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RE: Doms access to email - 8/22/2008 11:13:43 PM

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Did you offer him your throat;
Did you offer him your loins?

Meatloaf............gonna get outta here like a bat outta hell.......

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/22/2008 11:19:30 PM

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dammit, Ron.... *goes to dig out that cd*

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/22/2008 11:22:41 PM

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Pop by the house and live it on the end of a leash, Bitch........

you don't need a CD, you can sing it to me when I come home.

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Somewhere; beyond the sea..............
Waiting for me...........

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/22/2008 11:32:03 PM

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The Man Unit ties me up, blindfolds and gags me and could easily do away with me during those times. I trust him with my life. In addition, we are on each others bank accounts and credit cards. He could, in the blink of an eye, ruin me financially (as I could him!) He can squash me emotionally like a bug. Trusting him with passwords is a no brainer for me. That said, I can't imagine he would ever have the interest to go through my email. He'd probably be bored to tears. Now that I think about it, most of my mail is pretty dull. I do get a raunchy joke once in a while that might make him chuckle though.

YMMV - and that is completely up to you and yours

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/22/2008 11:37:40 PM

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Ashamed to admit, but in case of long and full time relationship, i'd give it all to Her. Oh well, maybe i would have to take some beating first just to enjoy more handing it over. Depending on the relationship, either:
- There would be no way that closest people (those who are likely to send me something of really private matter) wouldn't know or be warned of the possibility through.
- i would have full trust She is not willing to harm any of those people.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/22/2008 11:55:01 PM

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Regardless if I am viewed as sub, slave, cum rag, pet or everything the issue of passwords is something that is entirely contextual. I don't think he ever needs to know my work passwords because clients have an absolute right to privacy - otherwise he can support me entirely and I won't need to have a work e-mail he can't peek into.

My personal e-mail is iffy. As it stands, Val knows just about every password I use for EVERYTHING, e-mail, banking, etc. - baring work and those that are old I never bother with anymore. He's never actually asked for them but other the course of living together I've asked him to check e-mail while I was on the run or to print something out while trying to multi-task. As it stands, he can get into any e-mail account that contains personal letters - including my CM account. Does he? I highly doubt it and I would be surprised if he ever checked. This isn't something that happened overnight and it isn't something I would have comfortable with right away.

For the most part, anything I hear or know Valyraen finds out about. But Val and I have also agreed that there are certain things that we don't need to know about each other's friends or family members. I have been told things in confidence that in no way affect Val, me or our relationship but would embaress the other person if someone else was told. I'm sure he is told things sometimes that, as they will not affect me, I simply don't need to know about. If I was asked to keep something secret that would affect him, like driving across state to pick up a friend... well that is something I couldn't keep from him and simply would refuse to. This is not the way every relationship works but it's how ours works.

YMMV

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 3:03:38 AM

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I agree with GreedyTop... I dont mind if my hubby wants to read my emails, most of them are junk anyways, but sometimes my best friend is confiding in me and wants it to stay between us. My husband knows my best friend and would completly understand his wanting our conversation to be private. I think you need to talk to him about how you feel about it. Its all about the communications you set forth. You need to explain that its not about NOT trusting him, but your friend trusting you in your confidance. You have a responsiblity to that friends trust just as you do with your Doms. Maybe you could set up a private email account just for that friend and for your family. Something that is personal to you and that can remain private. Just an idea. Good luck :)

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 3:33:00 AM

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Nope, would never give anyone my e-mail or any other password. Not even if Jesus or Buddha or whatever god you wanna pick came down and asked. I enjoy my privacy and if they want to know something they can just ask.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 3:38:54 AM

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Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

baby, look here-----------

show me how you do it when you're alone-----------

that's my good girl....

just get me there, I don't need a whatchamacalit, I got you...really, baby, you are so sweet

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:36:55 AM

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quote:

when He asked for all my passwords, at first i balked at bit. but it was really a control issue more than anything else. and also a reminder that i am His. although he does not read my emails or look at my chat logs he could at any time. there is one account though that He does not have access to and it was something that we discussed and he encouraged me in and that was the sub sisters forum where no Doms are allowed to have access so that the subs could talk freely.

I am His. If there is anyone i am chatting with who I think would not suspect that all my chats are logged and he has access to both my chats and my emails, i would tell them.
OTOH, I have believed since back when I lived as a vanilla married to my first husband - no one ever has a right to an expectation of privacy that includes someones lifepartner, unless they specifically ask for it - and i consider doing that to be wrong, most of the time. No one has a right to expect or ask that someone keep secrets from their life partner, no matter how benighn the secrets are, or how much they do not involve the secret keeper.
If I tell a friend something, i accept the possibility of pillow talk, but i trust that they have chosen a partner with as much descrection as they themselves have (how ever much that may be) and i just accept it.
As I like to tell male friends who don't understand this concept sometimes - 'Trust me, if you have a star shaped mole on your ass, your wife's best friend knows about it.'

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:45:18 AM

camille65

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I think that people emailing you do indeed have a right to their privacy, I would feel wrong inside having someone read their emails to me especially if they were friends of mine discussing their private lives.

If my owner wanted to read my emails I would alert or put in my signature that there is no expectation of privacy so that my correspondents would know.

Now my owner actually does have every password and I mean every password to everything, but it is because I tend to forget them. He never asked for the passwords, I asked if he would hold on to them for me and he has. Not once to my knowledge has he gone into my accounts except for those times I couldn't access them and needed information. Then he goes and looks then tells me the stuff I need (such as when I haven't internet access thanks to Charter going down and I need to make sure a bill got paid).

If he had asked for the passwords I don't know how I would have felt about it but I would have complied. If he wanted to read all my mail and chat logs again, I don't know how I would feel but I would comply and tell all that I talk with that he has access.

There is nothing I hold back from him so that part isn't an issue. The issue in my mind is the privacy of the other people and it would be wrong to not let them know about it.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 6:48:11 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: camille65

I think that people emailing you do indeed have a right to their privacy,

Bullshit.... it is like any other ASSUMPTION, not worth the paper it is written on. If they ASK that is a different matter but they have NO right to assume.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 6:56:32 AM

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Personaly i have several e mail acounts, different profiles online. If Master whanted the pasword for my day to day personal one i would hessetate. My friends use it and its also for school and things like this. Nothing from this lifestyle ever ends up in that acount. Anything else that might involve Master like correspondence here, on other places like this. absolutly, if he whanted it but he has never asked.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 9:28:13 AM

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I get tingles just because it sounds like you're making commitments to things BEFORE really understanding what you're getting into and whether that will work with you.

If you haven't heard it before- he has the authority you BOTH agree to.

In my situation, my partner and I have access to everything, but that's because we live together, it makes practical sense and in case of emergencies. Has nothing to do with Ds or kink. I also do not give anyone an expectation that I will keep things from my partner, and I certainly don't expect it in anyone else.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 12:38:09 PM

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quote:

RavenMuse :

quote:

:ORIGINAL: camille65 I think that people emailing you do indeed have a right to their privacy,
Bullshit.... it is like any other ASSUMPTION, not worth the paper it is written on. If they ASK that is a different matter but they have NO right to assume.

Exactly, Raven. No one ever has the right to expect that other people will behave, in regards to them, inside of the bounderies of an agreement to which they had no part in making and never agreed to.
If you write someone here, are you telling me that you assume that they won't share that with their spouse, best friend, print it out and pass it around the office, put it up on some outside website dedicated to making fun of people and their emails?
I assume that they will not post any email i send them to the forums here, with my screen name attached - because that is in TOS, and, therefore, when they joined this group, they agreed to that behavoir agreement. When did the varoius people you write ever agree that they would not share your email with their life partners?

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:14:06 PM

Briena

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My friends dont need to assume that I will keep there private business private. If it doesnt have anything to do with myself, or my husband than no one needs to know about it. Just as I dont expect my husband to tell me his friends private conversations. They dont involve me, so I dont need to know. Why would I want to know other than just to be nosy? If my husband wants to know something all he has to do is ask, but he doesnt need to read private emails that my friends send me, just as I dont need to read his... Unless it involves the other person. Its not like youre having an affair that you are keeping private, youre keeping your friends personal life private.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:17:16 PM

GreedyTop

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exactly, Briena

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:17:47 PM

Briena

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She said she was worried about personal emails between her and a good friend. Its different if you email someone that you dont know with some random email than youre friend telling you that shes pregnant and going to have an abortion... Thats private and no one needs to know that unless she asks you to tell anyone. Or that they are having surgery or anything else like that, its not your business to post or put out there. Youre the friend, youre there to listen and to support them because thats what friends do. I mean if your friend tells you a funny joke then whatever its not anything personal, but sometimes you should just keep your mouth shut about thing that you are told. Atleast thats how I feel.

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:19:10 PM

GreedyTop

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*adores Briena*

thats the point I was trying to make yesterday (this morning??)

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RE: Doms access to email - 8/23/2008 5:22:09 PM

Briena

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Aww I feel so loved <3 <3 <3

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