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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Complete obedience = doormat? (2/2/2009 3:18:25 PM)
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
When you meet a superior in the military you are not allowed to question them until they have met your criteria and you decide to grant them the power to command you. Total obedience is required in any ranked institution. Disobey in the military and just see what happens! Why wouldn’t obedience be required in a ranked household? If you don’t like to obey, don’t join either the military or a BDSM household.
Why do I always get the funny feeling that only people with control issues can’t seem to follow well?
And this circles right back to the "why are you here?" question. I think that, for many people, the issue isn't that they won't do X or don't want Y... it's that they don't really -know-, for sure, for the long list of possibilities, what they want or don't want. The difference, I think, between the doormat and the control-freak (on either side of the kneel... I've seen more than a few doormat dominants in my years with my nose poked into the BDSM/Ds/Ms realms) is how they handle those situations that they're vulnerable and less well informed in... whether they're a 'diver' or a 'toe-dipper'... the control freak tries to limit the experience to things xhe feels safe with... dipping hir toes into the BDSM waters. The doormat dives in head first and lets go of everything xhe's holding on to. Xhe may find hirself over hir head, but xhe's hoping that somewhere in the vicinity are the answers (and the adrenalin rush isn't so bad, either.)
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