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RE: Hurt - 10/10/2005 12:38:04 PM

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Caution is a great way to approach things just try not to let it cloud over what or who may be wonderful in you life and right under your nose.

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RE: Hurt - 10/10/2005 7:33:52 PM

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A friend went through harassment like you describe. Turns out in our state the police are able to charge someone with disorderly conduct via phone. The threat of that might be enough to stop the phone calls.

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RE: Hurt - 10/11/2005 7:25:42 AM

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i too like abuse and hurt and edgeplay, physical not emotional. no i did not have his address (why should i have it, he lived 300 miles away); and yes i had a cell #, a local number so 'his children wouldn't have to call long distance'. Again, i very much appreciate all the words here. Yes, time will heal this too. i would prefer to be alone for the rest of my life than to ever be 'taken' like this again.

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RE: Hurt - 10/11/2005 7:32:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: angelic

i too like abuse and hurt and edgeplay, physical not emotional. no i did not have his address (why should i have it, he lived 300 miles away); and yes i had a cell #, a local number so 'his children wouldn't have to call long distance'. Again, i very much appreciate all the words here. Yes, time will heal this too. i would prefer to be alone for the rest of my life than to ever be 'taken' like this again.

Hello My Dear,
From the first post you'd written where you’d said he constantly told you you were just a piece of meat and a pig. I'd like to say if anyone was oinking around the barnyard it would be Him. What a liar and PIG he was.
Now's your chance to find a Master who will take good care of you instead of being taken advantage of like that loser.
Be picky and find the Dom you deserve Hon. God will deal with that loser on his judgment day for the pain he caused you. Now it's time to throw off all the psychological rubble he's left you with and really shine.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne

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RE: Hurt - 10/23/2005 8:42:45 PM

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hey gurl
I don`t know much about your situation and what kind of
harassment you are going through, but a restraining order
might not mean much at the moment to you, but it does show, that you are not alone
and not afraid to take action, it`s ok, if you are bluffing.
Well, you know the man, so if your gutt feeling tells you, this is going to
go on for month to come, unless you dig the abuse,
it is well worth it, to file a paper or two and get the ' Show" on the road, like they say, here in hollywood, cause time is the esscence of life, close the bar aND go open a restaurant. Perhaps roleplay and be your own master or get yourself a little doggie
from the pound
Peace
Ziggy

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RE: Hurt - 10/23/2005 9:24:37 PM

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and yes i had a cell #, a local number so 'his children wouldn't have to call long distance'

Are these his biological children that would/ should be entitled to support?

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RE: Hurt - 10/23/2005 9:49:11 PM

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thank you all... i will survive... i'd survive quicker if the two of them like fell in an open sewer hole.

Amen. sister...now i'm seeing some anger going toward the one who deserves it! You have a right to be angry with them both, but especially him...And it's normal to feel like somehow you did something wrong, or somehow missed something...whatever, blah, blah, blah...You are not responsible for his bad behavior...plain, simple and true.

Well, i'm posting this after 4 pages of posts are already up...i certainly hope you've come to this conclusion already on your own...But just thought i'd add my thoughts to the pot. Take care of you,

gw/aB

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RE: Hurt - 10/24/2005 5:12:13 AM

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Your not stupid and you didn't deserve this...fact is, some people are azzholes and sometimes its hard to see that until you have developed feelings for them. i know its hard, but you have to chalk it up to experience and move on. There are decent people out there, it just takes time to find them. Just don't beat youself up over it. i have worn that "stupid" sign on my forehead many times before too.

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First off, I am not looking for sympathy. I truly hope that in writing it down and yes maybe getting feedback (call me a stupid f*** if you want), I can break the numbness. I am going to just give the highlights because I would be here for days typing about a 4-year relationship. Here goes: I have had a ‘Master’ for the past 4 years… not 24/7 but r/l. He lived 300 miles away. He called me 3 or 4 times a day, everyday. Every couple of weeks he would drive into town to see his children and me. A couple of times he even came into town just to see me. He told me he loved me and i believed him. For a long time I had a ‘gut’ feeling that something just wasn’t right. Every time I verbalized it to him he would tell me I was just being insecure, which indeed I was. Well, the feeling that something wasn’t right kept getting stronger. I had given this man 4 years of me. All of me… my heart… my soul… all of it, my life. One week ago today, I found out that for the past 4 years that 300 miles was actually only 2 miles. That he was living with the mother of his children (no he is not their ‘birth’ father) and living 2 miles from me. Well, it has been the week from hell. Two nights ago ‘she’ called me. This was after he had tried calling me 4 times and I wouldn’t answer the phone, then he tried calling me from a payphone. Anyway, she proceeded to tell me that they were buying a house together… no they weren’t married… I listened to this woman ramble for 2 hours. (Yes, I do think I have STUPID written across my forehead). I have literally crawled inside myself… I must have deserved this treatment but I can’t for the life of me figure out why. Maybe if I knew the ‘why’ to it, I could figure out a way to want to do more than stay indoors with the world locked out. I know there are tons of holes here, I just don't do this very well. Thank you for letting me vent.

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RE: Hurt - 10/24/2005 10:26:48 AM

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As one who was also jerked around in a long distance relationship, you have my sympathy.

It can happen to anyone.

Here is a quote that made makes me feel much better when I get taken advantage of.

I am not a real fan of the man who said it, but I think the fact that someone like him would say such a thing shows that it isn't about you or me, it can happen to anyone.

The quote:

"I've been duped... I've been duped many times. Everyone's duped. You've been duped also."
-Donald Trump

Hope that helps.

Wolf

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RE: Hurt - 10/28/2005 10:27:26 AM

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when submission is used or taken for granted or not appericated or we are lied to. it takes away from who we are at our best. i have had this happen more then once but i tell my self maybe someone will get a clue as to what it is to reallyl ove and be with someone who is speacil and really knows the meaning of being with someone on a lot of levels
not just a tourest. not the swingers or other sexual preditors who its all about their gratifications. but a real person that knows the workings of love and understands it takes work and responsiblity. anyone who cheapens or makes less of this wonderful thing does not diserve to have love or be with anyone. i have become more picky and more brazen because of the bad people in lifestyle. i know look at a persons charector before i say i want to see you or bewith you cause better damn well be worth my time no more will i fall into the prey of preditory sexual disalussion of someones fantasy. i want reality of responsiblty and accountablity your either a true dom or domme or sub other wise your just a tourest looking for a sexual thrill at someone elses exspense. I intend have been fighting back through educating people about all the parts of the human condition
mental ,physical and spiritual while a conman might always seem good they always drop the ball at one points always look past present and future know the whole peson make them responsible. see if they can be thats a true factor

huggles you keep you chin up brighter days ahead never let anyone take your smile :)
latexbaby :)

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RE: Hurt - 10/28/2005 10:46:39 AM

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angelic,
I am truly sorry that you have to go through this. The only advice i can offer is this. Learn from this mistake. We are human we all make mistakes, but its your responsiblity to learn from this one. Do not beat yourself up because you made a mistake. Empower yourself so that the next time you meet someone, you are a stronger person. Make sure to get someones home address and phone number and verify it. If someone can only call you from a cell phone or pay phone, be wary. But in that same note, do not shut yourself off from the possiblity of finding someone. Just be a bit smarter about it. In the end this man's karma will get him in some way. Cut him off, say goodbye, and start to move on with your life. I wish you luck.

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RE: Hurt - 10/28/2005 3:27:05 PM

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hi angelic

i have read the thread and like all others pass on my empathy, its a very difficult place to be and to heal from.

there are two things i would like to say......

one is how brave it was for you to vent, to pour out your heart, to folk you had no idea how they would respond

secondly what strength that shows us of your character

i know this will hurt for a while to come, but you are a very strong lady and courageous with it. At these times, you can only reassess, learn, grow wiser and move forward day by day.

hugs to you

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RE: Hurt - 10/31/2005 6:27:18 AM

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This is the ongoing "tragedy" of D/s BDSM relationships where honesty should be enphasized, but isn't. Oh, it's paid lipservice, but that's about all. Things weren't perfect in the past, but it does seem that the onset of the internet has only made things worse. I know quite a number of Doms and subs who are, to one degree or another, cheating on their partners.

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RE: Hurt - 11/3/2005 2:04:04 PM

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Your a beautiful woman.....do not beat yourself over it...he was a lieing sack of crap and a not a Master/Dom but a predetor who needs his wee wee cut off.Keep your head up and Blessed be :)

bella
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RE: Hurt - 11/3/2005 4:59:08 PM

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i haven't been on the boards for several days but wanted to again express my gratitude for all the kind words and e-mails i have received and the offers of friendship. It has done my heart good. It has been 6 weeks and i am getting better every day. i WILL survive. Thank Yyou Aall once again.

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RE: Hurt - 3/21/2006 2:55:44 PM

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it`s 4 years of your life...with goods and bads...with happiness and sorrows...you learned a lot, you know yourself better now...you can look at it this way: what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger...you have the power to get over...you`ll never forget but the next One who will want to earn your trust will have a hard time...good luck for you and i wish you all the best, you deserve a good life

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RE: Hurt - 3/21/2006 3:50:32 PM

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I want to thank Cristalin for reviving this thread because it's one i missed while i was away from the baords. Angelic i'm so sorry you had to go through this. He was a real jerk. I hope it is all behind you now and they are leaving you alone. I think you have handled it well.

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RE: Hurt - 3/21/2006 4:10:03 PM

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I want to thank Cristalin for reviving this thread

Now there's a positve way of putting it. I was once informed it was "illegal" to post on "dead" threads and the practise was characterized to me as "bumping." Frankly, I like posters with a sense of history or one's who investigage what's transpired before.

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RE: Hurt - 3/22/2006 7:03:12 AM

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Wow.. i was surprised when i saw this thread back. Cristalin: thank you...
Proud: thank you...i'm doing much better... thank you :)

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RE: Hurt - 3/22/2006 7:31:34 AM

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Well I guess my Sir followed your Sir's example. My Sir told me we needed some time to reflect so he sent me home to spend time with family.He called me daily and told me how much he loved me and how proud he was to have me. Well after about 4 days he just stops calling or talking to me. When I do finaly talk to him he says he needs space for now but we will still talk.That lasted for 2 days. Well then i find out he has a girl staying with him recently and he is telling he wants to remain friends and how maybe in the future we will try again. Hell maybe he has to get out and party but I hate not knowing what this will lead to so now i am "friends" with my ex Sir and trying to let him decide what he wants.

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