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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 9:02:41 PM   
yourMissTress


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Status: offline 		OH!!!! Sounds and golden showers!!!!  Two of my favorite activities...so, here's something I've never done...I have never done a golden shower in public!!!  Our local dungeon doesn't have proper space for it.  They would like to have something in the next space that they rent but it's not possible in the current location.  I did substitute by inviting several people into the large bath/shower room at a private party, but it's still not a public place.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 9:12:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Would you ask for them or would you just wait for them to happen?



If it's up there on your wish list, then asking will help to give you what you need. Now, assuming you are single and you're in England anytime soon, I could offer my services......


You better not be giving her any of my dark chocolate.  Or someone's gonna get hurt.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 9:35:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tress,

One of the other advantages of having an actual cock is that one can simply slide it down a woman's throat and not even have to worry about aiming.  I passed up an opportunity to do that a while back, she was willing but as eager as she was, I don't think she could have taken it all at the time.   I may never again have the chance but making the right decision was more than worth it.

You could always practice peeing into a carafe and having him serve it to himself in a wine glass.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 9:48:55 PM   
lemmebeYourMine


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Status: offline 		Aileen... two thoughts, first is what you said about being submissive with not wanting to ask or present a Dom with things you want to try, Been there done that, and the relationship that was, and that resulted was probably the worst I ever want to be in.  It's important to know that unless you discuss things like your desires with your Dominant, they won't know what you want. That goes on a day to day basis, and extends to a weekly and monthly basis. It's important to relationships that we communicate everything in some form. And I believe that not only is it right to tell the Dominant in your life that you would like to be or to try being spanked, etc. I believe it is our responsibility as Submissives and because it is Hard for us, to share our sexual fantasies, and our kinky desires and anything else that could become a need with our Dominant partners.

I know that doesn't change how you feel, or how the idea of presenting your dom with this info, but trust me, He is not going to be a mind-reader. Especially not right out of the gates.

Edited because there was no second idea. Hmmmmmm, Oh yeah. Better to ask now for what you want to try than to live regretting never bringing up something that he very well might wonder if you'd like, but be uncertain of how to broach.


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 9:52:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Damn, this is a tricky one, while size is nice, it's not everything. My first husband was built like a small pony... literally... my last husband (not my second, LOL) was slightly larger than my index finger. The former was positively the worst lover I have ever had, the latter, one of the best... there's just no telling. But truth be told, having my cervix bruised, rocks...

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 9:59:14 PM   
suhlut


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i am still married..and my husband is ..well.. rather small

and..thinking back.. all my partners before him..were small also..

i think its just the type of guy i have found attractive.. sweet lil baby faced boy/men.. only prob.. they dont have much inside their boxers..

and soooo... for once... ooh just onceeeee.. i wanna see how it feels.. to be FILLED with big lovely beautiful huge cock.. fat AND long

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 10:22:24 PM   
AnaisTwoCrows


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 10:23:35 PM   
AnaisTwoCrows


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 10:53:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: suhlut

lol needles

i am still married..and my husband is ..well.. rather small

and..thinking back.. all my partners before him..were small also..

i think its just the type of guy i have found attractive.. sweet lil baby faced boy/men.. only prob.. they dont have much inside their boxers..

and soooo... for once... ooh just onceeeee.. i wanna see how it feels.. to be FILLED with big lovely beautiful huge cock.. fat AND long


Got fist?

To the OP: I've never had a one night stand, and only been intimate with two men.  I also have never been whipped by anyone other than my owner/hubby. 

I would love to try sounds or a tens unit.  We've tried a wand, but never a tens unit.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 11:19:08 PM   
WestBaySlave


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Status: offline 		 In terms of common stuff... I've never penetrated anyone vaginally or anally, never did a threeway, never cross-dressed and never had sex with a woman, and to be honest, not really interested in doing any of that.

I've only began my initial foray into bdsm, so there's a lot awaiting me in the kink category. 

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/8/2008 11:29:56 PM   
gman992


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Status: offline 		I've never had sex with a woman either...

The real question is what WON'T you do:

The things I won't do: animals, bloodsports (ew...), knife play, CBT, golden showers, vomitting upon, cigarette torture, feces, bathroom stuff...You know, I'm pretty vanilla for someone who is into bdsm...

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:02:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		The more I read this thread the more I realize that it's pretty much hopeless and I had better just sit my ass down on that bench.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:20:35 AM   
simpleplan2


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Status: offline 		You sure?  Cuz after reading this thread, I feel like there's not much I haven't done...well, the commonplace things anyway.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:48:58 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

This is Darcy.
 
Hmmm. Common and simple?
Paris Hilton.
And no, I wouldn't want to ask and I am definately not waiting.



OK that was funny!

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:08:46 AM   
badlilthang


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Tell you what - one of the great things (among many) about finding beth was doing a lot of things again but experiencing them through her 'virgin' eyes. she's made many things new again - no matter how many times I've done them before. It is a wonderful experience.
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ORIGINAL: suhlut

i have a huge list of things i have never done..and still want to.


***please tell me You have a twin, Merc...and please send Him to me...*L*...Yyour posts always makes me think/smile or go aawww.....grins***

wiggles my way onto the bench....not because i have done it all..but obviously - this is the place to get ideas and snacks.....


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:15:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

The more I read this thread the more I realize that it's pretty much hopeless and I had better just sit my ass down on that bench.


Welcome to the "old and experienced" bench. As you can see, it is rather full. So i made room on my lap for you, weg.......

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:19:30 AM   
badlilthang


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ORIGINAL: Twicehappy2x

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ORIGINAL: mistoferin

The more I read this thread the more I realize that it's pretty much hopeless and I had better just sit my ass down on that bench.


Welcome to the "old and experienced" bench. As you can see, it is rather full. So i made room on my lap for you, weg.......


**hope me and Sony will be there for the roof-thingy**


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:22:08 AM   
marieToo


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Status: offline 		I think some of you guys aren't getting the essence of what Aileen said. I'm not going to do her talking for her, but I can relate to exactly what she was talking about because I feel the same way.

It's not about not communicating your basic needs in the relationship, it's about telling your dom thay you desire particular acts.  For some us, having things done to us that we ask for changes the frame of mind of the submission. For myself, I like to be used in whatever way he wants, and if I said to him "Could you please do A B and C to me", and he complied,. the whole frame of mind is different while he's doing those things because it feels as if he is now obeying me, or doing what *I* want, instead of what he wants.  This would turn my switch off immediately. 

If he askes to know my fantasies or what I would like done to me, then works those things in at some point when and how he wants, it's a little bit different.  But if he did exactly what I wanted, how I wanted,  as if I were ordering something out of a catalog, I might as well be the dominant then, and he may as well be a service top.

I personally would rather not experience a desired act, than to feel like he is doing it because I want it, because that changes the whole ball of wax for me.  For me, the desire to have no choice, and the fulfillment I get from that, is far stronger and more meaningful than the desire for some random sexual act that I might crave. 

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:33:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: marieToo

I think some of you guys aren't getting the essence of what Aileen said. I'm not going to do her talking for her, but I can relate to exactly what she was talking about because I feel the same way.

It's not about not communicating your basic needs in the relationship, it's about telling your dom thay you desire particular acts.  For some us, having things done to us that we ask for changes the frame of mind of the submission. For myself, I like to be used in whatever way he wants, and if I said to him "Could you please do A B and C to me", and he complied,. the whole frame of mind is different while he's doing those things because it feels as if he is now obeying me, or doing what *I* want, instead of what he wants.  This would turn my switch off immediately. 

If he askes to know my fantasies or what I would like done to me, then works those things in at some point when and how he wants, it's a little bit different.  But if he did exactly what I wanted, how I wanted,  as if I were ordering something out of a catalog, I might as well be the dominant then, and he may as well be a service top.

I personally would rather not experience a desired act, than to feel like he is doing it because I want it, because that changes the whole ball of wax for me.  For me, the desire to have no choice, and the fulfillment I get from that, is far stronger and more meaningful than the desire for some random sexual act that I might crave. 


You think all of us are topping from the bottom? No. We do have conversations with our partners when they ask us what are fantasies are, an about physical limits in scening. This is quite common in an open minded relationship where you talk about your needs, wants and limits. These are conversation that really need to take place regularly.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:46:18 AM   
marieToo


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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19


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ORIGINAL: marieToo

I think some of you guys aren't getting the essence of what Aileen said. I'm not going to do her talking for her, but I can relate to exactly what she was talking about because I feel the same way.

It's not about not communicating your basic needs in the relationship, it's about telling your dom thay you desire particular acts.  For some us, having things done to us that we ask for changes the frame of mind of the submission. For myself, I like to be used in whatever way he wants, and if I said to him "Could you please do A B and C to me", and he complied,. the whole frame of mind is different while he's doing those things because it feels as if he is now obeying me, or doing what *I* want, instead of what he wants.  This would turn my switch off immediately. 

If he askes to know my fantasies or what I would like done to me, then works those things in at some point when and how he wants, it's a little bit different.  But if he did exactly what I wanted, how I wanted,  as if I were ordering something out of a catalog, I might as well be the dominant then, and he may as well be a service top.

I personally would rather not experience a desired act, than to feel like he is doing it because I want it, because that changes the whole ball of wax for me.  For me, the desire to have no choice, and the fulfillment I get from that, is far stronger and more meaningful than the desire for some random sexual act that I might crave. 


You think all of us are topping from the bottom? No. We do have conversations with our partners when they ask us what are fantasies are, an about physical limits in scening. This is quite common in an open minded relationship where you talk about your needs, wants and limits. These are conversation that really need to take place regularly.


No.  I don't think anyone is topping from the bottom.  I'm not inside yours or anyone else's relationship.

I spoke of my own feelings and the headspace that it would put ME in, if I were to ask for a particular act and if he complied.  That's how it would feel to ME under the circumstances, not that you or whomever is topping from the bottom.  For me there is something lost in the submission if I am given a choice.  That doesn't mean that others have to feel the same way.

There's no one true way. 

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