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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:08:53 PM   
IronBear


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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

let me add to the original post. She told me she was interested in a long term relationship with me.


If she askes you to insure your life in her favour, head for them thar hill lickety split

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:14:28 PM   
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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

let me add to the original post. She told me she was interested in a long term relationship with me.


That doesn't change anything. Hustlers will tell you what you want to hear or need to hear. Don't be desperate. No one says they want a long term relationship that soon. Don't be gullible. Maybe you want it so bad it's clouding your judgment.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:18:32 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Well, she's not nice. Learn from this experience. Like others have said, don't be in such a hurry. A ltr is not made in one day, you need to grow it.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:23:32 PM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		well from my own past experience (cost me a LOT more than $200)... sometimes we have such a need to serve that we feel it IS serving on some level...


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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:50:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Anyone got any popcorn? I'm pulling up my chair for this one.


Damn, am I missing a fun one?

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:54:11 PM   
OscarHargraves


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Status: offline 		Are you really that niave? I would suggest that you put her name out to all places and all people and warn them so they don't get caught like you did. If there's a local 'scene' in your area you might pass this info to them too........

Other than that, lick your wounds, count your blessings (it could have been mucxh worse) and go on with your life.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:54:49 PM   
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Damn, am I missing a fun one?


LOL John, I think it's just getting started.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:55:17 PM   
perfection20005


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Status: offline 		You just have some rotten luck. Just don't pay for anything when you meet someone for the first or second time again. Learn from your past mistakes.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 6:56:05 PM   
obis


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Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?


No to both, but the big "sucker" written in big blinking lights on your forehead is a problem. You are an easy mark, and more amazingly this has been done to you before, yet you fell for it again. But you're not alone. It's a truth that usually hustlers and con men make extra money by just contacting the same people they've ALREADY taken for a ride. They come up with a new angle ("We'll help you recover the money you lost, just need a $200 processing fee...") and it works MOST of the time.

This will continue to happen to YOU, and you will continue to be taken for rides until you learn to say no. How hard is it to say no? How hard is it to say "Gosh, that's a lot of money, and I don't really know you. Why would I give you so much money?" Loaning somebody $50 is a friendly thing to do -- loaning somebody $500 is a business transaction, no matter what your relationship is. If they're not willing to sign a promissory note, they must not need the money that badly.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 7:00:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme
Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?


My Mistress wants to know where were you when She needed stuff?

(No, not all Dommes anywhere are like that.)

sudja

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 7:18:22 PM   
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Lets all stand up and say the “N” word.

Its “N" for niet (Russian for no but the spelling may be goofy)
&
“O” for ouch.

All together now ….

NO


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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 7:22:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just pray she doesn't sneak your checking account number. She might be snooping through your wallet,if you've had clothing off long enough for her to get access to it, and not even know it. You might want to change your checking account number, bad feeling here.

Sounds like a user/money domme/buy me stuff type of person. If this is what she's expecting, it will only get worse. Nobody needs a dominant like that. That's not being a domme, that's using someone else. After you deny her access to your account, chances are she'll drop you like a hot potato. Run very very far away from her and fast.

There are still some decient dominants out there. Keep looking.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 7:24:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm always amazed at how defensive the dommes get when a male submissive posts about being taken advantage of by someone. If it was a female submissive who posted, there would be no shortage of real advice without the sarcasm and negative "are you a dumb ass" comments.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 7:28:58 PM   
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Sounds like a user/money domme/buy me stuff type of person. If this is what she's expecting, it will only get worse. Nobody needs a dominant like that. That's not being a domme, that's using someone else. After you deny her access to your account, chances are she'll drop you like a hot potato. Run very very far away from her and fast.


Very sound advice!

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 7:37:43 PM   
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I'm always amazed at how defensive the dommes get when a male submissive posts about being taken advantage of by someone. If it was a female submissive who posted, there would be no shortage of real advice without the sarcasm and negative "are you a dumb ass" comments.



The defensiveness comes from statements of the "all dommes are like this" nature. Just like all doms aren't just out for sex, not all dommes are out for money.

No matter the gender....there is responsibility on both sides when something like this happens. You have to look out for yourself in this life, and use solid common sense to do so.


< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 9/28/2005 7:39:19 PM >

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 8:06:19 PM   
DrkAngl


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ORIGINAL: Tristan
Very sound advice!


Thank you.

My late husband was like that and messed things up for me majorly, among other things. It was a vanilla relationship too. This post set off all those little warning bells to me. Always good to check up on ones account numbers. And if I'm not mistaken, you can now get a free credit report once a year thanks to the govt. law passed. Wouldn't hurt to do that either.


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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 8:47:23 PM   
NakedOnMyChain


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Status: offline 		Groan. In my opinion, it's never a good idea to "loan" or even give people money, unless you know them pretty well. You may think that you knew her well, but a few weeks hardly qualifies. You should get to know people better before you are so utterly generous with them. Unfortunately many people will see your generosity as a sign to take you for all you're worth.

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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 9:03:27 PM   
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I'm always amazed at how defensive the dommes get when a male submissive posts about being taken advantage of by someone. If it was a female submissive who posted, there would be no shortage of real advice without the sarcasm and negative "are you a dumb ass" comments.


No, I think they'd still be getting the "are you a dumbass?" comments. Stupid doesn't have a gender preference.

Denise
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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 9:05:25 PM   
MistressKay


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Status: offline 		hello prettyfellowme,

There are a couple of things to keep in mind here -

#1 - a FemDomme who is interested in YOU and not your money will not ask for any. In my book Domination starts with self-discipline and being able to care for oneself. There is nothing wrong with a Domme who is struggling financially (for we all do at some point in our lifetime) but one who will ask for money or tell you a financial "woe is me" story up front should set your alarms going off quickly. I would question her ability to dominate if she is asking for handouts.

#2 - twice in 2 months????? yes - you are nuts. Don't downplay the importance of your submission by confusing submission with financial support. You are asking for trouble if you do.

My advice to you is to keep things on equal footing in the beginning - buying her dinner is one thing - giving her cash is another - buying her expensive fetwear is a big NO NO in the first few weeks. If you have to buy her something - bring her a single flower - keep it simple and inexpensive. If she is the right one you will have lots of time later to lavish her in expensive fetwear if that is what you desire. In the beginning it should be about learning each other and finding out if the chemistry and other necessary elements are there to even contemplate exploration.

Take your time darling - not all femDommes are after your wallet - but if you keep offering handouts, don't be offended if they take them and run.

Be patient and take more care in your pre-screening of your potential Domme. Although there are some wonderful FemDommes out there, there will always be those looking to be rescued (financially or otherwise). Find a strong healthy independant Domme who doesn't need your money and you will find a woman in control of her life ready to take control of yours.

Wishing you all the best,

Lady Kay
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RE: typical domme? - 9/28/2005 9:25:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: prettyfellowme

here is a tale that's true. It happened today in fact.

I met a domme on this site a few weeks ago. We talked and arranged to meet last Friday. Two days before the meeting she told me she was having trouble making her rent, so I offerd to help. I gave her $200 toward her rent. After lunch we went to a fetish store. She found a collar there she liked and told them to hold it for her. It was roughly $60. She saw a leather dress that was $175 and said she'd love to have it. I told her to have them hold that, and I would buy it for her this weekend. After I left her (she stayed at the store), I went home. When I got home, she informed me that she took the dress home with a promise to pay for it this week. I called the store personally on Monday, and they told me that paying them Saturday when I planned on seeing her again was no problem. Yesterday she told me that she called the store and they told her it had to be paid today.

Today she called me on the way back from the fetish store from her car, and said she just left. She said she gave them a check that she can't cover, so I had to have the money to her on Saturday.

She knew from our first conversation that I am seeking a LTR 24/7 relationship with a domme. She's 17 years my junior. In passing today she mentioned to me that she's decided to take a clerk at the store as her sex sub, and when could I be there Saturday, or wire her the money for both the dress and the collar. Believe it or not folks, this is the second time in less than two months that a domme has tried to hustle me. Am I nuts, or are all dommes here like this?


No, not all dommes here are like that. You made the decision to give money to her and buy things for a person you barely knew. Perhaps you need to rethink your judgement in matters like this.

Be well,
Julie

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