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RE: Hurt - 3/22/2006 7:57:15 AM

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Well I guess my Sir followed your Sir's example. My Sir told me we needed some time to reflect so he sent me home to spend time with family.He called me daily and told me how much he loved me and how proud he was to have me. Well after about 4 days he just stops calling or talking to me. When I do finaly talk to him he says he needs space for now but we will still talk.That lasted for 2 days. Well then i find out he has a girl staying with him recently and he is telling he wants to remain friends and how maybe in the future we will try again. Hell maybe he has to get out and party but I hate not knowing what this will lead to so now i am "friends" with my ex Sir and trying to let him decide what he wants.

i am sorry that you are going through this. Although it doesn't feel like it now, each day DOES get better. That said, it in no way diminishes your pain and hurt. Personally, i literally stayed behind closed doors for about a month, i only ventured down to the local "corner" store. If i HAD to go into town, i literally drove up and down the parking lot to make sure he wasn't there.

Again, belladonna, i'm very sorry you are going through this.

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RE: Hurt - 3/22/2006 10:26:50 AM

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in the first place angelic you DO deserve sympathy in the second being taken in by a gamer is HARDLY your fault. unfortunately the net has made it MUCH too easy for assholes to prey upon good girls. im afraid your not the first or the last to find yourself in a similar situation and all i can tell you is that as a Dom for over 20 yrs id love to get my hands on this prick and de-prick him
again hun am so sorry you had to go thru this
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RE: Hurt - 3/22/2006 11:20:20 AM

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awww. I understand about it being a matter of laughing or being destructive. I've laughed about things that were not funny but to me it was it's my situation laughing is better than crying and it's certaintly better than being destructive.

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thank you. While i was busy 'waiting' for him and yes... (gawd i'm a stupid idiot) giving him $ he was giving her a 'rock' engagement ring. LOL (ok so not funny but if i don't laugh, i may commit a heinous crime).

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 11:55:35 AM

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First of all, I'm new here and not sure how all this works, so please forgive my ignorance.

I want to thank ALL of you for your wisdom and caring. After 7 years with a "man" who introduced me to the Lifestyle, he sent me an email to end our relationship. He mentioned NOTHING of our D/s bond just the vanilla stuff. His feelings for me had "changed" and he has been seeing someone else. I knew EVERYTHING about him...I have been to his house, where he works, golfed with his brother...so sometimes they are just liars.

I am devastated and disappointed. I truly don't know if I will ever call another Master but I do know that reading all this has helped me tremendously. A couple encouraged me to visit here and I'm so glad I did. I will agree with something in Angelic's first post...I too want to know "Why?". Perhaps it's not healthy and I know it would be his why, but I still ache to know.

Thank you to anyone who reads, listens or responds....most of all thank you to all who cared and posted.

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:08:58 PM

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First of all, I'm new here and not sure how all this works, so please forgive my ignorance.

I want to thank ALL of you for your wisdom and caring. After 7 years with a "man" who introduced me to the Lifestyle, he sent me an email to end our relationship. He mentioned NOTHING of our D/s bond just the vanilla stuff. His feelings for me had "changed" and he has been seeing someone else. I knew EVERYTHING about him...I have been to his house, where he works, golfed with his brother...so sometimes they are just liars.

I am devastated and disappointed. I truly don't know if I will ever call another Master but I do know that reading all this has helped me tremendously. A couple encouraged me to visit here and I'm so glad I did. I will agree with something in Angelic's first post...I too want to know "Why?". Perhaps it's not healthy and I know it would be his why, but I still ache to know.

Thank you to anyone who reads, listens or responds....most of all thank you to all who cared and posted.

This is truly one of the best forums on the net, whisper (imo)... i wish there was a 'magic' word to make it all ok for you, but you know there isn't. i am still trying to heal from it myself. What i am now working on is accepting that i may never find my One...

i myself have a need to serve... so i do it in other ways, i.e. be it 'nilla... i help an elderly person grab something off the top shelve at the store, i offer to carry packages. i feed my need to serve in other ways... it's certainly not a 'cure all', but it gives me a feeling of worth, where he left me feeling worthless.

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:13:01 PM

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btw... sometimes there is no 'why'... sometimes it just is.

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:17:57 PM

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I am devastated and disappointed. I truly don't know if I will ever call another Master but I do know that reading all this has helped me tremendously.

Sometimes there is no answer to "why". And sometimes it truly is centered in the other person and his dysfunction. An email after 7 years is nothing but cowardly and immature, in my opinion. I don't think you should give this man such power in your life as to say that wonder if you'll ever call another Master. Now is the time to shore yourself up and work on you.

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:25:20 PM

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katy, she already gave him that power... he abused it (yes i said abused)...

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:32:28 PM

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Oh dear I deeply sorry that ass did this to you! and for the love of god
stop saying your stupid your not at all! This can and has happen
so many times i had a friend many years ago she lived her
life for this one man he was in the navy! he would vivist her
every weekend come to find out he was married and had no real ideal to
marry her! She went from being whole to drinking! I am tellig you this
because You will not let anything like this happen to you!!!!!!!
Stay away from him! I love someone once deeply and he was
my nightmare i gave all of me to him and well he left and i never saw him
again i beg and pleaded. You did nothing wrong he is a fool an animal
and when someone can do this to another person they are not
worth the time of day, oh yes she is a fool this woman who
thinks she has the King of men. You will be okay knowing he
is nothing will help. When you felt those feelings you could not
do anything because you had no thing to point to. I grew stronger
and so will you, i think you did not mention children i am glad!
This would had kept you tie to him forever. That dog will have it come
around to him. What goes around comes around remember this, please

take care
mons~

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:41:22 PM

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angelic

Oh dear I deeply sorry that ass did this to you! and for the love of god
stop saying your stupid your not at all! This can and has happen
so many times i had a friend many years ago she lived her
life for this one man he was in the navy! he would vivist her
every weekend come to find out he was married and had no real ideal to
marry her! She went from being whole to drinking! I am tellig you this
because You will not let anything like this happen to you!!!!!!!
Stay away from him! I love someone once deeply and he was
my nightmare i gave all of me to him and well he left and i never saw him
again i beg and pleaded. You did nothing wrong he is a fool an animal
and when someone can do this to another person they are not
worth the time of day, oh yes she is a fool this woman who
thinks she has the King of men. You will be okay knowing he
is nothing will help. When you felt those feelings you could not
do anything because you had no thing to point to. I grew stronger
and so will you, i think you did not mention children i am glad!
This would had kept you tie to him forever. That dog will have it come
around to him. What goes around comes around remember this, please

take care
mons~

thank you Mons, Ma'am; however at this time it's about what whisper went through... i went through mine a few months ago, her pain and wound is very open and bleeding...

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RE: Hurt - 4/1/2006 12:50:51 PM

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and frankly this thread opened up a whole bunch of wounds... that i choose not to go through again.

Whisper you can e-mail me if you wish... if nothing else i'll be your friend.

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RE: Hurt - 4/2/2006 11:36:54 AM

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Well I guess my Sir followed your Sir's example. My Sir told me we needed some time to reflect so he sent me home to spend time with family.He called me daily and told me how much he loved me and how proud he was to have me. Well after about 4 days he just stops calling or talking to me. When I do finaly talk to him he says he needs space for now but we will still talk.That lasted for 2 days. Well then i find out he has a girl staying with him recently and he is telling he wants to remain friends and how maybe in the future we will try again. Hell maybe he has to get out and party but I hate not knowing what this will lead to so now i am "friends" with my ex Sir and trying to let him decide what he wants.

Bella, in my experience, "I need space" usually means that they have someone else they are test driving and if it doesnt work out, they will still have you dangling on their hook. It is YOU who should be deciding what YOU want, not him. Seems to me he made his choice the second he sent you away. Sooner or later, you will have to take on the responsibility of your own self. Doesn't he do this alot? Whenever another girl catches his fancy, he sends you to your mothers. I am noticing a pattern here.

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RE: Hurt - 4/2/2006 3:43:45 PM

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angelic....true story.....listen up!

i met a Girl in H.S, many years ago, i was smitten from the get go. i ached just for her to speak to me.
Long story short, she did, we made love on Christmas eve. She was my first.
ARound H.S. graduation, an "older guy" picked her up as she rode her bike in a park. She was a little curious, bold as hell and ended up dating him. He said he was older, but he lied about how old. She let me down easy but i was crushed and still in love (might still be). His "sister" whom Michelle confided in about her love for him and presents whe had bought him for Christmas and birthdays turned out to be his wife!!!
This couple in their late 30s totally mindfuc#ed Michelle!!! (real names not used)
Years of violent physical abuse followed.
End of the story...Michelle looks better now than ever! Runs marathons, has two masters degrees and the daughter She had with numbnuts is tall dark, gorgeous beyond words and going to med school.
YOU WILL LAUGH LAST!

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