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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/14/2008 1:26:35 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Ahhh.  There is nothing  better than watching South Park clips after a scene with something to chew on.

Of course, ymmv.


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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/14/2008 1:31:38 PM   
subtee


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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/14/2008 1:48:16 PM   
kend70


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Status: offline 		lol, what an intersting question... how to find what your looking for, sounds easy enough, but it tests your discipline!!!

Be honest, but not gullable.  Be paitent, not prudish.  Sometimes in telling another what your looking for, and looking for some detail in the profiles, you can find what your looking for.  So if your shy, put stuff in your profile, and admit it.  I think that basic honesty is appealing, yet... for the subbies out there... remember your value and don't settle!!!  Even a blind squirl can find an acron :)

Just be you or (Y/you) or You, smiles. 

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 4:06:18 AM   
Sageandaslave


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ORIGINAL: Bound2One

I couldn't agree more and have posted the same advice to those who come on the boards to complain about the quality of mail they're receiving, but some have said they find it too aggressive or forward for them to do.  ::shrug::  All I know is it worked for me...


I worked for you,  because it worked for me, Im smiling here my love!

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 4:14:51 AM   
MD1Master


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Status: offline 		What a great piece of advice for the beginning of this post.  It is always best to be positive no matter what you are doing in life.  Why spend time communicating with persons who are negative or maltreat individuals.  Personally, I find nothing wrong with a submissive contacting a Dom and initiating contact.  That could actually be considered true submission.

I applaude the positive council provided.  It is very nice to read.

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 6:32:52 AM   
MontrealPhoenix


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Status: offline 		Personally, i've never been very good at waiting around for something i want to come to me.  I've been active in my search for a dom, reading profiles (some of which are greatly amusing) and sending messages.
 
I also like reading messages from people here on CM, even those from men who aren't what i'm looking for. It's a great way to make friends. Therefore i won't be making my profile invisible any time soon, i just ignore the messages from the fakes or send a scathing reply depending on my stress levels at the time.
 
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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 9:10:34 AM   
missmarie70


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Status: offline 		Funny, I did just what the original poster suggested right before finding this thread. I think it is because I am so busy in my offline life right now, but I found the onslaught of messages from people who clearly had not read my profile, or were one-liners from people with hardly anything in their profile, totally stressful and off-putting. (Specifically, I found myself getting freaked out by the increasingly belligerent one-liners sent within minutes of each other, demanding to know WHY I haven't responded. Dude. Just because you know how to operate the Send button does not make you my dom.)

Thing is, I know this is my problem, because it's not like words on a computer screen can hurt me, and I was choosing to get freaked out by it rather than deleting and moving on. So I figure I'll step back and do this on my own time and look for people who interest me. If someone is going to be put off that I contacted him first, we're wrong for each other anyway. (As MontrealPheonix says, I'm terrible at waiting for good things to come to me rather than going out and getting what I want anyway.)

God. I am blathering and I'm sorry. I just am glad that I found this thread when I did. I was, in fact, needlessly stressing out about something that's supposed to be fun, so finding some like-minded folks was comforting.

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 9:37:10 AM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

...Make your profile invisible...



If you're female, setting your age to 99 essentially accomplishes the same thing.

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 9:42:53 AM   
Maya2001


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Status: offline 		If the emails are causing you to feel upset and stressed out maybe it is a sign  that you are feeling too desperate in your search and that you should instead acknowledge those feelings and take a time out from your search for a dom  as it is the worse possible time to be doing a search as you will more than likely make serious judgement errors as a result and you will more likely become prey to the ones that know how to sweet talk  and BS their way, once they have you sangged on the hook the real fun begins but being desperate  you won't recognize the signs and into order to keep the sweet talker you will likely lose all common sense and be back here crying the blues at how horribly you were treated and telling us of the terrible things they made you do.   

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 9:45:12 AM   
Lordandmaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

Be polite, include two clear photos of yourself, inform him of the information he can't see on your profile (your age, weight, approximate location) and tell him about yourself, your expectations, hobbies, interests.

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 12:15:12 PM   
Bound2One


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ORIGINAL: missmarie70
God. I am blathering and I'm sorry. I just am glad that I found this thread when I did. I was, in fact, needlessly stressing out about something that's supposed to be fun, so finding some like-minded folks was comforting.


I'm smiling at your blathering.    I'm glad you're taking a deep breath and trying to enjoy! 

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 1:44:05 PM   
blueeyes2001


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Misstoyou


quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

...Make your profile invisible...



If you're female, setting your age to 99 essentially accomplishes the same thing.



which is a very sad statement for the older female submissives on the list here

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 2:03:13 PM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		I would say good luck by relying upon the profiles out here.

I haven't noticed people openly discussing their unemployment, spouse, weight or living at home....Good luck to you all.....May you all be horribly taken advantage of.

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 4:13:23 PM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: blueeyes2001

quote:

ORIGINAL: Misstoyou


quote:

ORIGINAL: Stephann

...Make your profile invisible...



If you're female, setting your age to 99 essentially accomplishes the same thing.



which is a very sad statement for the older female submissives on the list here



Not only for female submissives. (I'm a Domme.) Just a fact of life overall for both males and females, I would guess, though there are notable exceptions...

Edited just because.

< Message edited by Misstoyou -- 3/15/2008 4:14:06 PM >

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 7:20:23 PM   
Redoubt


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Status: offline 		Good post Stephan 

I would like to agree with the poster who said making yourself invisible removes the chance of meeting someone who really is ideal for you... if you're looking for an "easy button" that will summon your perfect mate to you good luck... however with just a little work you can easily weed through the chaff and find men who may meet your selective criteria.

I'd also add - "put on your profile what you are looking for and what you don't want" - that way you don't waste the time of anyone who is more interested in getting to know you than "getting to know you". (and Kudos to those who already do)

Yeah - I know a lot of the HNGs don't see that or think they can convert you... trouble is, they'll mail you anyway... might as well not irritate any of the genuine seekers out there.

Unless of course courtesy is less important than convenience to you.

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/15/2008 7:28:41 PM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		post nudes of yourself and put only this one liner in your profile: lets make babies!

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/16/2008 3:38:40 AM   
DaddyDeerest


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Status: offline 		Yes, very good thread. I wish I had read this many months ago! 
When I first joined, I wrote my profile and waited in vain for the responses to never roll in. Then I slowly began To find my voice. And like you say, the women here definitely notice and like and appreciate and remember a man who posts to threads and who is real and consistent. Lately I've been getting a few letters. No dates yet, but I am a very patient man. After all, I am only seeking that one woman.

P.S. if anyone has any constructive advice for my profile, or anything, I'd appreciate it.        I'm loving here btw.  


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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/16/2008 3:46:04 AM   
blissy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

post nudes of yourself and put only this one liner in your profile: lets make babies!



thats so funny....

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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/16/2008 11:32:11 AM   
LadyHathor


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Status: offline 		I assume you meant this for female submissives?  I take exception that you seem to be speaking for all females, Dominas included.---
 


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RE: For women: how to find a man here - 3/16/2008 11:38:42 AM   
Real_Trouble


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ORIGINAL: Redoubt
I would like to agree with the poster who said making yourself invisible removes the chance of meeting someone who really is ideal for you...


Thank you. 

Perhaps unsurprisingly, there is something you said I think is quite valuable as well...

quote:

ORIGINAL: Redoubt
I'd also add - "put on your profile what you are looking for and what you don't want" - that way you don't waste the time of anyone who is more interested in getting to know you than "getting to know you". (and Kudos to those who already do)


I can state, with extreme confidence, that the odds of my contacting or responding (with anything more than "No", that is) to anyone with a profile that doesn't give me some idea of who they are or what they want is vanishingly small.  Perhaps not zero, but very small.  I suspect this is the case for most people who are interested in anything more than just finding someone they think is physically attractive; if you're not simply looking at pictures, what is the other part of the profile, after all?

People who are able to articulate what they want and who spare me the whole "oh my God I know dumb guys/girls will contact me anyways but don't contact me if you are a dumb guy/girls" act (Why fucking bother?  You know idiots don't listen, and if you are taking the brief space in a profile to primarily complain to me about idiots, which tells me that is the most important thing you think you have to communicate or that you haven't thought about what the purpose of your profile is, what does that tell me about you as a person?) definitely score major points in my book.  The quote above is some extremely sound advice if you are looking for anything more than someone eyeballing your photos.


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