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RCdc -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/10/2008 6:15:11 AM)
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
I've read this over a couple of times now and several thoughts come to mind. I guess that my reaction would depend a lot upon what my goal with the Dominant was. Most likely the part that I am getting hung up on is the newness and the "test of submission" factor. Granted, I'm not one who plays casually with people that I don't know very, very well...but if it was a play situation I don't view that as "submission" at all. When I have played casually I agreed to take the bottom position in a scene...and to me that doesn't compare to submission. So if this were a scene I was in, it would be with someone I already knew very well and in that light it might be a really cool mind fuck.
Now on the other hand, if this were a dominant who I was just getting to know and had hopes of a future relationship...this would destroy all of those hopes in one hot second. The first part is again...the "test" of submission. In the "getting to know you" stage of a relationship...again, for me, submission is something that evolves naturally and grows and deepens in tune with the level of the relationship. When a dominant expects "all or nothing" right from the get go...well, that test of my submission is one that I would flat out fail in their eyes. Does that make me not "the real deal" or indicate that I can't "swim with the sharks"....well if that is what it indicates to that dominant then I'd have to say he's a fool.
It's difficult for me to try to imagine my reaction in the context in which you laid the scene out because I wouldn't ever be involved in such a scene with someone that I didn't know well. If that makes me not a "heavy player" and places me in the "fantasy role player" category in someone's eyes...oh well. But I would guess that if it played out exactly as you said with someone that I didn't really know or have any trust in...and I didn't consent to having this "unkown" person involved in that scene...the only thing that I can foresee him finding out about my "strength" in this "test of my submission" is that I am strong enough to beat the dogsnot out of him the moment I'm released.
I agree with what you have said erin. The one thing I wanted to add - is that for me (what I have highlighted in red) is in reverse. This sort of scene to me is fantasy role play. I can take or leave it - but if it is supposed to be some sort of test (not that the OP made that clear or not) it's one based only on fantasy(and for me, not a very good one - it is kind of yawn inspiring - but that is personal preference hey - We prefere more reality based pain, edgeplay and suchshit). No way does it reflect how heavy a player someone is. At least not in our world. Not that fantasy doesn't have it's place, but this particular scenario just didn't reflect much perversity or attraction, let alone control. And I do like to feel control over me.[;)]
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