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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:13:03 PM   
slavekal


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I have quite a bit of real life experience.  I only advise on things I know about.  If I don't know something, I am not ashamed to admit it.  I have had real life relationships with dominant women, so yes, I do know how to make that happen.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:28:56 PM   
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greetings to all,

my reality:

I am a full time, live in slave, with no contract agreement, who has been serving her Master for nearly 4 years.  I gave up my rights and equality within the relationship the minute I consented to submit.  I knew (instinctively) when I met my Master that he was the man I'd belong to for the rest of my life.

I act as my Master tells me/directs me to act, in every way (even down to the forums here; if i know he is going to be displeased with a response i want to post, i don't post...my personal opinions are not as important as his public standing).

well wishes,

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:41:43 PM   
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I am thoroughly enjoying reading everyone's responses....like being a 'voyeur' albeit online, Thank you everyone that shared...


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:46:09 PM   
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I'm not sure that I have just one reality.
Some of my realities are:
I am nearly 43 but routinely get carded buying beer.
I've learned that I love to live alone but there are times late at night when I wish there was someone to hug.
I live on the most picturesque piece of land with an equally cool house that I have to sell.
I am about to undertake the biggest change of my life, surpassing getting divorced.
I miss my job. Intensely. I worked in a bookstore for over a decade, it was the one place where I shone. There was no shyness and I built a huge personal customer base to my surprise.
The sound of frogs singing in the rain is one of my favorite things to listen to.
Music wise I am a blues junkie, love gospel (am an atheist), detest country and acid jazz.
My fantasies are kinkier than my actuality and I am okay with that.
Public play holds zero interest for me.
I'm in a 24/7 thing that is also LDR and it works for me.
I wish I had more of an outgoing personality, that I could hop up and bounce around Munches to make new friends but the ones I tried I didn't feel comfortable at, at all.
My personality is the same online as offline, it takes far too much energy to engineer a persona so I am just me.
People say that I am kind and compassionate.
I do not hold grudges because I usually understand that it is a way of acting out. I don't like it, but I understand and rarely do I not forgive people.
I care about strangers.
I wish I could do something to really change things in the world for the better, that is my secret wish.
My first name is a name I hate, but my middle name is one that I love.
I love to smoke a big fat doobie early on Sunday mornings and listen to blues music very loudly.

After reading other posts, I think I am probably pretty boring!
I am happier now than at any previous time in my life, even with the current turmoil.


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:51:37 PM   
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I claim things about myself in my posts sometimes.  People can choose to believe them, or not. It doesn't matter, not really.  My words have value if they are useful to somebody else -- which means they have to resonate with someone else's reality, not mine.

I agree (once again, dangit) with Master Fire.


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:56:17 PM   
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Until about two months ago this was my reality: I was a housepet in service to a married couple old enough to be my parents. Sometimes I was their puppy. Sometimes I was thier "little girl" ... And about once a month they'd host a small play party. Most of the time though, the three of us could have been and occassionally were mistaken for a girl and her parents. I had a daily schedule but most of my time "in service" was spent on mundane things like laundry, cooking or housework. I had time for myself as well though that was also structured to some degree.

Now my reality is a one bedroom apartment, two cats and the dog my best friend left behind. (I think I'm going to adopt the dog because I can't see myself giving her away or leaving her at the pound.) I work from home, though I'm trying to get a job outside this apartment as well just so I won't go stir-crazy. If I need to run errands, I hop on my little blue bike (its a huffy) and away I go. I haven't been out much since I moved in here but the other night I went out to club and danced and met some totally crazy emo/goth people. It was pretty cool.

I have absolutely zero desire to get involved with any local BDSM groups in this area though I've been made aware of their existence. All of my close friends right now are dominant men and there's one I'm sort of kind of interested in having more than friendship with. Maybe my reality will change again. Time will tell.

Honestly, I don't see myself as really giving out much advice beyond common sense type stuff. I'm pretty young and by no means am I any sort of a guru on ANYTHING. I'm kinda new to the forums too but so far I like what I see. And honestly, it doesn't matter how much experience someone has. They can still give bad or inappropriate advice. You still have to take responsibility for your own choices, including the choice to follow said advice.

:)


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 4:57:33 PM   
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OK so Red said it MUCH better than me. But he's cool like that.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 5:11:06 PM   
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I found BDSM at 32, after years of trying to square peg/round hole myself into vanilla sexuality.

I joined my local BDSM organization shortly after that, and have been active in it on and off for 9 years. I've bottomed to people I've never had a sexual relationship with and have had sexual relationships with people I never played with.

I've met people from the CM boards, so I suppose that authenticates me. I know people who know people who post here - does that make me credible?

I've been collared to my owner for a little over 3 years now. We live in a non-poly household with no dogs and more grass than I'd like to cut. We are 24/7, but that doesn't mean we play every day. We pretty much pass for Vanilla - does that make us not 'real'?

But of course, who can really corroborate what I've said? Maybe I'm making this all up?

The OP's premise is that anyone can give any advice and seem like an 'expert' but who are we to really trust that information.  I think it's a little naive to think that just because we say this is our reality, who can really pick the fact from the fiction?

I would suggest that anyone who truly finds themselves not 'nilla, find a real live bonafide organization where you can see, feel and speak face to face with people. The value in this, in my opinion, is immeasurable. Your mileage may vary of course, and your best bet is to enter with an open mind.

PL


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 5:15:33 PM   
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quote:

If people wanted to know, they would read profiles.
Shameless self promotion (which is cool)wrapped up in posting a question so you can advertise yourself doesn't make your reality any more real though.

the.dark.


You hit the nail on the head, luv.

PL


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 5:19:50 PM   
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I'm unreal....
ask  Indigowolf.



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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:00:17 PM   
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I am that I am.

I got 17k posts and counting.  If you can't gain any sort of sense of who I am and what I'm about from that and my livejournal, you're welcome to come and have dinner with me.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:07:08 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

So who's dick is bigger?



Please forward the winner's name and email address.

Thnx

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:23:34 PM   
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Continues to takes notes for Brad Paisley for his Online 2 song, though i think he may have already been here for his first one lol.


< Message edited by barelynangel -- 7/20/2008 6:24:30 PM >


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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:46:38 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

... I dare all those that are quick to give advice, what is YOUR reality...



Oh, good. I give opinions, but not advice, so I can stay private.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:51:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

I live in my moms basement and play wow and evercrack 18 hours a day. I have two female chuihahas names bitch and slut who have "Property of CD" on their collars . My bike is an old schwinn 10 speed with a banana seat and bad brakes. I self medicate with natural "herbs" and when not medicated, am pretty much afraid of my own shadow. One of these days I will either get up the nerve... or get so medicated that I can venture out and play larps with others face to face. Tarl Cabot is a god among men and is my role model. *Can't finish this because my mom is making me take out the trash* .

CD


Funny! Although the fact that you even know about a game called "evercrack" makes one wonder if you might be a little closer to your description than you think! WOW is pretty mainstream by now, at least the knowledge of it; never played it myself, but it was featured on South Park. Evercrack(?) - never heard of it. And "play larps"? Sorry, I guess I'm out of touch with the "living in mom's basement" population.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:53:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

*scratches head* So, people who have no lifestyle experience haven't clue what they're talking about ALL the time, in all subjects? I could list my credentials...and chances are you know me personally or at least know my rep since I'm from NC, but what does it matter if what I say rings true...or doesn't?

Being a part of the world-wide Master/slave and/or Leather community doesn't automatically make us the grand pobas. Not being a part doesn't mean that we don't get it. Cradentials can be impressice, but in the end, I feel it's how we conduct ourselves, whether or not our words have meaning and our ability to present them in a way people understand that makes or breaks our character.

Master Fire



*stamps her feet in a mock tantrum*  I WANNA BE A GRAND POBA!!!!!

*whew*    Now that I've gotten that off my chest..

I've held many titles and filled many roles in my life... Wife, mother, sister, daughter, girlfriend, Mistress, Lady, friend, sadist, nurturer, creator, destroyer, employee, bitch, lover, nightmare, dream.... 
My reality changes depending on the situation I'm in. 
I'm pretty sure most of us are like that, from what I understand in reading other's posts.

Lady Jag

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:56:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

So who's dick is bigger?

Taggard


Mine, is, sweetie, I thought everyone knew that!    It's even fluorescent!




I wanna see

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:57:12 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1


... I truly believe that Gore is a fairytale roleplay based on some quirky writings...




Gee, I thought Gore was our Nobel-prize winning, ex-vice president. You mean he's not real?

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 6:59:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

So who's dick is bigger?

Taggard


Mine, is, sweetie, I thought everyone knew that!    It's even fluorescent!




Didn't they do a musical about that? "Francine and the many colored cock"?

juliet

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/20/2008 7:12:04 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: julietsierra

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

So who's dick is bigger?

Taggard


Mine, is, sweetie, I thought everyone knew that!    It's even fluorescent!




Didn't they do a musical about that? "Francine and the many colored cock"?

juliet




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