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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 5:33:13 AM

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I haven't reached my greatest potential yet...but I'm getting there. :)

The only way to do that is by "getting there" exactly as you are doing.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 5:43:01 AM

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I haven't reached my greatest potential yet...but I'm getting there. :)

The only way to do that is by "getting there" exactly as you are doing.

Amen!!

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 7:29:47 AM

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(from owned girlie) I belong to a man who challenges me to the point of driving me crazy sometimes, but I love him like I have never known I could love, and when I get out of my own way, I can see and believe that he actually loves me too.

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I love these lines, owned girlie. It has my mind working its way through a new thread...mind if I use it?

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 9:33:04 AM

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Help yourself, CreativeDominant, just get your quoting figured out, heh...

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 11:17:21 AM

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what is YOUR reality...

My reality:

I am married, 20+ years to a very understanding, accepting, caring and loving vanilla husband. We agreed to me finding a Dommes to serve. I have been with Her for over 5 years now. We started online and after two years of racking up frequent flyer/driving miles, myself and my family moved closer to where She lives. We went from over 1200 miles apart to *just around the corner*. So I can relate to both sides of the online/rt debate.

My daily life consists of running two households and all of the errands, chores, headaches and happiness included in such. Living in the country means long trips to find civilization/run errands. It also means *chores* many don't face. Canning veggies, helping process "fresh" food (She kills them, i help process the meat). It also comes with *recreation* that many do not get to enjoy. Bonfires, hiking that simply requires walking out the back door, watching the wild life play in the back yard. Barns, woods, a swimming pool all at our private disposal for play when we actually find the time.

Between the two households we have a combined 8 adult offspring, 3 1/2 (one due next month lol) grandchildren, 3 dogs, 9 1/2 cats (one feral that i'm trying to tame) and 30 chickens. All of those come before the 3 consenting adults that make up this poly/not poly/i dont care what label you stick on it...... relationship.

In Her home, She has one *child (19yrs old)* still at home. He requires 24/7 direct adult supervision due to a brain injury many years ago. She is his mother, caregiver and as such, Her life is not entirely Her own... never will be. A fact that I find myself struggling with from time to time. She also has 3 young adult daughters and anyone with *girls* knows the headaches/joys those can bring. lol

My home has the revolving door. One kid that comes home from college here and there, one that has currently moved back home due to the economic crunch. Along with Hers that comes over quite often to hang out with the *guys*. Two of my *kids* live out of state and i miss them and wish gas prices would come down so i could go visit.

Within our M/s relationship we find balance and joy in the little things life allows. We also struggle daily with the *reality* of it all. We are involved within our local community, attend munches, social functions, special events/classes as life allows. Our munch leader is quite used to my "rsvp" saying... there is a 50/50 chance of us making an appearance this month. Occasionally my husband will attend a function with us, he is included in every aspect of our relationship, but that does not mean he takes part in every aspect. Simply put, there are no closed doors. No secrets, no lies.

I am not a frequent poster on any sites as I'm not one to open myself up to people. I define "Friends" as people you allow close enough to know what will truly hurt you most. A sad fact that has embedded its self in my mind with the harsh experiences/reality of my life. It is only very recently that i've started venturing outside of the walls and testing the waters again. It is with Her help that i am trying to see people/life in a new perspective and be less judgemental and more forgiving/understanding.

Each individual aspect of our relationship, M/s - friend-husband plays a vital role in making our *reality* work. Take away any part of it and it would fall apart. It takes work, trust, communication and understanding to thrive. The occasional "escape from reality" doesn't hurt either :)

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 12:40:04 PM

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It might be self promoting. Actually, since I've had so much fun reading the others, I'll bite.

I live in a small house in a little town just outside Augusta, GA. I've been here about four years now. This home I share with one adult offspring, one not quite adult offspring, and My granddaughter, who is the light of My life. I have four cats and a dog.

I have a husband, who is military. He is not home right now because he is serving in Korea.

I have a collared sub, who is also military. The time he spent with Me here was due to his being in school. Currently, he's serving in CA.

We consider ourselves to be a poly family, though it's been almost a month since any two of the three of us have slept under the same roof. It's been two and a half months since all of us have been home together at the same time. I still see Myself as Head of Household. We just all have different roofs over our heads just now.

I often complain about having to bow the the whims of "Mistress Military" but the service to their country is the thing I'm most proud of about both of them.

I'm the current Chairman of the Board of AIRS. I also belong to two lifestyle groups in SC I attend munches, demos, socials and play parties here, Atlanta, and some places in SC. I attend major events such as SELF and Dom Com.

I have given demos both here and in Atlanta. My next one will be fire and ice.

My leather family here is probably full of some of the best people I have ever known. I got My Master's Cap in April from one of the people I probably respect most in all of Atlanta. Last month, it was My honor to present someone with their vest.

I haven't been doing this continually since I started. I don't claim to be an expert at many things. I'm more a jack of all trades Domme. I'm probably one of the few blue collar Dommes that you'll meet. I have a job, not a profession. Speaking of professions, I've taken to calling Myself the "anti-pro" because I still play casually, and for free. That keeps My skills honed quite nicely, thank you, even with husband and sub being away.

So, as to the original question, does this qualify Me to give advice? I don't know. I guess that's up to whoever is reading and whoever is asking. Even if I'm not, I'll probably still give it anyway.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 1:00:42 PM

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Today my reality is focused around the impending birth of first grand daughter (sometime today, tonight or tomorrow).

Had to go back almost to the beginning of the thread to find this part Congratulations from one GILF to another.

It's the coolest thing on the planet.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 2:00:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: softpjOS

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ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

what is YOUR reality...

My reality:

I am married, 20+ years to a very understanding, accepting, caring and loving vanilla husband. We agreed to me finding a Dommes to serve. I have been with Her for over 5 years now. We started online and after two years of racking up frequent flyer/driving miles, myself and my family moved closer to where She lives. We went from over 1200 miles apart to *just around the corner*. So I can relate to both sides of the online/rt debate.

My daily life consists of running two households and all of the errands, chores, headaches and happiness included in such. Living in the country means long trips to find civilization/run errands. It also means *chores* many don't face. Canning veggies, helping process "fresh" food (She kills them, i help process the meat). It also comes with *recreation* that many do not get to enjoy. Bonfires, hiking that simply requires walking out the back door, watching the wild life play in the back yard. Barns, woods, a swimming pool all at our private disposal for play when we actually find the time.

Between the two households we have a combined 8 adult offspring, 3 1/2 (one due next month lol) grandchildren, 3 dogs, 9 1/2 cats (one feral that i'm trying to tame) and 30 chickens. All of those come before the 3 consenting adults that make up this poly/not poly/i dont care what label you stick on it...... relationship.

In Her home, She has one *child (19yrs old)* still at home. He requires 24/7 direct adult supervision due to a brain injury many years ago. She is his mother, caregiver and as such, Her life is not entirely Her own... never will be. A fact that I find myself struggling with from time to time. She also has 3 young adult daughters and anyone with *girls* knows the headaches/joys those can bring. lol

My home has the revolving door. One kid that comes home from college here and there, one that has currently moved back home due to the economic crunch. Along with Hers that comes over quite often to hang out with the *guys*. Two of my *kids* live out of state and i miss them and wish gas prices would come down so i could go visit.

Within our M/s relationship we find balance and joy in the little things life allows. We also struggle daily with the *reality* of it all. We are involved within our local community, attend munches, social functions, special events/classes as life allows. Our munch leader is quite used to my "rsvp" saying... there is a 50/50 chance of us making an appearance this month. Occasionally my husband will attend a function with us, he is included in every aspect of our relationship, but that does not mean he takes part in every aspect. Simply put, there are no closed doors. No secrets, no lies.

I am not a frequent poster on any sites as I'm not one to open myself up to people. I define "Friends" as people you allow close enough to know what will truly hurt you most. A sad fact that has embedded its self in my mind with the harsh experiences/reality of my life. It is only very recently that i've started venturing outside of the walls and testing the waters again. It is with Her help that i am trying to see people/life in a new perspective and be less judgemental and more forgiving/understanding.

Each individual aspect of our relationship, M/s - friend-husband plays a vital role in making our *reality* work. Take away any part of it and it would fall apart. It takes work, trust, communication and understanding to thrive. The occasional "escape from reality" doesn't hurt either :)

quite an amazing life you live, thank you for sharing

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/23/2008 3:02:58 PM

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ok, so, since everyone else is ...

right now i am recently released, and thats ok, im dealing with that - my time is divided between my son, animals, my podiatry practice and my writing. im tentatively looking for a master, but not proactively - ive put a mileage limit on their location versus mine, which is making the search a little 'slow'.

i have lived fast and lose, slow and measured and everything inbetween - i have reached a point now in my life where just being ok with myself is a really good and positive place to be.

so i meditate in the forest, i ride my horse across the heathlands, i walk my dog along the beach and i sometimes spend a little time dreaming of my twue and perfect Domlydom.

one day ill have my life made whole by a D/s relationship worth holding onto - until then - im just fine.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/24/2008 6:10:46 PM

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this is a fun read

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 7/24/2008 7:05:01 PM

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I have enjoyed the glimpses into each of your realities...Thank you for sharing.

Here's mine..........

I am a soon to be 53 year old submissive... divorced after a 26 year marriage. I am the mother of a grown daughter who i am very proud of. I am a dutiful loving daughter to my elderly parents who live close by.
I am a cancer survivor.....9 years out now. I have a job that i love..it offers me the opportunity to express my creativity and artistic talent. Been in the Lifestyle 11 years now....can't imagine not having it a part of my life.
I lost my last Master to a sudden massive heart attack...but life goes on, and time does heal. I'm not in a relationship now, but hopefully one day i'll have someone to share my life with......until then, i enjoy my own company. I have family and friends that i love and i know they love me......

At times the road has been hard and bumpy and i've swerved a few times.....but i continue to love and enjoy the trip.........

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/25/2008 11:13:54 PM

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Mine;
I live with a cool roommate, she makes good coffee.
My cat adopted me, and now she is a dear friend.
I wake up every morning at 5:30 andd go for my morning walk.
I am a university student, and love every minute of this being my final year.
This is not part of my life at this point in time, I have issues and tasks on my plate that have to go away first.
One day I am going to change the world, I just haven't figured out how yet.
I tivo things all the time.
Not much scares me
I have had my right leg shattered, and its a 1/3 inch shorter than my left.
I've almost bled to death in an auto accident.
My castle is the 6 or so inches of squishy magic called the human brain between my ears...its my kingdom, my empire. If everything I owned were gone, I'd have all of it in my mind, The Castle and Palaces of my thoughts and memories, ravines of feelings, and mountain tops of experiences. No one can ever take that.
That is my reality.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/26/2008 12:12:57 AM

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My reality is that I live with my wonderful totally vanilla wife, who has encouraged me to go out and experience and enjoy my kinkier side. I am a novice Dom and while I post on the boards here I would not say I offer anyone advice. One hopes when they post a topic to get different points of view and while mine is that on the under informed it is no less valid than that of a Dom or sub of 30years experience. What I take from how you put forth your question is that people like myself should be seen and not heard from, until we have "lived" the lifestyle some. But then how do newbies like myself learn? It takes the exchanging of ideas, if I can't make totally stupid remarks here and have them corrected then where can I? So my reality is that I am learning and growing.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/26/2008 12:27:22 AM

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reality changes daily with out me even knowing it.
My opinions and thoughts change often..by reading and listening to people I meet.
I just live my life.

I can sum up a status...lol;
-working
-recovering from an operation
-I have a few friends..because I rarely use the words friends
-no sub or slave at the moment (since 2 months), propably not ready for a new one...
-working a lott on myself lately....to find more rest
-NOW!: typing here and watching The exorcist-Dominion (sunday 8.30am 26-10

)

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/26/2008 7:22:47 PM

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Okay. Cool question, good point.

My reality is that despite my mother always telling me I was a slut destined to get knocked up in high school and never graduate by the end of high school I'd had two boyfriends (one from 6th -8th grade, one from 9th -12th grade), had never gotten pregnant, and got academic scholarships to college.

My reality is that I don't know what a "grownup" relationship is in a vanilla way, because I've except for middle school I've never had one. My reality is that my boyfriend is in charge of a hell of a lot that would shock my friends and they just think I'm VERY good to him and like to avoid confrontation.

My reality is that my mother has no clue about my life.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/27/2008 6:17:55 AM

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Lady Pact:

Care to share?

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I have a collared sub, who is also military. The time he spent with Me here was due to his being in school. Currently, he's serving in CA.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/27/2008 7:10:26 AM

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Mine is:

> i'm 21 year old
> I have never have been in a relationship.(tho I was kinda in one that lasted a week or somthing, turns out it was a fling)
>I live at home with my Mother
>I work Full time, and help pay for the rent and bills and stuff
> I love Scifi, and anime.
>I built my computer and have duel screens.
>There is no fetish community in my city
>My city is loaded with old people, and retarted university students, who block any industirial devlopment
>I only have 3-4 friends
>I live in a bunker complex, err thats not reality J/K
>I do not drink or party or do drugs
>I have Clinical Depression and Aspergers Syndrome

yeah, your probably thinking its prity sad arnt you:P

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/27/2008 2:05:07 PM

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My reality is full of spinning and screaming, screaming and spinning. Colors bleed from marshmallow walls, the sky is green, the grass is blue, dogs walk as men, men walk as women, and the women are all very hot robots.
BANG! POW! Cattle explode! Cow sharpnel falls from the sky like falling cow parts, and a little boy cries...because he is now a man. Somewhere, and old man dies from too much love, and a platypus is born out of hate. A platypus with nunchucks. He grows up to fight for the Great Freedom, which is nothing more than a lie. 24!
...No, wait. My reality is I act like a mental case on internet forums because I apparently have nothing better to do with my life.

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/27/2008 8:27:04 PM

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Hav you been the one who beens molesting the cows around here?

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RE: What is your 'Reality' - 10/27/2008 10:45:13 PM

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I am a 39 year old slave who resides in my owner's home in the American Southwest.We have 3 dogs (a shihtzu, a pug/chihuahua mix, and a terrier mix)Master has a small but effective (and well stocked) dungeon that gets used on a regular basis.I have been beneath his hand for more than 10 years, living in his home for more than 9. He is my first and only Master.We are married, however, the marriage happened long after enslavement and the dynamic of our relationship is not marriage based.We were once very active in the local community but not so much anymore.We are both imperfect on our path of mastery and slavery but learn from mistakes and have a very healthy, symbiotic M/s relationship.We make leather goods although we are on haitus from that particular endeavor.I am an artist, musician, leather-crafstperson, jewelry maker, business owner, songwriter, photographer, avid reader, and poet.He is a casino games dealer, a master pianist, incredible singer, and extraordinary master.I struggle sometimes in slavery but his firm, upper hand guides me well.For all I have learned in these 10 years, I seek knowlege from others on this board as well as other groups.I have rules in place that have been so for the duration of our relationship. I follow them.We thrive in our relationship - one built upon mastery, enslavement, surrender, respect, trust, and love.I need to work on my body shape and sometimes lack the proper self-motivation.Oh... and I'm smitten with Dean Martin. ;) Well wishes,
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