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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:14:59 PM

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some of the stalls would prolly think it was reasonable to charge a grand for a bit of fluff and diamante

We were both brasic for BBB last sunday .. so we went with imaginary £1000 .. and had to decide how we would spend it
Missy is a bad girl and blew hers all on the first 3 stalls
I was good and kept £400 back to buy my next plane ticket!

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:19:02 PM

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Hair cut, colour and style = approx £80 / $157.89 I do my own color ($5-10 every six weeks), cut every 3 months at $55
Nail Extensions = £25 / $49.34 do my own, probably $20 yearly
Waxing (full body) = £35 / $69.09 razors @ $20 every month or two
Clothing / footwear = £300 / $592.15 as I am moving I realize that I have too many clothes and yarn and fabric that can infuse my wardrobe for the next 2 years so that will be minimal now
Books = £15 / $29.60 enough unread books and now his library of books to, I should read those first
Food = £150 / $296.01 probably about the same and I feed 2, I don't like processed foods and cook from scratch
Cigarettes = £35 / $69.09 I don't smoke
Total = £640 / $1263.17 $337.64

I will now be telling m'Lord what a deal he is getting.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:25:10 PM

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I agree that a sub/slave ought to keep themselves clean and looking good,,
I do have to say that a great deal of that cost (what was listed) is far above what the majority spend in a year. Very possible that her taste runs far above what the vast majority of the rest of us here have.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:26:54 PM

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OK, Jewel read that on my screen.

How about all of that, a hot tub, a pool, a billiards/bar in house, a couple of Harley's, a couple of dirt bikes, access to a boat and a lake, a vehicle always at your disposal and no sex required?

Are you here yet? Packed?

Did i mention free tattoos?

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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

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ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl

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I totally agree that a lot of what i put could be considered as luxuries but nice nails, hair, appearance etc

if a Mistress were to give me this...plus food...shelter....HDTV big screen for my sports watching...m yours.

OK, Jewel read that on my screen.

How about all of that, a hot tub, a pool, a billiards/bar in house, a couple of Harley's, a couple of dirt bikes, access to a boat and a lake, a vehicle always at your disposal and no sex required?

Are you here yet? Packed?

Did i mention free tattoos?

ill pass on the tattoo's..i have enough...... im packed...just need tickets now. greyhound or train...i dont take plane rides...you want me to arrive alive right?

There is such a thing as enough ink?

Hmmm Greyhound huh?

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:33:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Anyway i'm just wondering (and im pretty sure this has been asked before), how on earth do people fund others lives? If you are extremely rich or well paid i can see it, but what about those in normal every day jobs who aren't so well off?
So for those who do it, how do you support yourself and your subs /slaves?
Would you do it? If so why? If not why not?
Has it ever got you into debt?Are you in debt because of it?

i am self-employed; certainly not rich. and i fund someone elses life 100%...

it's a small price to pay for having a child, and no, i'm not in debt, don't get child support and never have, and if i had it to do all over again, i would! then again, i don't color my hair, wear nail extensions, or get full body waxings

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:39:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

Hair cut, colour and style = approx £80 / $157.89
Nail Extensions = £25 / $49.34
Waxing (full body) = £35 / $69.09
Clothing / footwear = £300 / $592.15
Books = £15 / $29.60
Food = £150 / $296.01
Cigarettes = £35 / $69.09
Total = £640 / $1263.17

Above is what it costs me to keep me for a month approximately. I haven't included rent / mortgage as i don't pay to live where i do. Accomodation is included with my job. I haven't included medical costs as in the Uk we have the national health service, but i know in USA it is privately paid for. I've probably also missed some pretty basic stuff off, but you get the gist.

Hey, we all know it's tough out there girl. So you wanna know...just where is that young, hot good-look'n sugardaddy when you need one ?

How's this ? You could just go on taking care of you. Just imagine how incredible it would be to find a master who would allow you to do just that and I think directly as a result...still be a master.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:46:33 PM

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Iv'e wondered about that as well. If you pay to keep someone-are you the owner-or just an enabler who is being taken advantage of?

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:52:10 PM

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I know that if I was not earning an outside income it would be because I was assisting him in his business and my assistance generated more income for him to offset the lack of income I'd be earning.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 12:57:52 PM

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i've been very conservative since my divorce with money. raising 2 kids is expensive and i tend to put the money towards bills and the kids needs. in 2 months i will have zero debt, i've worked my ass off to not get into debt and to pay off the unavoidable stuff that has come up. i've never had my nails done or my hair professionally colored, never had a wax job and i'm lucky if i spend 50 bucks a month on clothing.

in talking with my dominant about when i move in with him, he tells me about the manicures and other things i will be getting etc....it is a foreign idea for me, i'm just not used to it. i am greatful that he wants to splurge on things for me and i'm sure i'll eventually get used to it...probably sooner than later lol. he tells me the things he wants to provide for me and i respect that that is his wish for me, but i would never require that someone pay for "things" for me, no matter who they are.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 1:00:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: missturbation

Anyway i'm just wondering (and im pretty sure this has been asked before), how on earth do people fund others lives? If you are extremely rich or well paid i can see it, but what about those in normal every day jobs who aren't so well off?

I have a normal every day job, and I fund other's lives. It's called taxes. My last three months March-$2300 April-$1900 May-$1700. If I could just keep what I work for, this sub apparently could own his own slave. I'd even have a little left over to get you some eels every so often.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 1:07:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Iv'e wondered about that as well. If you pay to keep someone-are you the owner-or just an enabler who is being taken advantage of?

I would say, that would depend on the persons involved.
For me - I find it difficult to accept luxuries. I have survived on budgets and stick to them. I 'spoil' myself when I deserve them - I work hard to gain them. But that was when I was single.
Now, Darcy will decide when and if I get anything. Now, because of his networking and employment, I am expected to be pleasing. Like any position, there are rewards. Break it down to the basics like that and if I am not doing my 'job' correctly, I would not be in the position - you dig?
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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 1:07:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

Iv'e wondered about that as well. If you pay to keep someone-are you the owner-or just an enabler who is being taken advantage of?

Well that depends on the relationship and your attitude doesn't it ...? ..

Am pretty certain I will be earning my keep down to the last penny ... 10 times over .... before breakfast

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 1:16:51 PM

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I think the cost of owning a slave/submissive could be looked at from another perspective as well. Based off your original post, and not factoring in the million other scenarios that could take place, I'd assume that your contribution to being "kept" would entail more than looking pretty?

If you were not working, it seems reasonable to me you would be active in other areas. A live-in housekeeper isn't cheap. Neither is a Personal Assistant, Shopper, Chef/Cook, Gardner, Courtesan/Companion/Whore etc. Ok, you probably wouldn't be doing gardening, I hear it is hell on manicured nails. Still, a good submissive who can/does all the above would seem a bargain at twice the price. Then again, I could be going about this whole concept completely from the wrong perspective.

To answer the orginal post, how do people afford it? I imagine those that do afford it, do so by prioritizing and budgeting the same way any of us afford to live in the manner we choose.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 1:22:54 PM

akisha

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Wow some things are cheaper there then here

Hair cut, colour and style = approx £80 / $157.89
Cut & Style is $45 CAD I colour my own so that's only $10 so total $55 a month

Nail Extensions = £25 / $49.34
I don't do the nails thing cause I can't stand them but here it's $80, my Sir wants me to try them again later this summer *argh*

Waxing (full body) = £35 / $69.09

I'm a wuss but considering it but here are the costs on average where I am
Brazillian = $65
Lip or brow = $20 each
Full Leg = $ 68
Bikini = $ 35
Under arms = $30 Full arm $ 45
Toes = $10

Thus far I just shave what needs to be clean and that runs about $20 in blades

Clothing / footwear = £300 / $592.15
I'd say about $100/mth if averaged out

Books = £15 / $29.60
Probably $10

Food = £150 / $296.01
if just me and not the mini kid to ya that's about right
Cigarettes = £35 / $69.09
$0

Now add in Rent at $1000
Utilities at $300
Satelite $ 75
Phone, internet & Cell $150
Vehicle payment $500
Vehicle Insurance $100
Vehicle Fuel $400

I forgot health care premiums $ 88
and Life and Diability insureance $140

Total = £640 / $1263.17

Total = $2938.00

If I waxed and did my nails montly you'd have to add in another $200, and because my mini me and I are a package deal you have to add in another $200 for her food and clothing.

To rent a place big enough for all of us rent would be between $1000 and $2500. or a similar mortgage payment.

There is a reason I refuse to give up my job for anyone. I like the security of working, plus who the heck could afford to keep me at home sitting on my butt?

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 2:33:09 PM

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eeps!! someones crushing on me.....im hiding behind softness.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 5:40:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

I am always perplexed at the assumtion the dom needs to support the sub, I have seen one or two relationships where the sub supported the Dom and it did not shift any part of the submission...Now if the Dom is using the sub it is a differnt story, but most people can tell the differnce...

sorry miss if i strayed off topic, but I will say i am shocked at the price of nails over there.

My apologies, of course the same could be said in reverse.

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And...geez...600 a month on clothing and footwear can kiss my ass lol

What can i say im obviously pretty high maintenance.

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If I were a Dom I would immediately reduce that cost by $118.43. There would be no nail extensions and definately no smoking...

Jaw drops.
The smoking i may have to quit anyway but the nails omg !!!

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.. and Missy .... you forgot to add £1000 for a "small indulgence" at BBB

Hee hee, what can i say other than i have expensive but good taste

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At the risk of offending anyone... Listing the "prices" next to each other like that makes me want a list of the, um, features of Missturbation and CalifChick, respectively, so that I can make an informed consumer decision.

Lol. My features ahem are on my profile lol.

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I agree that a sub/slave ought to keep themselves clean and looking good,,
I do have to say that a great deal of that cost (what was listed) is far above what the majority spend in a year. Very possible that her taste runs far above what the vast majority of the rest of us here have.

Maybe i should just write high maintenance on my profile now lol

quote:

Hey, we all know it's tough out there girl. So you wanna know...just where is that young, hot good-look'n sugardaddy when you need one ?

How's this ? You could just go on taking care of you. Just imagine how incredible it would be to find a master who would allow you to do just that and I think directly as a result...still be a master

My response to this was in my op.
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I will say at this point that i do not think, im 99% certain that i could never give my career up and be dependent on someone else. Im far too independent for that.

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Iv'e wondered about that as well. If you pay to keep someone-are you the owner-or just an enabler who is being taken advantage of?

Such a cynic.

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If I could just keep what I work for, this sub apparently could own his own slave. I'd even have a little left over to get you some eels every so often.

Eels mmmmmmmmmmmm

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think the cost of owning a slave/submissive could be looked at from another perspective as well. Based off your original post, and not factoring in the million other scenarios that could take place, I'd assume that your contribution to being "kept" would entail more than looking pretty?

Yes most definately.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 5:44:18 PM

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Cost of Clothing: $100
Cost of Gas: $40 a week and rising
Cost of Food: $200
Cost of the occasional videogame: $20-$70
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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 6:12:23 PM

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I'm at a point in my life where I can afford a few little luxuries for myself. But I haven't always been. As long as basic needs are met, I don't require anything extra. It's not a good place to be in when you can't meet your basic needs. I've never wanted to be in a house that was so "grand" that you felt as though you couldn't live in it. I've never wanted to be "made up" to the point I looked fake and bought. I could certainly see myself being staying home and taking care of my Dom, family, and home. But then I can do that along with working and contributing financially just as I do now.

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 7:36:53 PM

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Wow, I had to look through this whole thread before stopping. i have bucked against the idea of being a stay at home sub. My Daddy always wanted me to take care of me, it wasn't because I wanted him to but it was because he wanted to. I own a house in another state and so I was told if i wanted it i could work to keep it....

I have been looking at what some people cost....and I was once called high maintence.....so i broke it down

Hair cut, colour and style = $12.85 w/taxes I color it once every 3 months to hide my evil genetics (gray hair @ 25 eeek!) I am lucky to have easily styled curly hair so tie back!
Nail Extensions = Maybe.....$10 .....Mom does them for me or work has me doing so much hands on stuff to have them would be dumb
Waxing (full body) = $84 Only have my eyebrows threaded once a month X 12 months
Clothing / footwear = $400 all year..... i shop like twice a year when everything is on clearance and i feel i am the queen of bargains
Books = $5 ....I like getting random books from the Goodwill and stuff
Food = about $600.......I do the angelfood ministries so that keeps food costs down....milk....bread....occasional yogurt.....
Mortgage and all - $800 a month........
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Little more than $900 a month......Holy Crap! That's it!

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RE: Cost of keeping a sub / slave. - 6/19/2008 7:41:55 PM

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Scottish to the bone-it's in the blood. I pinch pennies until they bleed.

Luxuries are not a part of my world.

And I am always cynical about people who claim to need needless things-from others.

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