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LittleWench -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 6:23:22 AM)

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(and before anyone goes off about how unsafe, etc etc etc.. yeah, I know.. save your fingers, don't bother..)


As long as the gun had a safety trigger, it was perfectly safe.  The only mind fuck in that scenario is whether or not he had the safety on, if it were me I'd relax and go for the ride, secure in the belief that the answer was yes.




GreedyTop -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 6:24:53 AM)

LW.. there's a crowd that says one is insane if a live weapon is used AT ALL.  I don't know if the safety was on (part of the yumminess of it!!!)..he told me it was off.. 




NuevaVida -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 6:45:51 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
So mindfuck?....yeah, that was a pretty serious mindfuck. He wasn't testing my submission. I wasn't trying to prove that I am a "heavy player" that could swim with the sharks. So maybe that makes me not "real" in your eyes. But as far as mindfucks go I'd say that the scene had a much greater impact than a momentary "Oh shit" ever could have...and likely told us more about each other and our compatibility than any blind faith scene done by a couple of strangers who were out to prove how sadistic or slavely they are.




Erin, your entire post was an amazing read.  I snipped it for brevity but I loved your summary and thought it should be repeated.  Thank you for sharing what you did of your experience.




mistoferin -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 6:50:32 AM)

Thank you. Ya snuck up on me wrapped in those new clothes though!




NuevaVida -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:08:10 AM)

*smiles*  I'm sneaky like that.

I'd share some mind fuck stories but it's all too fresh and painful still.  Plus, one is a TOS violation and even though it didn't actually happen, I don't think I could get away with writing about it.




TysGalilah -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:18:12 AM)

FR

"postive trial"
 
  and then reading something else RD brought up
 
"hardcore BDSM edge playing masochistic slave"
 
 
theres a flaw in this theory and in this trial.
a person, who completely gets off on this kind of play, isn't automatically going to be someone who wants to serve ( as in slave or submissive ) or submit.  They could just be into serving their own kink and edgy selves  yanno?  And I am NOT saying there is anything wrong with that.  There are "bottoms" bottoming to Tops who put them through mindfucks in public dungeons all over the country ( and world) and contentedly going about their business.  I'm familiar with that, use to be into that myself.... geez!!   but  THAT is not the scenario that was given  nor the dynamic that was described.  Nor the intentions of the "observor" and the one being judge and jury of the sincerity  & genuine nature of the one being mindfucked.
 
Take away the ds or bdsm elements and
its just a guy in a bar  picking up a girl  and judging whether or not she goes home with you to FUCK just because you ask>> and judging whether or not she is someone who can/will be intimate and/or emotionally commit to an intimate relationship soley by her answer of yes or no to that request ( demand even ) & whether or not shes a good lay>> issssss wishful thinking..one doesn't necessarily go with the other.  That might be part of your personal criteria...I get that.....but not an indication or guarantee of emotional availability....imo.
 
a maso bottom could really get off on that mindfuck..
not a real indication that she/he even desires a committed slave mindset be part of her play  nor the ability emotionally.
 
  I would think communication and getting to know one another is a better judge..
 
and if that was already established   then that could have been explained in the original scenario post....
imo > it makes a difference in the responses.
 
re: the shark comment

 RD
so  you're either a shark or a guppy?
a genius or have an IQ of 35 ?
The highschool cheerleader prom queen or  completely insignificant and invisible?
The most extreme masochist or   timid  insecure and unsure of herself wallflower with hard limits up the wazooo ?
 
no middle ground in any of those ??
 
There are also dolphins....and they can kick a sharks ass!
 
I am collared by a man you would probably not consider a sadist according to your criteria or definition.  In my experience, he is sadistic in his dominance and control of me.....  I am compatible to what he wants and desires in a submissive.
The fact that he is not sadistic in the way, RD, you are > does not make him less or better than you..or visa versa.
 
And it does not make me less or better a submissive than someone you may find someday who is your ideal of the perfect masochistic slave.    it just makes her more compatible for YOU..
 
I think you pissed alot of people off because of that kind of thinking on your part.
Much the same as the threads we see that talk about slaves and submissives and one being better, more real or truer than the other...
maso slaves and  maso subs or edgy bottoms ...not better or worse  just different with different dynamics and needs for compatibility..




mistoferin -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:47:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TysGalilah
I think you pissed alot of people off because of that kind of thinking on your part.


Not sure if he pissed people off but he certainly showed a different aspect of himself that may have changed some people's opinions of him.




porcelain26 -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:48:43 AM)

Erin,

Thank you SO much for your story; it was amazing to read. And I'ma stop right there, cuz to say any more would totally ruin the effect!

Thank you!




mistoferin -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:56:15 AM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelain26

Erin,

Thank you SO much for your story; it was amazing to read. And I'ma stop right there, cuz to say any more would totally ruin the effect!

Thank you!


Awwww, come on....you can say it...I know you want to tell me I'm just a guppy!...lol. (just kidding)

You're welcome and thank you for the kind words.




LittleWench -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:58:39 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Not sure if he pissed people off but he certainly showed a different aspect of himself that may have changed some people's opinions of him.


With so many different aquatic species being mentioned, bottom dweller came to mind.




porcelain26 -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:59:16 AM)

Honey, if you're a guppy I wanna know where the enlistment office is, cuz 'ats where I wanna go!




NuevaVida -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 7:59:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

I know you want to tell me I'm just a guppy!...lol. (just kidding)




I always thought there was something fishy about you....
[sm=ofcourse.gif]  (Yeah, that was really bad, I know)




JohnWarren -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:02:58 AM)


Sounds like a variation of one of the mindfucks in my book, The Loving Dominant.

I can’t take credit for the last example of a “Wow Mindfuck.”  It took place in a gay playspace/bar between two very experienced player who were in an established relationship.  The dominant pretended to be a bit tipsy and took an arranged “bet” with a co-conspirator that his submissive had “balls of steel.”  The submissive found himself naked in a cargo net hoisted about three feet in the air.  This may have been fun, but then the dominant brought out a rack of 24 beer bottles, placed them under the net and proceeded to break each with a hammer, leaving what amounted to a rug of glass knives under his disconcerted submissive.  The dominant then reached through the mesh and put a blindfold on the submissive.  The net shook and got a bit looser.  The dominant was cutting one cord after another.  The club’s dungeon master came over and protested that the scene was too risky only to be told by the dominant that he knew what he was doing.  One cord after another was cut, and the submissive was trying desperately to hang on with his fingers and toes.  Finally, he fell… onto one of the pads the bar kept handy for “other activities.”  As soon as the blindfold had gone on, the rack of broken bottles had been removed, and the confrontation with the dungeon master had been playacted.

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LaTigresse -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:08:58 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

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ORIGINAL: TysGalilah
I think you pissed alot of people off because of that kind of thinking on your part.


Not sure if he pissed people off but he certainly showed a different aspect of himself that may have changed some people's opinions of him.


Oui, most definately.

Erin, thank you for your story. That is the type of thing that tells me of a dominant and submissive.

The sword thing, to me, was more of a shallow grandstanding top, performing mediocre magic tricks. "Oh look at me, aren't I special!?!?"

Your story shows a man that cares and prepares. He was focused on you and creating something special between the two of you. Not on providing a show in the name of making a woman "prove" herself.




LittleWench -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:12:20 AM)

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As soon as the blindfold had gone on, the rack of broken bottles had been removed, and the confrontation with the dungeon master had been playacted.


I will counter with the same response as I did with the sword scene.  What sub would actually believe this scenario was going to be allowed to be enacted through to the terrible culmination that they are being led to believe that it will?  




GreedyTop -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:13:22 AM)

hear hear, LW..




mistoferin -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:17:27 AM)

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
Sounds like a variation of one of the mindfucks in my book, The Loving Dominant. <snip>


There is a huge difference John in the scene you described. Two very experienced players in an established relationship. I am fairly certain that you wouldn't endorse such a scene if it was done as a first play date to "test submission" and determine if they could put their money where their mouth was ....or if they were "just a guppy who couldn't swim with the sharks".




Lynnxz -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:18:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: JohnWarren


Sounds like a variation of one of the mindfucks in my book, The Loving Dominant.

I can’t take credit for the last example of a “Wow Mindfuck.”  It took place in a gay playspace/bar between two very experienced player who were in an established relationship.  The dominant pretended to be a bit tipsy and took an arranged “bet” with a co-conspirator that his submissive had “balls of steel.”  The submissive found himself naked in a cargo net hoisted about three feet in the air.  This may have been fun, but then the dominant brought out a rack of 24 beer bottles, placed them under the net and proceeded to break each with a hammer, leaving what amounted to a rug of glass knives under his disconcerted submissive.  The dominant then reached through the mesh and put a blindfold on the submissive.  The net shook and got a bit looser.  The dominant was cutting one cord after another.  The club’s dungeon master came over and protested that the scene was too risky only to be told by the dominant that he knew what he was doing.  One cord after another was cut, and the submissive was trying desperately to hang on with his fingers and toes.  Finally, he fell… onto one of the pads the bar kept handy for “other activities.”  As soon as the blindfold had gone on, the rack of broken bottles had been removed, and the confrontation with the dungeon master had been playacted.

This is copyrighted material.  Please do not repost or publish elsewhere.



Haha, I like the addition of the DM confrontation




AquaticSub -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:29:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: Silkendream
Sharks are not good to swim with.

If you’re a smart shark, the only thing worse swimming with is other sharks.  Swimming with anything else or anything less intelligent isn’t worth the investment of time because they won’t survive the long run.  Why bother with something that won’t survive because it is too stupid or frail?  I respect time, both mine and the other persons, why waste it?  Invest yourself wisely.


In nature, sharks attack and eat each other. Then again, I've seen similiar behavior from certains doms/masters.

As for me, I do think like should swim with like. I swim with the "don't submit to something that could get you killed until you've known the guy for awhile and know he isn't an idiot with an inflated ego" crowd. If you think that makes me a guppy go for it - I don't think this behavior makes you or anyone else a shark, unless by that you mean a fairly unthinking but advanced killing machine with no concern for it's actions on other creatures and is prone to eating it's own children.

Hey, you picked the animal. I have more respect for the submission of someone who went a through hair-cutting mind fuck. The sword thing is just a scene and it doesn't even require one to be submissive to pull it off. To submit to someone changing your appearence, something that will affect you every day... Just strikes me as much more meanful.




everhope -> RE: -=Damocles mind fuck=- (8/11/2008 8:31:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin
You asked for mind fucks and I will give you one. 


pulse racing, goosebumps story of the best mind fuck that i have ever heard. i stopped breathing at paragraph 10. 
thank you for sharing, erin.
 




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