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Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:05:23 PM

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I know there has been afew threads on where you sleep if you're an s type and where you allow your s type to sleep if your a d type. I'm curious to know though if you are allowed in the bed / allow your s type in the bed how you sleep?

When i was married in a nilla marriage i remember (vaguely) that we both used to cuddle up to go to sleep (in the good times) but by morning we would be at opposite sides of the bed.

In my last D/s relationship Sir would allow me to snuggle up but i would move away when asleep. He would get me back over to him by using me as a glove puppet! His hand would go between my legs, he'd insert fingers and pull me across the bed. I always woke up and he would be doing this in his sleep. His fingers would remain there until after i had gone back to sleep at least.

In the D/s relationship i am in now again i snuggle up to go to sleep and then move away when asleep. Sir pulls me back to him by the collar and i wake up choking lol. Again he is fast asleep when he does this, he removes his hand once i am snuggled back into him. This can happen several times a night.

So i was wondering how do you sleep?
Does your D type have a way of getting you back to him if you move away during the night?
Is he asleep or awake when doing this?
Does your s type move away from you during the night and do you pull her back to you? If so how?
Are you usually awake or asleep?
Also any clues as to the whys some d types do this in their sleep?

Edited to seperate some of the garble lol

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:21:33 PM

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I don't want anyone cuddling up against me. (Except for that 10# canine that seems to think she needs to crawl under the covers and curl up againt my stomach and put her nose up between my boobs......spoiled little bitch she is..)

I get too hot. If someone tried cuddling up against me at night one of us would end up on the floor. Probably not me.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:23:29 PM

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That whole heat thing IS something of an issue... I do like having a person within reach, though. In case I have a sudden urge.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:25:16 PM

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If I'm sharing a bed, I will curl up until they go to sleep and then move as far to the other side of the bed as possible. I also don't sleep much. If I get pulled back, I just wait until they're sleeping again and move back. I'm quite persistant.

One day, I'll find someone who'd rather I slept on the floor :P

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:28:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
(Except for that 10# canine that seems to think she needs to crawl under the covers and curl up againt my stomach and put her nose up between my boobs......spoiled little bitch she is..)

LaT, I bet that line is going to have a whole bunch of people wishing they were a dog.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:29:45 PM

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I get over heated a lot too but i do like to snuggle.
The 1st Dom i spoke of very rarely let me in the bed, i was usually chained to the floor.
The 2nd, i've only ever slept in bed with him. But saying that we have only spent two nights together so far. This saturday will make three - yay

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:29:53 PM

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You'd think I'd learn wouldn't you?

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:32:01 PM

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My Sir doesn't want me sleeping on the floor - he thinks that would be depriving him of my body -hehe.

My Sir also likes to snuggle - and i get way too hot!! He complains that i move as far away from as i can - lol - but i really don't like sleeping on sweat soaked sheets. I like winter way more, because i am more comfortable. We do like to rub feet in our sleep though.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:32:12 PM

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Master keeps an arm around me till we fall asleep but we spread out during the night. if we are not touching when He feels around for me, He will either wrap an arm around my waist or His leg around mine. He often says "as long as we're touching, it's ok". i don't do well with bear hug grips either, too hot! LOL

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:33:33 PM

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We each go to sleep on our own side of the bed, me on my side facing away from Him (because He leaves His light on) and He sitting up with his light on and book on his lap.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:33:39 PM

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When I'm sleeping in bed with him I'd swear he has 20 arms. He hugs me, completely hugged by his arms and legs all night. If I'm lucky I can slide a foot out from under the covers to try and balance the heat. I almost always sleep with one foot out, but when with him sometimes I'm delightfully trapped.

I have to say he is the best sleeper companion I've ever known and I've 'slept' with nearly every friend of mine. He drops off almost immediately and makes very little noise.

Yum. Now I have happy thoughts, of being caught up against his chest and our legs all tangled together.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:36:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

We each go to sleep on our own side of the bed, me on my side facing away from Him (because He leaves His light on) and He sitting up with his light on and book on his lap.

Oh there is no way I could sleep like that! I need complete darkness and quiet. And a really cold room. My feet are almost always sticking out the bottom also.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:40:32 PM

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We have several positions that we alternate throughout the night as we both have joint issues and it's hard to stay in one position for too long. Sometimes he has me lay my head on his tummy and puts his cock in my mouth, his hand on my ass and I fall asleep suckling on him. Other times he will have me lay in the crook of his armpit with my head on his shoulder, then he pulls my knee up on his tummy and holds my knee. Either those or he will cuddle up behind me, one hand holding my breast, the other hand in my crotch. Wherever we move to though he wakes right up if we're not touching and yanks me back.

The other night he woke up in the middle of the night and punched me in the arm and said "Slug bug...green and tan!" I said "where?????" Yup, it was in his dream!

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 2:42:25 PM

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I like being the little spoon, but before sleeping, not actually when sleeping. (see previous response about getting as far away from the other person in the bed as humanly possible)

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 3:04:40 PM

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dammit.... a king size bed and no King........<sigh>

I like to snuggle until i'm ready to fall asleep.....but during the night i like to be at least touching in some way....even if it's just legs or hips or curled up behind the other person.....

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 3:10:21 PM

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FR: Well, I have severe obstructive sleep apnea, and so I use a CPAP machine every night. This means that my bed partner(s) have the wonderful experience of sleeping with Snoreasauraus, complete with a "crest" on top of My head that can flare up like a horny Cockatoo (or a lizard -- takes your pick). It also means that there is a steady stream of air blown from the exhaust valve (just about between My eyes) into the face (or whatever) of whomever I'm sleeping with. Sounds fun, eh?

This results in a variety of behaviors from My bedmate, varying from the "build a fort with pillows and blankets so I can avoid Hurricane Emp. and get some sleep" to "I love to feel the wind in my hair" sports coupe pose. Probably the sweetest thing any bed partner ever said to Me was that she loved feeling the air because it made her feel that even in My sleep I was caressing her *smile*.

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Added: (1) Really, I'm told I'm a lot of fun to sleep with. I have references!
(2) You might, if you have no idea what OSA is, wonder why I do all this every night? Well, it beats constant sleep deprivation, significant weight gain, exhaustion, heart palpitations and...oh yah...death. My former slave (who was with Me before and after the OSA diagnosis) said that before I started using the CPAP, she would stay awake all night watching Me sleep not out of love or romance, but out of fear that I would die, as I would choke, gasp for air and then appear to sleep for about a minute several dozen times a night. Fun Fun. If you suspect ANYONE you know has sleep apnea, get them tested and treated immediately. It is an insidiously dangerous medical condition.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 3:19:28 PM

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This is Darcy

I like the.dark. to be in my arms when we fall asleep, and then whatever human muscle response feels is necessary takes over until I wake or stir and find that she has drifted and then I pull her back close to me. I like to feel her warmth and her breath on my neck.

Though it clearly works for others, I want the benefit of a warm body against mine, rather than have it shivering on the floor (yes, yes, dramatic license).

(and miss T - yay for you

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 3:20:28 PM

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*waves*

I also have OSA... and a CPAP. And I snore something awful. This is part of why I don't sleep when sharing, cos I don't want to wake up my bedmate.

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 3:20:50 PM

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After I get permission to to come out of submission, I curl up at my Master's feet. If He decides He wants me closer, He invites me up to lay with Him. Luckily, He likes to have me close. lol We might lay there for a while in different positions talking, but we always fall asleep the same- I turn away from Him, He pulls me as close as possible with His arms around me and sandwhiches my bottom leg with His. It is very hot as He's His own human furnance, but I'm always cold so it works out for me. If I move away at all durng the night, He'll reach for me and pull me back, usually mumbling something in His sleep like "there you are" and kiss my shoulder- I love that He looks for me in His sleep! Apparently though if He tries to put His hand between my legs, I smack it! I swear, I never remember doing it, but He loves to do it repeatedly through the night now just to see if I will keep smacking Him. Good thing He knows I'm asleep.....

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RE: Bed Behaviour!! - 8/26/2008 3:33:06 PM

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We both sleep on our sides butts touching. I get hot easily and don't want to be touched all the time. But when I do I can reach behind me and grab him by his cock and hold onto him

while he sleeps. Of course while my hand is on it, he usually forgets about sleeping real fast.

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