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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 1:12:41 PM   
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You sure?  Cuz after reading this thread, I feel like there's not much I haven't done...well, the commonplace things anyway.


I'm with you ... maybe we need another bench.  ;-)  I've experienced most of the common things - but what's missing for me is the intensity with which I've experienced it.... which makes me crave it all the more.  Sometimes having a little taste of something is much more tantalizing than never having had it at all.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 1:57:55 PM   
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Would you ask for them or would you just wait for them to happen?



If it's up there on your wish list, then asking will help to give you what you need. Now, assuming you are single and you're in England anytime soon, I could offer my services......


You better not be giving her any of my dark chocolate.  Or someone's gonna get hurt.


Aileen.....'you listening here?......don't expect any dark chocolate.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 2:22:53 PM   
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Would you ask for them or would you just wait for them to happen?



If it's up there on your wish list, then asking will help to give you what you need. Now, assuming you are single and you're in England anytime soon, I could offer my services......


You better not be giving her any of my dark chocolate.  Or someone's gonna get hurt.


Aileen.....'you listening here?......don't expect any dark chocolate.


Fuck...that's a deal breaker. 

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 2:28:28 PM   
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Fuck...that's a deal breaker. 



Ask Marie if there's any way we can get this deal off the ground again.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 2:39:27 PM   
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In fact, we have never met anyone off-line interested in BDSM (That we know of).

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:22:43 PM   
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Fuck...that's a deal breaker. 



Ask Marie if there's any way we can get this deal off the ground again.


Alright, alright, I'll share.  I don't wanna be responsible for any deal breakage.

 
 
 
<make her eat it out of a doggie bowl>




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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:41:31 PM   
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<make her eat it out of a doggie bowl>


Is that supposed to be a deterent?  Woof.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:42:57 PM   
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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 4:51:58 PM   
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Which reminds me...never been caged or eaten out of a doggie bowl.


Ha!  Me either.  But I did have to bark like a dog once while being fucked.  To add insult to injury, he told me I didn't sound enough like a dog. gack! I'll never live that one down!

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 5:58:23 PM   
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Status: offline 		this topic is good...there are so many things i have not had the opportunity to experience i wouldnt know where to begin...

You all are cracking me up with Your answers...thanks for bringing a smile to my lips

namaste'
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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 6:01:49 PM   
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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 6:16:00 PM   
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Never done wax play in public

Never done really nasty humiliation play in public


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 6:28:15 PM   
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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 7:57:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: suhlut
my simple thing.. i've never done.. is fuck a Man with something more then 4 or so inches in His pants.. mm hmm.. i wanna become a size queen.. thats what they call em.. right? girls whom only look for men based on cock size.?


Oh, geez. What is it my grandma used to say about how it's just as easy to fall in love with a rich man as a poor one?

Come on over--I'll share my beloved's "wealth" with you... ; p~

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 8:07:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Marie was pretty spot on.  It's how I think.  First...this was meant to be a light-hearted thread.  I hope it doesn't turn into a thread on communication.  I do talk to him all the time.  He does know what turns me on, but not by me saying "Hey...I really like to be spanked"  He knows by my reactions to things that we talk about.  I'm not the kind of person that lays out a scene.  That would loose all appeal to me.  I'm also not the kind of person that responds well to a choice.  I loose headspace immediately when that happens.  Don't know why.  Just how I'm wired.  I also immediately loose headspace if I was to tell him what I want to experience.  For me, the biggest thrill is not knowing what is going to happen or not having a choice. 


Same here.  I can't explain it any better than Marie and Aileen have... asking and getting would totally ruin it for me.  That doesn't mean I haven't communicated my desires... we spent a great deal of time sharing what we were interested in and what we wanted when we first met.  Now if something comes up... casually (for example, mentioned in a thread)... that interests me, I find a way to let him know I think it might be fun or I might remind him that it's something that appeals to me.  However, it's up to him to decide if and when to try things.  If it doesn't happen, well... I may be disappointed, but the last thing I ever want is him to pretend to want something he isn't really interested in or doesn't really enjoy.  I need to know that he's doing exactly what he wants or I can't enjoy it.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 8:17:10 PM   
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ORIGINAL: marieToo
It's not about not communicating your basic needs in the relationship, it's about telling your dom thay you desire particular acts.  For some us, having things done to us that we ask for changes the frame of mind of the submission. For myself, I like to be used in whatever way he wants, and if I said to him "Could you please do A B and C to me", and he complied,. the whole frame of mind is different while he's doing those things because it feels as if he is now obeying me, or doing what *I* want, instead of what he wants.  This would turn my switch off immediately. 

If he askes to know my fantasies or what I would like done to me, then works those things in at some point when and how he wants, it's a little bit different.  But if he did exactly what I wanted, how I wanted,  as if I were ordering something out of a catalog, I might as well be the dominant then, and he may as well be a service top.

I personally would rather not experience a desired act, than to feel like he is doing it because I want it, because that changes the whole ball of wax for me.  For me, the desire to have no choice, and the fulfillment I get from that, is far stronger and more meaningful than the desire for some random sexual act that I might crave. 


I don't want my beloved to do something JUST because I like it, but because he loves me, he has held back over the years on doing a lot of things he wanted to do. I let him know the things I enjoy or would like to try as they evolve, so he feels freer to try things with me that, in the past, he would not have 'inflicted' upon me. I don't say, "Tonight I want x, y, and z.' He is very much the captain of that ship. We do what he decides we do; I never say no. But pulling off treating me like a whore, causing me pain, and forcing me to do things I would never initiate, while still making me feel safe and loved, seems like a really delicate balancing act to me. I think it's an awful lot to ask of him, to do it all by reading my mind.

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 8:43:51 PM   
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I want to thank all of you for giving me a wonderful idea.  I want to throw a party where people have to try a new kink or form of play they haven't done before.



OMG, that is a great idea!

Cali

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/9/2008 8:47:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Things I've never done:

Public events (munches, lifestyle clubs)

Those complicated rope restraints I see pictures of online

Had a whip used on me (flogger, belt, paddle, cat-o-nine, and crop, yes...)

Thing I'm most shocked that I haven't yet done:

I've never had a ffm threesome with my beloved (I've been dying to do this for almost 8 years now.)

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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/10/2008 12:53:37 AM   
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I would love to try sounds or a tens unit.  We've tried a wand, but never a tens unit.


I HAVE a tens unit, but it  has never been used for anything other than its vanilla purpose. 


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RE: Simple Things I've Never Done... - 10/10/2008 12:56:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		I was holding out hope that there was something common that I haven't done, but nope. That hope was dashed. There are definitely a couple uncommon things I haven't done or had done to me that I might be interested in one day doing, but nothing I would consider common. So make room on the bench.

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