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Emperor1956 -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/22/2008 11:46:30 PM)
quote: Asherdelampyr: This You are what? blowing these guys in thier car after dinner? so he ate a meal, had a blowjob... What is it you are expecting at this point? Dom or not, a majority of guys with any sexual orientation do "shut off" after coming... Just the way we are wired. You want to know if they are into you after? TALK TO THEM Yes, we "shut down" after orgasm. We get sleepy. We get woozy. But we also sometimes look across the car seat/bed/park bench with heavily lidded eyes and think "OH SHIT...THAT'S who it is?" And then, its 23 skidoo, baby. And perhaps that's why there is so often inequity in the sexual play. Consider, please, the source. E. I'm reminded again of "coyote ugly".

WhiplashSmile2 -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/23/2008 12:08:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ravenslaveheart to the OP (still reading the thread) i hear you, have been there. in fact my first Dom who trained me "into the lifestyle" so to say, was the one who told me it was my duty to please him whenever and wherever, yet asking for any pleasure of my own would be topping from the bottom. luckily i met better men as time went by, but honestly, every Dom i've ever met has the same mindset - i do for them, they might do for me but only as a reward for some behavior or service. i wonder if Dominants (male and female) think this kind of mindset is the only proper mindset for a Dominant? a "one, twue" sort of thing? The downside is that this tends to be the stereotypical mindset. Many people fall into the trapping of stereotyping compared to sitting back evaluating what they like, want and enjoy. I have always allowed for and permitted my partners to assert thier sexual interest, likes and dislikes. In terms of sex, yes I tend to want it on demand. When it comes to a sub/slave asserting their desire for sex, yes an optional thing that only good girls get. Anyways, more times then not, I'd engage in sex with a willing submissive parter throwing the naked body before me. Come on, what self respecting guy would not want to fuck a naked girl throwing herself at him? I've been asked when it comes letting a submissive be on top during sex, I'm just fine with that one too. I mean, gee.. I can sort of kick back, relax and enjoy her taking a ride. Does not freak me out, make me scream out loud and accuse of trying to take control from me, or that the whole damn relationship D/s dynamic is going to crumble to dust. The proper mindset of any Dominant should be one this "I'll damn well do the things I enjoy and believe should be in a relationship, and screw the stereotyping". Any Dom that can toss the stereotyping aside and simply enjoy and do the things they enjoy has a proper mindset. The whole posturing and conforming to what they think a DOM should be is what gets most Doms into trouble. But this is only my opinions, thoughts and views on this. I'm just another pervy guy on an adult website after all.

Paulnz -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/23/2008 12:28:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hippiekinkster Good call. You should read his posts on Bondage.com. Looking through your profile, word of advice, if she won't meet after a year and living just down the road, that might be a hint there old Chap. Ahaha.

NumberSix -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/23/2008 12:42:49 AM)
You know, goddammit!!! I am now feeling a little sexually disconnected as a Dom, right now, and it makes me throw up in my mouth, just a little. Ron

NeedingMore220 -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/23/2008 6:28:52 AM)
quote: luckily i met better men as time went by, but honestly, every Dom i've ever met has the same mindset - i do for them, they might do for me but only as a reward for some behavior or service. Hmmm... my Dom allows me to 'do for him' as a reward for being a 'good girl' while playing, not the other way round. I'm a lucky girl. [:)]

TwilightShadows -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/23/2008 8:36:39 AM)
Hmm, you asked "how do you identify them before you get to the bj part." Here's the genious co-vert operation I undertake....I ASK THEM! (not being a jerk, trying to be funny CanyStripper). This is of key importance to me, and I have had people in the getting to know you chat stage, that say something along the lines of, "BDSM is NOT about sex, therefore there is no sex in my play." I say, "Alrgihty then, you have yourself a nice day Sir." WTF?? I'm no expert, but I know when it's a damn shame to waste all of that ahem - precipitation - and wonderful erotic build up. <eg>

everhope -> RE: Sexually Disconnected Doms (8/23/2008 10:28:27 AM)
candy, in your profile you describe yourself as a "empath" and one who possesses a "sixth sense". then in this OP, you ask us how to tell if it is only a BJ that they want. seems to me that if your sixth sense was so keen that you would not need us to interpret for you. also, in your profile you ask (demand) for a recent photo and then state all of your photos are not recent. so you think having 10 year old photos of yourself is ok, but he better have a recent one! you are more than a little contradictory in everything you say on CM. that in itself would be enough for me to not engage with you, if i were a Dominant....well unless i just wanted a blow job. you should be clear in your definition of "pleasure submissive" your definition reads to me that it is your pleasure you are interested in met not the Dominants. anyway... may we all find our bliss.

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