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CelticPrince -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 11:45:13 AM)

 
kyst,

Well hell it was her business, but it might possibly been my business also. She certainly would have been provided with mine.

CP





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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

I think that would have insulted me too.  Not because you asked for proof of health, but because you brought up my sexual history at a simple lunch on a fly by.  To me that would be like assuming if I was ok, we might be having sex.
STOP!  LOL I would have asked for the check.  Unless you two were planning something more intimate, maybe she thought her sexual health was her business?
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

About two months ago after talking with a subfem for a few months, I scheduled a stop at her city while on a business trip, it was just a lunch at a restruarant near the airport. Many opening and confirming subjects were discussed and things were doing well and then I broached the subject of  proof of health, last test etc. An instant chill flew across the table as if I had insulted her.
yes i understand that for those that use sleeves it is not a issue, however for those that go "natual" it is an inportant issue as someone can be a carrier and not even be aware of it.

Any commnets?

CPl





Bstardsbitch -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 11:46:18 AM)

Often it doesn't matter how many sexual partners you have had. I was married for fifteen years, the only man I had had sex with since I was seventeen.Just after we divorced I had a normal smear test.Guess what I had one of those hidden, no symptom STI's...
sometimes you just don't know.




CalifChick -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 11:49:17 AM)

I don't see it as someone saying they don't trust ME, I see it as someone saying, "you never know what anyone else you slept with did before you, no matter what they say."  Too bad more people don't see it that way.


Cali




CelticPrince -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 11:51:18 AM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Secret... but that one person? Have THEY ever been with anyone else?


GT,

Exactly my thoughts, but would he tell the truth, many will not!

CP




vield -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 12:29:18 PM)

Yes there are many ways of getting tested for most things.

I am currently fluid bonded with one partner with no fluid exchanges with others.

This could change. We do safe play with others, we may bring someone into our relationship if it seems right. If so, that person will have no unsafe sex with either of us until we are both sure that they are a safe partner. This will require testing after they enter the relationship as well as before.

I do carry a couple of years worth of test results with me to events and I do share them with potential play partners even though we plan safe play. It is not a good negotiation approach to ask others for data you do not give them.

I also plan to get vaccinated against every STD that I can get vaccinated against as soon as my Dr. tells me a new vaccination is safe and effective.

Everyone should get the Hepatitis B vaccination. This virus is tougher than HIV virus (which dies easily outside the body).

All women who have not had it should get the vaccination against HPPV (I think those are the initials?) because there seems to be a connection between a woman catching this and then later getting cervical cancer.

My HMO pays for my STD testing, and they have now come to realize that I expect a printout of the results every year after my annual physical. I used to have to ask each time, now I just remind them.




NuevaVida -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 12:32:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

There is a "panel" of tests that sort of a package deal when it comes to insurance.  They're not necessarily all billed out separately (like a pap test is).  So your insurance may cover more than you think, although cash/clinics are usually a better deal.


Cali



Hi Cali,

My insurance covers the "panel" and then some.  It is important to understand that the "panel" does not cover every test.  It doesn't include HIV, Syphillis, and Hep, I have to ask for those separately.  I'm paying out the nose for a PPO insurance, and what I pay for such tests is nominal, all things considered.

My first complete set of tests was through Planned Parenthood but the Planned Parenthood in Sacramento is no picnic.  Wall to wall women with babies and toddlers running amok in the waiting room, and a very long wait to be tested.  I think I paid $25 four years ago.

Now I'm tested every 6 months to year at my OB/GYN's office and/or my GP. I include it in my annual pap exam, and on occasion I include it with a basic check up with my GP.  I have never been hassled by a doctor about these tests (as someone mentioned earlier in this thread).  In fact, quite the opposite, they seem pleased that I'm being responsible and looking out for myself.

As for asking partners about being disease free, I find nothing offensive about that what-so-ever, in either direction.  My former Master and I were both in agreement that there would be no physical activity of any kind until tests had come back clean.

The man I'm talking to now and planning on meeting brought the subject up right about the time I was going to.  Again, no offense in either direction.  Both of us offered to show our lab results.  It's just a fact of life that risks are involved with sex, so I really don't understand being offended by someone taking precautions.  As with anything, there are calculated risks.  I don't use oral protection for oral sex.  I do kiss.  Etc.  Everyone's level of precautions will vary, but if people are open to such conversations, both parties can make informed decisions.




CelticPrince -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 12:47:26 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Briena

Mono is transmited by kissing, and so is meningitis, which often has no symptoms at all at first.  TB is also transmited by kissing.  Herpes can be transmitted by kissing as well.


Briana,

Methinks you might be in the medical field.

CP




Briena -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 1:32:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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ORIGINAL: Briena

Mono is transmited by kissing, and so is meningitis, which often has no symptoms at all at first.  TB is also transmited by kissing.  Herpes can be transmitted by kissing as well.


Briana,

Methinks you might be in the medical field.

CP


No, Im not in the medical field.  I was in the military though, so I had to learn more about the average things most people do.  Also as a child, my father lied to me and told me that my doctor told him I had herpes.  After that I started to study exstensivly on STDs and other diseases that are transmitted by contact.  It turned out I didnt have herpes, and my father was just a liar.  My brother is an EMT, and my step mother studies to be a nurse, and has an exstensive background in biology and anatomy.  When I was in the military I was like the go to person for medical problems.  I take great pride in knowing the dangers that come with a sexually active lifestyle.  Plus like 99.9% of the military are sluts <3...  They have a tendancy to just pass stuff along to eachother LOL. 




everhope -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 1:48:36 PM)

my medical insurance (HMO) also pays for my yearly STD testing including HIV and the Heps. i get them done yearly along with my pap smear. i do what i can do to protect myself and take responsibility for my sexual adventures. a big part of that is being tested yearly. i also can't do the condom BJ, so i am selective who i offer  my mouth to. exchanging test results is nothing out of the ordinary in my world, in fact i would find it odd if someone was sexually active and did not get tested regulary.
 
may we all find our bliss.  




Lynnxz -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 1:50:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Briena

Plus like 99.9% of the military are sluts <3...  They have a tendancy to just pass stuff along to eachother LOL. 


Hahaha... true story.... when I was in training about half of C company got herpes from fooling around with eachother.






CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 2:59:13 PM)

~fast reply~

Also... my job requires that I get tested annually for the Heps, AIDS, and TB... should I be insulted? (We aren't notified of the results unless they're positive, and can't request the results, so I still have to get tested through my doctor for results that come with a paper trail).

I feel like these things should be met as opportunities to know more about myself and my health... and to care for the health of the people I care about.

CFB





IvyMorgan -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 3:15:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: vield


All women who have not had it should get the vaccination against HPPV (I think those are the initials?) because there seems to be a connection between a woman catching this and then later getting cervical cancer.

For every 1000 women who are vaccianted, possibly one would have gotten cancer and now won't.  (This is the claim made by the manufacturers of the vaccines, btw, not just something I pulled out of the air having watched documentaries, read websites, done research and such like.)

About 80% of women have one of the myriad of viruses.  (and there are about 100 of the damn things, bloody HPV)

Most women who get one of the few viruses that would cause cancer fight it off naturally and without ever knowing it.

Most who get one which would cause cancer and don't fight it off naturally don't get one of the two types of HPV (16 and 18) that the vaccine treats.

There are two vaccines, the US one, GARDASIL, that was licensed first (the company that made it was going under having ploughed resources into R&D for Gardasil and had to get their vaccine licensed and distributed before a competitor did in order to make a decent return and save themselves from going under.  So... they ploughed money into "women in government" and piggy backed the feminist coat-tails, joyful), that is not reknowned for being massivly safe and had a good handful or so of deaths tentativly linked to it, and that got pushed through FDA approval on slightly dodgy grounds (see donating bucket loads to women in government), popularised with an advertising campaign not based on scientic fact but emotional claims (the "one" camapign), and, erm is only effective if you get the shot *before you get infected, i.e. before you have sex* hence the massive outcry/uproar about giving 12 year olds STD shots.

In the UK, we're using Cervarix, which at least hasn't killed anyone yet.

Doctors are concerned that women will think "oh heck I had the vaccine, I won't get HPV" and not go and get smear/pap tests, and so cancer screening will be less effective.  At the moment, we have one of the most effective cervical cancer screening programmes in the world, and the HPV vaccination programme might jeopardise that.

So, as well as costing an arm and a leg, and having the flaws listed above, and having only been tested for 7 years or so, and in the case of Gardasil being dangerous... it might wreck a good thing.

Religious types are getting in a tissy about the whole STD vaccine of 12 year olds leading to promiscuity BS.  And trying to drag abstinance back into the classroom (in the UK, we get you already do this in the US, despite it being proven ineffective if used with more than 30% of pupils in a given class).

Not that my getting the jab will do me any good anyway, cos, duh, I had sex already.

So, do we still think giving a generation of girls a HPV vaccine (not the boys, even though they carry it, we're not giving them to shots) is a good idea?  (I really hope the original "all women who haven't yet, should" statement has been shown to be medical bolony)

*breathes* 




Briena -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 3:36:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lynnxz

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ORIGINAL: Briena

Plus like 99.9% of the military are sluts <3...  They have a tendancy to just pass stuff along to eachother LOL. 


Hahaha... true story.... when I was in training about half of C company got herpes from fooling around with eachother.





Pensacola Florida has the highest outbreak of AIDS/HIV among service members... Crazyness. 




Missokyst -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 3:39:10 PM)

Women are receptacles and in a sexual situation isn't being the one that the fluids being deposited more at risk then the male?  If so, with so many men thinking only of their pleasure and their desire to ride bareback, perhaps it is men that should be considered indiscriminant sluts.  Or at least uncaring ones.
It boggles my mind that so many people are ok with playing with anyone who wont wear a jacket, in a casual situation.
Kyst
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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant

I know, I know, some submissives will consider your asking as an indication that you see them as lying about the number of their previous sex partners...or about their use of condoms...or that you consider them and indiscriminant slut.  They will be insulted.  If they cannot be bothered...neither can I.  And if they are insulted, then I have a feeling that my way of dominance will insult their point of view of D/s anyway.




Briena -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 3:59:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IvyMorgan

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ORIGINAL: vield


All women who have not had it should get the vaccination against HPPV (I think those are the initials?) because there seems to be a connection between a woman catching this and then later getting cervical cancer.

For every 1000 women who are vaccianted, possibly one would have gotten cancer and now won't.  (This is the claim made by the manufacturers of the vaccines, btw, not just something I pulled out of the air having watched documentaries, read websites, done research and such like.)

About 80% of women have one of the myriad of viruses.  (and there are about 100 of the damn things, bloody HPV)

Most women who get one of the few viruses that would cause cancer fight it off naturally and without ever knowing it.

Most who get one which would cause cancer and don't fight it off naturally don't get one of the two types of HPV (16 and 18) that the vaccine treats.

There are two vaccines, the US one, GARDASIL, that was licensed first (the company that made it was going under having ploughed resources into R&D for Gardasil and had to get their vaccine licensed and distributed before a competitor did in order to make a decent return and save themselves from going under.  So... they ploughed money into "women in government" and piggy backed the feminist coat-tails, joyful), that is not reknowned for being massivly safe and had a good handful or so of deaths tentativly linked to it, and that got pushed through FDA approval on slightly dodgy grounds (see donating bucket loads to women in government), popularised with an advertising campaign not based on scientic fact but emotional claims (the "one" camapign), and, erm is only effective if you get the shot *before you get infected, i.e. before you have sex* hence the massive outcry/uproar about giving 12 year olds STD shots.

In the UK, we're using Cervarix, which at least hasn't killed anyone yet.

Doctors are concerned that women will think "oh heck I had the vaccine, I won't get HPV" and not go and get smear/pap tests, and so cancer screening will be less effective.  At the moment, we have one of the most effective cervical cancer screening programmes in the world, and the HPV vaccination programme might jeopardise that.

So, as well as costing an arm and a leg, and having the flaws listed above, and having only been tested for 7 years or so, and in the case of Gardasil being dangerous... it might wreck a good thing.

Religious types are getting in a tissy about the whole STD vaccine of 12 year olds leading to promiscuity BS.  And trying to drag abstinance back into the classroom (in the UK, we get you already do this in the US, despite it being proven ineffective if used with more than 30% of pupils in a given class).

Not that my getting the jab will do me any good anyway, cos, duh, I had sex already.

So, do we still think giving a generation of girls a HPV vaccine (not the boys, even though they carry it, we're not giving them to shots) is a good idea?  (I really hope the original "all women who haven't yet, should" statement has been shown to be medical bolony)

*breathes* 


Actually if you pop positive on one form of HPV, the shot will still protect you against the rest that you have not had.
  • There are about 100 types of HPV. Approximately 40 (this said 30 types but there are actually over 40 so I changed it) of those are spread through genital contact (typically sexual intercourse). Around 12 – called "low-risk" types of HPV – can cause genital warts. In addition, there are approximately 15 "high-risk" types of HPV that can cause cervical cancer

  • Approximately 20 million Americans are currently infected with HPV, and another 6.2 million people become newly infected each year. At least 50% of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives.

  • Other HPV-related cancers are much less common than cervical cancer. The American Cancer Society estimates that in 2008, there will be:
    • 3,460 women diagnosed with vulvar cancer;
    • 2,210 women diagnosed with vaginal and other female genital cancers;
    • 1,250 men diagnosed with penile and other male genital cancers; and
    • 3,050 women and 2,020 men diagnosed with anal cancer.

  • Certain populations may be at higher risk for HPV-related cancers, such as gay and bisexual men, and individuals with weak immune systems (including those who have HIV/AIDS). 

  • A vaccine can now protect females from the four types of HPV that cause most cervical cancers and genital warts. The vaccine is recommended for 11 and 12 year-old girls. It is also recommended for girls and women age 13 through 26 who have not yet been vaccinated or completed the vaccine series.


There is currently no vaccine licensed to prevent HPV-related diseases in men. Studies are now being done to find out if the vaccine is also safe in men, and if it can protect them against HPV and related conditions. The FDA will consider licensing the vaccine for boys and men if there is proof that it is safe and effective for them. There is also no approved screening test to find early signs of penile or anal cancer.


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The CDC says:
  • On June 8, 2006, the FDA licensed Gardasil®, the first vaccine developed to prevent cervical cancer caused by certain kinds of human papillomavirus (HPV) . Since then, more than 16 million doses of Gardasil vaccine have been distrubuted in the United States. At this time, the U.S. does not have a national registry for immunization and vaccination, therefore cannot report the total number of people who have received Gardasil.

  • The FDA has licensed the vaccine as safe and effective. This vaccine has been tested in thousands of females (9 to 26 years of age) around the world. These studies have shown no serious side effects. The most common side effect is brief soreness at the injection site. CDC, working with the FDA and other immunization partners, will continue to monitor the safety of Gardasil.

  • VAERS received 21 reports of death following Gardasil vaccination (17 were U.S. reports, 4 were foreign reports). Of the U.S. reports, only 12 reports contained the level of information adequate for further analysis. After careful review of those reports, VAERS could not establish a causal relationship between vaccination and death.

  • For the remaining 5 U.S. reports of death, one is in the process of being followed up, and for 4 reports, we were unable to obtain any patient identifying information; therefore, we could not confirm death outcomes.


 
Note: While Gardasil was being tested in the U.S. before it was licensed, 10 people in the group that received the HPV vaccine and 7 people in the placebo group died during the trials. None of the deaths was considered vaccine-related.
 
Guillan Barré Syndrome (GBS)

Because GBS occurs at a rate of 1 to 2 per 100,000 people in their teens, it is likely that some cases occur after vaccination by chance alone and are not caused by vaccination. Among 9 to 26 year-olds, the number of reports of GBS received by VAERS are within the range that could be expected to occur by chance alone after a vaccination. Studies are underway to evaluate the risk of GBS that may be associated with receipt of Menactra vaccine.


~~Taken from the CDCs vaccine safty website: 
http://www.cdc.gov/vaccinesafety/vaers/gardasil.htm

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Thems be the facts YO! [;)]




flower2007 -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 4:04:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
Tell you what, dear, I would STILL ask for testing. No insult to you, but I want to see it in writing. Does that mean I don't trust you... probably. The truth is, I don't trust -anyone-, even my doctor, where my health is concerned. I want to see the black-and-white. Do you -realize- how many people say "Oh, I don't have sex with anyone." and then come back later with herpes, vaginal warts (HPV), chlamydia, etc.? With HSV, HPV, chlamydia, syphilis, and gonnorhea, women may have ZERO symptoms, and the illness may lie dormant in -me- as well, until I spread it to someone else.


And honestly...that's fine.  But since I also don't play casually, I would have a HUGE problem with a potential relationship partner not believing I'm a very inexperienced virgin.  You (the general you) have the right to ask, I have the right to walk away from someone who accuses me of lying and violating my own belief system.

And I'm still curious if anyone has actually gotten health records from a vanilla parnter that they've kissed goodnight after a first date.  I'd be willing to bet most haven't.  Since that's as far as I've gone, I'm not sure why bringing BDSM into it makes the situation any different.




Briena -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 4:06:11 PM)

Oh and I forgot... Herpes can be tested for, it is not included in a regular test screening because the test cannot determine which form of herpes you have... HSV 1 and HSV 2 both show up as the same form of herpes on the test.  Thus making it impossible to determine which is which unless visual conformation can be made.  So if you think you are getting tested for herpes, chances are that you probably are not.




IvyMorgan -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 4:33:55 PM)

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Actually if you pop positive on one form of HPV, the shot will still protect you against the rest that you have not had.
As long as it's either type 16 or 18.  Cos those are the two strains the vaccine is effective against.

http://www.immunisation.nhs.uk/Vaccines/HPV/About_the_HPV_vaccine/How_effective_is_HPV_vaccine

I didn't think the vaccine would protect me against 16 and 18 if the type I've currently got is, say, 74.  I've not read *anything* that would indicate that is the case, just that you have to have the vaccine before you get infected with HPV for it to be effective.  Although, yes, the Gardasil programme is 3 shots instead of the 1 that we're using in the UK programme/roll out.  And, yes, it can be used (and can be effective) in older people, I was of the opinion that that efficacy is diminished after the Px becomes sexually active and so at risk of contracting HPV.

I did say that the deaths were not related but under question, perhaps I was not as clear as I might have been.

Certainly, the pressure to pass Gardasil and to push it out across the US is heavily politicised and questioned.  A quick google of "gardasil women in government" pulls up an interesting bunch of reassuring links.

There are issues with mass vaccination programmes about HPV, despite how prevalent HPV is, and the links between HPV and various cancers.  Note, at no point did I say there is no risk of cancer from HPV, just that the risk that is eliminated by use of the vaccine is so small, that a cost benefit analysis makes me think that it's not worth it; there are better uses of government funds, we have a damn fine screening programme which works to catch cervical cancer anyway, and people may be disinclined to use this service if they (mistakenly) think they've been vaccinated and so no longer at any risk of cervical cancer.




Briena -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 5:08:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IvyMorgan

quote:

Actually if you pop positive on one form of HPV, the shot will still protect you against the rest that you have not had.
As long as it's either type 16 or 18.  Cos those are the two strains the vaccine is effective against.


Actually it protects against four types of HPV...

"A vaccine can now protect females from the four types of HPV that cause most cervical cancers and genital warts."




AquaticSub -> RE: Proof Of Health (9/3/2008 6:24:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: flower2007

quote:

ORIGINAL: CallaFirestormBW
Tell you what, dear, I would STILL ask for testing. No insult to you, but I want to see it in writing. Does that mean I don't trust you... probably. The truth is, I don't trust -anyone-, even my doctor, where my health is concerned. I want to see the black-and-white. Do you -realize- how many people say "Oh, I don't have sex with anyone." and then come back later with herpes, vaginal warts (HPV), chlamydia, etc.? With HSV, HPV, chlamydia, syphilis, and gonnorhea, women may have ZERO symptoms, and the illness may lie dormant in -me- as well, until I spread it to someone else.


And honestly...that's fine.  But since I also don't play casually, I would have a HUGE problem with a potential relationship partner not believing I'm a very inexperienced virgin.  You (the general you) have the right to ask, I have the right to walk away from someone who accuses me of lying and violating my own belief system.

And I'm still curious if anyone has actually gotten health records from a vanilla parnter that they've kissed goodnight after a first date.  I'd be willing to bet most haven't.  Since that's as far as I've gone, I'm not sure why bringing BDSM into it makes the situation any different.



No. But if we are thinking about having sex, I don't care what you tell me you've done. You're getting tested. End of story and I would believe that you are a virgin. However - for all I know you've currently got crabs from trying on a bathing suit or have herpes from wrestling around with someone who is having a lot of sex you don't even know about. Everything in life is a calculated risk - simply because the risk is low doesn't mean I should ignore it.

Personally, I think if you are offended by someone looking out for their health and yours, you aren't ready to be having sex.




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