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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:25:48 PM   
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He's not being insulting, he's proving his dominance and that he is worthy of your respect.

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That's how they get respect in prison.

Don't you see the orange jumpsuit he's wearing in that picture?

If we don't acknowledge his dominance soon, he might have to shank someone.

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:27:33 PM   
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So, I read this post at 1:30 PM, when there were less than 30 responses.  I went back to work to ponder the topic.  I return to find more than 100 responses and there seems to be a little tiff brewing?  What have you people been doing all day???  Don't answer that.


Unfortunately LaT, the people who could learn volumes from this thread are the people who won't know that it's just for them.  It's a great post and I had lots and lots to add to it, until I read through the rest of the posts and so many of you hit on all of the points I wanted to make.  So, instead of reiterating, I will post a few quotes and ideas that relate to the topic and take a quick trip out for ice cream.


The superior man is modest in his speech, but exceeds in his actions. Confucius (551 BC - 479 BC), The Confucian Analects



If you have to tell everyone that you are worthy and deserving of their respect, you probably are not.




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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:41:25 PM   
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Thought this was an interesting thread and here is my 2 cents. I have the age but not the experience. I have dominant tendencies. The problem I have is even if a Master/Dominant is a very good one...he/she is only good to those that served them. Not to every submissive/slave out there.

Everyone has different needs and wants as well as different experiences in different tools/implements. To me there is no Grand Master or Grand Dom.

I would expect common courtesy/respect from anyone that I talk to or who talks to me and that is irrelevant of what position or title they use. As people interact then the respect is either deepened or lessened by both parties.

Being in the military...I had to obey the officers...but there were a lot of them that I did not respect.

Just my thoughts

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:47:37 PM   
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It's  obvious to me that no one here even begins to understand what I said in my first post. In order for BDSM to work, there has to be Dominants and submissives.  For BDSM to work, submissives need to SUBMIT. For BDSM to work, there has to be a trust/belief  that Dominants are what they claim to be and submissives are what they claim to be.


Yes, but what you seem to be unable to grasp is the fact that dominance and submission, in the context of BDSM, only happens within the sphere of a interpersonal relationship involving two people. Thus, the trust/belief and the notion of respect only has to exist between those two individuals for BDSM to work.

There is no great social hierarchy of dominants and submissives. They are merely identities taken by individuals with no credentials or requirements needed.

Being a dominant in BDSM is not the same as being a doctor in normal society.

Never has been. Never will be.

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In this case,  things sure seem to have broken down! Here, subs distrust the credentials of ANY and ALL Dominants, unless they have had the opportunity to PROVE their dominance to THEM!


Are you suggesting that people should instantly give up control of aspects of their lives to the first guy on the Internet who comes by wearing a prison jumpsuit?

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Doms offer other Doms ZERO respect here.


I can't say I agree. Some self identified dominants on these boards offer me a lot of respect for simply being me. This is based off my character and my thoughts I share here and not some false notion of a social position that doesn't exist.

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I'm sorry, but it just doesn't work that way in real life!




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If I believed that I had the right to question the credentials of every police officer that pulled me over then I'd be spending a lot of time in jail! I simply have to trust that they are who they claim to be-until they show otherwise.


No, you don't. You have to right to see their badge as soon as they claim to be a police officer.

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Whether I personally like them or not, I have to respect their POSITION as an authority figure.


No, you don't HAVE to. There just can be consequences if you don't.

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This is what I spoke of in my original post-respecting the position. And from what I can see, not a single one of you 'got it'.


Because your wrong. Completely, utterly and unequivocally wrong.

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Are your collective minds THAT closed?


Or not dumb enough to believe me...

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What I speak of is called a leap of faith.  I believe that the guy who just put on blue lights, pulled me over and got out of his car is a cop. I make that leap of faith. I treat him respectfully and usually get off with a warning. Could he be a fake? Possible-but unlikely! The point is that I make that leap of faith that he is who he claims to be-and then I respect his position as an authority figure. 


Or you could...you know....just ask for their badge.

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It's the same with BDSM.  If I walk into a dungeon and see a guy dressed in black tying up a woman, I make the leap of faith that he's a Dominant. I don't walk over to him and ask to see his resume or credentials.   I don't quiz him on his knowledge. I make the ASSUMPTION that he's the real deal


Or you could...you know...just ask him his identity in the course of getting to know him and avoid the possibility of getting slapped in the face for assuming they might be submissive and "disrespecting" them as I image you probably would do.

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and treat him as such-with the respect that a Dominant should expect.


Except no such social position granting some degree of special entitlement of respect to Dominants exists outside of maybe a High Protocol group where all members agree to follow such social protocols.

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I'm beginning to realize that this simply does not happen here.
 

And because it really doesn't happen anywhere....

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I'm beginning to realize that this is not real BDSM as I know and practice.


Maybe because the real BDSM you know and practice is a fictitious abstract creation in your own mind, brought to life in between late night Internet porno sessions and breaks for Dorritos....

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It's a bunch of subs who whine and spend most of their time 'topping from the bottom' and a bunch of 'Doms' that let them get away with it. If that's what you want to do, then who am I to tell you otherwise? Go right ahead and believe/do whatever you want.


What does this have to do with anything?

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In the first line of my profile it says; "I am the real deal. No more, no less".  That describes me to a T.  Frankly, I don't care if anyone here believes me and/or respects me or not-what I DO care about  is when I walk into a Dungeon that I get the respect there that I deserve. And 99% of the time I do.

I'm willing to accept those odds.


Uh huh....


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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:48:49 PM   
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.... and take a quick trip out for ice cream.



OH YOU SADISTIC BITCH!!!!!!!!!!!!! it better not be chocolate or I will never respect you!!!

editted to add

ok.. maybe I will still respect you alittle bit... but  I will not like you!

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:50:24 PM   
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Oops, guess I should read through the whole thread before posting a reply...

Would have saved me some time....

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:54:18 PM   
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Oops, guess I should read through the whole thread before posting a reply...

Would have saved me some time....


yeah... would of saved me time reading it too... damn... I thought I was reading something I would of wrote.............  have I told you that I respect you lately?  even thou your an asshole!  I still respect you..........

Gosh.. why do I feel like I am telling that hot babe in the morning that I respect her after I had my way with her all night.

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:57:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists


Oops, guess I should read through the whole thread before posting a reply...

Would have saved me some time....


yeah... would of saved me time reading it too... damn... I thought I was reading something I would of wrote.............  have I told you that I respect you lately?  even thou your an asshole!  I still respect you..........

Gosh.. why do I feel like I am telling that hot babe in the morning that I respect her after I had my way with her all night.


Because as Honorary Assholes in the Big Dominant Asshole Club were required to respect each other and therefore, it's kind of hollow and empty.

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 5:58:37 PM   
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So... two Alpha Dominants meeting each other for the first time who circle each other snarling and sniffing each others butts... is that showing respect?

See? I am staying on topic..

C-D

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:00:42 PM   
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So... two Alpha Dominants meeting each other for the first time who circle each other snarling and sniffing each others butts... is that showing respect?

See? I am staying on topic..

C-D


That depends on the distance the nose is from the butt....

Otherwise, it might not be respect, but hot man-on-man Alpha love...

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:13:15 PM   
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Because as Honorary Assholes in the Big Dominant Asshole Club were required to respect each other and therefore, it's kind of hollow and empty.


mmmmmmmmmm is that kind of like... Respect me because I am Dominant????

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:19:04 PM   
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If I believed that I had the right to question the credentials of every police officer that pulled me over then I'd be spending a lot of time in jail! I simply have to trust that they are who they claim to be-until they show otherwise. Whether I personally like them or not, I have to respect their POSITION as an authority figure. This is what I spoke of in my original post-respecting the position. And from what I can see, not a single one of you 'got it'.


Where I used to live, the police department used to advocate that people question the creditials of someone who pulled them over, especially if you were a young woman traveling alone.  My father, who was once a police officer, always told me to not stop for a car with flashing lights unless I was in a safe place.

With the cell phone age, women travelling alone are encouraged to call the police department and give the description of their vehicle, where they are travelling to find out if the person flashing their lights at them is a cop. 

I can't imagine any police officer worthy of the position who would have a hard time or arrest someone who wanted to verify who they actually are.  It is only those not worthy of the position, or who is not an actual cop that would get pissed.

Knight's Kyra

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:21:33 PM   
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That depends on the distance the nose is from the butt....

Otherwise, it might not be respect, but hot man-on-man Alpha love...


That's it then............ No butt smelling... HARD LIMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:22:54 PM   
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Going along the same lines as Kyra and other posters:  Do not blindly trust all police officers.

I wasnt going to post this but  here I am.

I would never pull along aside a dark, secluded road with the mere presence of  bluelights flashing in my rear window.  I would wait and pull over in a lighted parking lot of a gas station or the like.  Just because someone wears a uniform does not mean he or she gets automatic respect from me nor does it means he wants to assist me in anyway..  There was a local incident a few years back where an actual cop (within 5 miles of my residence) bit off the the nipple and sexually assaulted a woman he pulled over.  Later, he had a stand-off at his estranged spouse's place of employment and the story gets worse from there.  Law officials here recommend that you protect yourself and not stop in unsafe conditions. One should preceed by driving slowly and safely to a well-lighted location.  Please trust your instincts and be safe. Moral of the story:  Use a little caution before handing over someone your life or your vulnerability.

The actually court papers are available online as public record.

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:25:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

So... two Alpha Dominants meeting each other for the first time who circle each other snarling and sniffing each others butts... is that showing respect?

See? I am staying on topic..

C-D


That depends on the distance the nose is from the butt....

Otherwise, it might not be respect, but hot man-on-man Alpha love...


Ok,now that was funny ;)


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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:40:07 PM   
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What I speak of is called a leap of faith.  I believe that the guy who just put on blue lights, pulled me over and got out of his car is a cop. I make that leap of faith. I treat him respectfully and usually get off with a warning. Could he be a fake? Possible-but unlikely! The point is that I make that leap of faith that he is who he claims to be-and then I respect his position as an authority figure. 



I logged off and climbed into bed, but the god-awful stupidity of this statement and completely outrageous and ludicrous nature of this suggestion of action compelled me to come back and make a second post bashing it.

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 6:49:37 PM   
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  You might not know or like a person, but if they ARE a Dom, then they deserve a certain respect for their POSITION!  


Someone may believe they deserve my respect, they may even be right, but they are not going to get it until I have seen with my own eyes, heard with my own ears, the qualities that I believe are respectable. 
But I do applaud you for presenting an opinion that highlights exactly what LaTigresse said in her OP! 


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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 7:16:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

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ORIGINAL: CruelDesires

So... two Alpha Dominants meeting each other for the first time who circle each other snarling and sniffing each others butts... is that showing respect?

See? I am staying on topic..

C-D


That depends on the distance the nose is from the butt....

Otherwise, it might not be respect, but hot man-on-man Alpha love...


For the record, I *will* pay to see two hot Alphas going at it....

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 7:26:07 PM   
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That's it then............ No butt smelling... HARD LIMIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Age + Experience = Respect??? No...I don't think so... - 8/12/2008 7:27:31 PM   
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I think being called an "adorable youngster" is kind of annoying. -.-;

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