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TreasureKY -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/19/2008 2:07:29 PM)
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lol... Yep, this is familiar.
I don't really think it is so much a dom thing as it is a man thing. Not every man, of course, but a good enough percentage in my own experience. Sexual release has a soporific affect on men to begin with, and it does seem like a good many aren't inclined to make any further effort after they've gotten their release.
I do suspect that there are doms who use their position as a good excuse not to worry about pleasing their sub. And I would imagine there are a few doms who became one just so they could demand bjs and not have to reciprocate.
Thing is, a man like this does himself no favor in the long run. If he's not upfront at the beginning of a relationship about what he expects and what he will honestly provide, he will most likely end up losing any woman he connects with. I don't know too many women who will put up with being sexually denied for very long... or even just being thrown a bone every now and again (pun intended [;)]). Of those that do stick it out, some eventually lose all sexual interest... their bodies stop responding to any stimuli with their partner because it learns (pavlovian style) that there's no reward... some just seek to have their needs filled elsewhere on the sly... and some just take care of themselves and let resentment build.
Of course, there are women who honestly don't care... who get their own pleasure from providing pleasure to their mate. If it works for them that way, then I'd guess they both would be happy.
Sad part is, I know of no way to be able to identify this kind of man beforehand. About the only thing I can think of is, if you are in a position to affect the direction of bedroom activities or make demands, insist on you getting your's first.
If you are a sub or slave? Forget it. [;)]
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