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RE: Kink V Lifestyle - 7/10/2008 5:04:40 AM

lally3

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i think that lifestyle is relative - we all have lives to lead and the lifestyle, whether old guard or not is somewhat dependant on how much of your life can be realistically spent within the dynamic, for some it really is 24/7, for some that ideal is totally unrealistic.

i dipped my little toe briefly into some of the old guard ethos, and really there isnt much on lifestyle. back then titles and so forth werent so much, it was just S & M, sadist or masochist.

i think that back then, whenever then was, manners, respect, politeness etcetera were things one extended naturally enough to anyone anywhere at any time. manners, respect and politeness is now something regarded as having to be earned or go fly.

arguably a shame and a reflection on how society has changed over a period of time, but not specific to this choice of sexuality or mindset.

as for their being more kink than lifestyle now - i couldnt say. sexual freedom, as i understand, took off in the sixties (though i think if the romans could put their hands up right now they would, along with a whole other host of periods in history)

i think there is more awareness of kink and people not into D/s who enjoy kink for kink sake be they bdsmers or vanilla and so far as i know theres no manual outlining that this is a peversion of the old guard way of thinking.

from the little i know, old guard were a small community who enjoyed their proclivities in private and continued life outside of that as 'normally' as everyone else. what they did in private, as with us now, was their business and like us, entirely up to them how they perceived it to be.

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RE: Kink V Lifestyle - 7/10/2008 5:33:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

It's just you- the concept of having a lifestyle is the new minority idea. Venues for fucking and whipping have been around a lot longer and are a lot more popular.

If you're into the tradition of leather, then you'll know it started in bars where people went to fuck and beat, or meet with people they could fuck and beat later.

this slave perfers to be

then

then she

about it so Master can read it and the beatings and fucking start all over again...

The concept of a "lifestyle" is personal.....and highly debatable....everyone has a life they live....though this slave's life includes her Master she still has lifestlye things that she is involved in...there is the pagan lifestyle...the BDsM lifestyle..the *real as in four legged furry type, just for clarification* dog world (training, teaching and caring for) and maybe an *online* lifestyle...(is that real? or memorex?) LOL
Its all part of slave's life and the style she and her Master see fit to live in.....

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RE: Kink V Lifestyle - 7/10/2008 5:40:27 AM

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What does it mean to be 'into the leather' MP?

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RE: Kink V Lifestyle - 7/10/2008 9:37:58 AM

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But the best mix is when we

and

at the same time.....

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RE: Kink V Lifestyle - 7/10/2008 2:15:31 PM

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I guess I think that my girl's behavior reflects on me... just as it did when she was my wife and before that, my girlfriend... just as mine does on her. We are a unit, a team, a couple.. and our beahvior, for better and worse, very definitely is perceived by those around us as being a part of a team and therefor reflects back and forth. I expect her to show a reasonable amount of civility to anyone unless there's a reason not to. "Civility" in this case, though, does not extend to the tokens of dominance and submission... kneeling, honorifics, the like. She may extend her submission to whoever she wills, but that's a very different discussion than civility and it would be difficult for anyone she only knew online to accumulate the sort of respect and trust required for that.

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RE: Kink V Lifestyle - 7/10/2008 8:30:40 PM

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Wait... so because I'm owned I'm walking around in a constent state of arousal and wet panties? I mean, if it's a kink then my kink is being tickled 24/7!

Huh... I went to go check again and doing his laundry still isn't getting me wet. Maybe scrubbing the shower.... damn it, no.

Kinks are what get me off. Living as his girl 24 hours a day is how I want to live, even when I'm not having sex. It doesn't get me wet any more than an equal power relationship does for those who desire that dynamic.

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You're full of shit if you are trying to say living as his housegirl isn't about the psychosexual dynamic. If it wasn't, you wouldn't feel any need to discuss it here.

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