych np back to one of the psychiatrists and my clinic won't allow me. Even my nutritionist has told them I *need* to see a psychiatrist, not a np that won't even change my meds. But they won't let me. That is the main reason I am going back to Day Treatment b/c I will be able to see a psychiatrist there.

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:37:11 PM   
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Venting makes me feel better. Talking things out...helps stop the racing thoughts...


It seems you need to vent to an audience ... it is possible to vent in a journal etc ..

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:39:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

Ok, why dont you start a journal? or a blog? or something where you can vent



Such ideas are helpful but the communication is one way.  If you don't like the thread, don't post.




she didnt say she needed the response, i am trying to help, i know that journal writing is a very good way to vent, if its an online blog then it would also allow an audiance and it would be more appropriate than a BDSM site.


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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:39:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Muttling

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin
Ok, why dont you start a journal? or a blog? or something where you can vent

Such ideas are helpful but the communication is one way.  If you don't like the thread, don't post.


Frankly, Muttster, the communication here is one way as well. Has there been a single thread started by doll in which she has found SOMETHING useful in it to use? Every single one involves her telling us why she can't use the advice. At least in a blog she can agree with herself.

Edited to add:  Or she can add a sig line that says: Everything I say is just a vent, so be prepared that if you try to give me advice, I will come up with an excuse on why I can't use it. Caveat emptor.

Cali

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RE: I don't even *like* sex... - 3/8/2008 3:40:32 PM   
swtnsparkling


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Status: offline 		Well I'm glad you got help and are doing better. Your case wasn't horseshit. Yay
But I've been reading a lot of posts and frankly my gut says..................Horseshit

If I'm wrong so be it. Not like anything I say either neg or pos is going to help in any way.
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and live this out online

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