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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 12:02:07 AM

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No, never blackmailed. After reading this I feel like a lucky SOB. I have owned my own businesses since my teens. When I was in the medical field, I or my father owned the clinics so I was out and it didn’t matter. When I was in the music industry, it was loaded with kinsters and I was just one of the crowd, I was out.

When I ran a distribution and manufacturing business, a whip hung on the wall titled “employee incentive program”. Visitors thought it was a joke.

I’ve always been out but I can see what a hazard it could be for some.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 1:20:45 AM

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I am amazed at how many on this site choose not to put up a photo for privacy's sake. To me it smacks of fear and of discomfort with one's own life choices.

Not necessarily. Society has its own set of rules when it comes to what is appropriate and what isn't and a great many of them seriously look down on the things practiced in alternative lifestyles. Being a sadist doesn't mean you can't be a good... police officer for example. Dominating your spouse or partner doesn't mean you can't be a good abuse counselor. Regardless of what it is or what one is, too often they're the cog in a machine that defines what is appropriate. I suppose the off-the-shoulder reply to that is to be a cog in a more accepting machine or strike out in some other profession that may have more lenient guidelines. I'll grant you that, but some of us seriously like money, and doing so often puts you in circles where the standard that's defined indicates that if you're into things that will make clients uncomfortable or give them reason for pause, then you damned well better keep it to yourself and neither foist that knowledge upon others nor plaster yourself all over the internet where any idiot can find you.

Nuff said. We can toss this subject back and forth all day long, but there are many things people prefer to be kept within the confines of their own homes or own circle of family and friends. This is just one of them.

Wow.

You put my thoughts on this into words extremely well. I completely agree.

Once in a very great while, I'll attend a BDSM function or whatnot. Without fail, however, it is some distance from my home. That's just the way I prefer it for me. I don't feel like I have to live my life in a haze of paranoia, but I also don't feel like I need to live it on a billboard.

There is no photo of me on this website. There never will be.

I have to agree here and I am in the same position, and for the same reasons there will never be a photo of myself on the board either. I also don't see why people who choose not to identify themselves should be questioned about this..

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 2:22:10 AM

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Thing is, what the hell are they going to blackmail me for? I got nothing! It's like ID theft. I figure anyone who steals my ID gets what they deserve. Shrugs.

Anyone who has any questions is welcome to ask as long as they understand there will be honest answers given. Otherwise, I'm pretty up front with people.

Hope that makes sense. Still distracted by the thought of Ron in the bee suit.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 5:34:38 AM

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from that time forward everyone would see me in terms of my bdsm proclivities being my defining trait.

Actually, you might be very surprised. I've come to realize that people have very short attention spans. You might be the talk of the day, week, or.......depending upon how slow the local news/gossip is......even a month or so. But there's almost always something or someone coming along with a bigger scandal to make them forget alllllllllll about little ole you,

Been there, done that, have all the t-shirts. Now the subject is more of a "oh yeahhh, I forgot you are into (either women or that strange kinky type stuff) aren't you......." And we go on with whatever the main topic at hand is.

Any doubts as to the validity of this concept......look at our current crop of celebrities and the grocery store gossip rags.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 6:42:16 AM

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Nope.

Anyone who knows me knows that I won't tolerate that shit, and outing me would do no damage in any case-I'd just tell them "Bring it on, and never sleep."

Because if you fuck with me, I'll fuck you right back.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 6:47:34 AM

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Nope.

Anyone who knows me knows that I won't tolerate that shit, and outing me would do no damage in any case-I'd just tell them "Bring it on, and never sleep."

Because if you fuck with me, I'll fuck you right back.

exactly...if they want war.....they get war...
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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 7:05:09 AM

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Well it goes back to those who are "out" and in the community versus those who are not, and neither side accepting the others' reasons for doing so.

More often than not (as we see evidenced in this very thread) the outties wave their leather flags and chastise the innies for not doing the same. I am not sure where you got this "neither side accepting" thing. It is almost always an exercise in finger pointing by those who are out.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/18/2008 7:26:29 AM

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Nope, and with my mindset I'd be telling the other person to "Go for it".

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 10:51:24 AM

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I have made a number of "blackmail contracts" with people wishing to experience this kink. The people involved were of course submissive and enjoyed the fantasy of being ruled, dominated, humiliated and degraded etc..however, there were still many things that they were not "into", such as feminization for example, and of course this then becomes a wonderful thing to use as leverage once (certain photos) have been taken and saved.
I always request all kinds of relevant info from the person, telephone numbers, addresses etc.,.before the contact is signed, and this can all be used in the "scenario" VERY effectively !
I am even so kind as to put in a "buy out" claus, if they desire to be free for real. :)

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 10:55:48 AM

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I am even so kind as to put in a "buy out" claus, if they desire to be free for real. :)

Nice touch!

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:07:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Actually, you might be very surprised. I've come to realize that people have very short attention spans. You might be the talk of the day, week, or.......depending upon how slow the local news/gossip is......even a month or so. But there's almost always something or someone coming along with a bigger scandal to make them forget alllllllllll about little ole you,

I agree. There's a phrase: today's news is tomorrow's fish and chip paper.....
the SOB who outed me had the audacity to ring me about three months later to ask if anything had happened at work as a result of it! Obviously he's only got a short term memory.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:09:46 AM

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seriously?? he called?? LMAO!! what a fucktard!

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:28:15 AM

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I have never been "blackmailed," however... Daddy is black and all Man... so I have been "black male'd"... does that count? ~giggles~

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:29:03 AM

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You have to remember some are into blackmail games, just like some are into kidnap play.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:33:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I have never been "blackmailed," however... Daddy is black and all Man... so I have been "black male'd"... does that count? ~giggles~

you left out 'yummy'..silly wench!

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:52:46 AM

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More often than not (as we see evidenced in this very thread) the outties wave their leather flags and chastise the innies for not doing the same. I am not sure where you got this "neither side accepting" thing. It is almost always an exercise in finger pointing by those who are out.

I agree and I've felt that very much in reading this thread. It makes me sad. One's reasons for not only not proudly waving their kink flag, but also not wanting one's own lifestyle to affect others in ones life can be very valid. Lucky for those of you for whom this is not an issue; however, I don't see why lucky moves to smug so quickly and easily.

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:54:58 AM

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cause we're self-righteous prigs, tee? *grin*

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 11:59:16 AM

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Ah, I'm sorry. I guess my post sounded just that--self righteous. Didn't mean to, but I see my error.

[Edit to add: I've only had 1 screwdriver. I'll have another and see if that helps!]

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 12:03:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead

I have never been "blackmailed," however... Daddy is black and all Man... so I have been "black male'd"... does that count? ~giggles~

you left out 'yummy'..silly wench!

Dear me, GT, you're right!!! I should be flogged for such an omission!

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RE: How many on here have been blackmailed? - 5/31/2008 12:33:25 PM

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I have only been in the lifestyle a little less than three years. I was a collared slave the first two years, having been collared almost immediately after finding my way to BDSM. My former Master, a man who is poly and keeps three slaves at all times, warned me repeatedly to never tell anybody about it as it could cause both me and Him problems. He's retired so I couldn't figure out how it would cause Him a problem (maybe His landlord might find out what that hook in His bedroom ceiling was for?) and I didn't (and don't) care who knows I'm in it. Blackmail me? Mail away! Everybody I work with and all my family and friends know I'm kinky.

However, when I broke up with Him last December He showed me a side to Him that I did not know existed: He is a very, very poor loser. He later contacted me and told me that He was going to make copies of all the e-mails I had ever sent Him from work, have them notarized and then present them to my commanding officer and have me fired. I was livid. He reiterated over and over again how the two things He would never mess with as far as His slaves were concerned was their family and their job. At that point I was His ex-slave, but I still expected Him to have more integrity than that. He was getting even with me for leaving Him so I decided to fight back just as dirty and give as bad as I was getting.

I told Him to give it His best shot--that I had talked to my union representative and if He carried out His threat we would demand every computer in my Flight be audited and every employee who had ever sent a personal e-mail would be fired. He knew that wouldn't happen and His threat was only an idle one. But then I went one step further and told Him that if He carried it out I would see that His reputation throughout the BDSM community was in shreds from Jacksonville to Miami and back again. He knows how small the BDSM community is and He knew I meant every word that I said. He backed off, chickensh1t that He is.

He shut up and has left me alone ever since. Twelve slaves in six years should have been a red flag to me, but He is perfectly capable of charming the skin off a snake. I recently read His profile on alt.com and note that He is getting ready to collar slave #13 and I shudder to think that He is still a member in good standing in the community and has yet another slave to add to his stable. No, He does not physically harm those who are His, but He emotionally and verbally abuses them due to His very nasty temper. I was in therapy the day I met Him and I'm in it today. He is as bad, if not worse, than my ex-husband, who is vanilla.

I'm lucky to be out of that relationship and have now discovered the real lifestyle, the one I knew it was supposed to be! I will never be a slave again and I most certainly will never be in a poly relationship again. I have my Ph.D from the School of Hard Knocks--I always learn the hard way.

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