PhoenixRed -> RE: Biggest pet peeves or "what people do that really piss you off" (4/15/2008 11:26:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: wewalkamongyu Great thread, but I see a flaw in the question. In my mind "Pet Peeve" has always been a minor irritant. Anyone who gives you a shallow answer might be doibng so because of their interpritation of the term. For example My minor pet peeves are people who spell things wrong to be cute, U instead of you and shoppe instead of shop. My bigger ones are people who see manners and consideration of others as a sighn of weakness. People with such a small vocabulary that they can only use the words gay and retarded for anything they disaprove of, People who assume the worst intentions of anyone they don't understand. Hi all, thanks so much for contributing your responses! I've had a busy day, and am just getting a chance to get back to this thread. I agree with SO many of the responses that many of you have made (i.e., they're pet peeves of mine too)! In reply to the quote above, yes I agree. I never said it was a 'perfect' question and it can be interpreted different ways. One can always clarify "major annoyances" or "minor irritants". To those who commented on the 2 examples I gave "neat freak and definitely ADD"....I was using those as illusory examples. I'd like to explain a wee bit.....the first was one of our now partners. His answers were "I hate it when people don't return things from the places they took them from; people who leave stuff in the middle of the floor; people who leave their clothes in the laundry basket too long and they get all wrinkled and they never iron them before they wear them; and people with papers all over their desk instead of in the filing cabinet". I asked him, "like things tidy, eh?" He said "ya, I'm kind of a neat freak". He labeled himself! [:D] Second example was my own mate who has been diagnosed with ADD/OCD. I don't remember his exact answers because it was so long ago, but I remember they all had to do with people making him wait too long in line, people going too slow in the fast lane, etc.; they all had to do with speed and frustration at lack of such. He's since toned down his "need for speed" a bit! LOL Even though I'm not a layman, I still don't try to "diagnose" people or label them with "personality disorders"... I'm just looking for a glimpse into what makes them tick, that's all. I tend to ask this question as one among many when I'm getting to know someone. Some responses can lead to some interesting spinoff conversations. The reason I usually ask folks to list 4 or 5 responses off the top of their head is to see whether the responses have a common "theme" to them (as in the examples I listed above) or not. Sometimes all of the responses are regarding different things. Sometimes they aren't and you can discern if there is something in the forefront of someone's thoughts. Again, it is highly contextually dependent on the person's mood, the kind of day they've had, recent experiences, etc. Sometimes I'll ask 2 weeks later...."so, what are your pet peeves this week?" Everyone so far has taken it humorously, and sometimes it opens up a discussion about something that's bothering them that they end up talking about with you. It's just one little question among so, so many when getting to know someone. I've found I just like using it. YMMV
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