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littlemisssnarf -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 10:55:50 AM)
ok well here is my view...... Some people may have these inner desires - both Doms and subs - they may wish to explore this inner definition and online at first is a safe way to do it - they may not understand that those they are talking to are beyond the thought and want the real and so get swept along.... i think everyone needs the time to figure this out for themselves - some will ultimately take that next step into real life - others won't and sadly may screw with some heads.... which agreed is not entirely fair.... however i think as "we" become more self assured in what our own next step is to be it becomes easier to spot those that are standing on the brink of reality and fantasy.... sad thing is when 2 brinks get together online - one wants to jump off and the other grabs the rope and reels themselves back in..... just my ickle opinion!

spook101 -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 10:56:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stephen1974 OOkkayy [&:] Thats alot of answers. Thanks. Well the fakes from Nigeria or Romania with model picture I dont even count they are just poor scams. And I agree, it is difficult to find out if the other is what he/she describes. Normally chat helps and if some1s ad sounds "too good to be true" (like 18 year old supermodel seeks extreme 247 right away, any age, any place [:-]), it certainly is not real. Hang on, not done my bit yet [:D] It's all about sex, a lot of guys out there want quick sex, maybe have someone at hand to participate. Before my current Master, I had automatic radar zoning on these type of guys and fell for it every time. These guys have no incling of being a Dom whatsoever, it just isn't in them, although may be really nie people, but these are the guys who would cheat on their wives if they were married. Kind of sad really. Worse still, I kept finding these type of guys. Hmm, no BDSM, but lots of sex involved. I once had to beg for a beating, I got a Tens machine instead which relaxed me awfully nice which resulted in a really good sleep. sarah

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 10:59:23 AM)
quote: I got a Tens machine instead im coming over.

JustDarkness -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 11:01:21 AM)
quote: It's all about sex, a lot of guys out there want quick sex, lol yes and the holy females just all want chat :P

tasha_tart -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 11:35:53 AM)
I've always thought adding that "no fakes..." clause to a profile is silly. If someone is a "fake" he or she either doesn't know it, or doesn't care. I doubt that a "fake" reads that and says "Oh crap! I'm busted! Next profile!" Tasha

stephen1974 -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 12:16:21 PM)
"I doubt that a "fake" reads that and says "Oh crap! I'm busted! Next profile!"" lol yes.

leadership527 -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 12:20:06 PM)
I generally avoid subs who talk about true or fake doms. I agree with DnD, more often than not, it is simply a pejorative and fairly close minded to boot.

IvyMorgan -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 1:53:05 PM)
I don't think of them as "fake". They are a)learning experiences and b) good stories to giggle about with good friends. Ivy

spook101 -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 2:35:26 PM)
Isn't is really down to what you may be looking for? so yeah, a bit of fun and frollick, nothing wrong with that if that's what you're after, people are people at the end of the day, and I had fun with all my play pals, had lots of sex, no whips or chains, but the sex was fun. I was really looking for a relationship rather than games, but while I was there, there was always time to play. Learned now of course. sarah ok, went to the clinic today, lots of tests! Just to be safe an' all.

cravesdom -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 9:55:29 PM)
I think "playing" is fine, but if I meet with someone who calls themselves a Dom, I expect there will be a little bit of actual domination involved. I have met several Doms who really just wanted to get laid. I know there are plenty of different people out there and everyone has a different idea of what a Dom is. That's fine with me. I know everyone has a different idea as to what a sub is too. And not every person is a match for every other person. And I am way too polite to ever call someone a "fake" or "wannabe" to their face, but I have met a couple who have made me think they really had no desire to dominate anyone, they just wanted to have some fun, somewhat kinky sex.

myotherself -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 10:04:19 PM)
I've met with a couple of "fake" doms, who turned out to be married 'nillas looking for quick sex - after all, we subs will have sex with anyone who orders us to, won't we?! Sheesh.... But seeing a dom with the words 'fake' and 'wannabe' in their profile acts as a filter for me - if you're so gullible and jaded to write this, then you're not the kind of person I'm looking for. Next! [8D]

detoxxx -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/14/2008 10:11:21 PM)
what makes me giggle is the amount of profiles that have NO FAKES written in their text when you browse....eh people should chill, I take everyone at face value and if they turn out to be a dick then...I've not lost anything really...lifes way too short to worry about other peoples actions

allthatjaz -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 3:54:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 I generally avoid subs who talk about true or fake doms. I agree with DnD, more often than not, it is simply a pejorative and fairly close minded to boot. PMSL [:D]

allthatjaz -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 3:56:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: allthatjaz Oh give me a man that can dominate me in an empty field without a flogger anytime..... Ill be in the corn field waiting for you at 6pm [;)] You have a deal, and I'm not joking around anymore. Plus, if you go slow, explain what you're doing, and let me try to duplicate the ties on you afterward, I'll rope-bottom to you in any way you wish. Sorry Red but I have to come clean... I'm a fake dominant... or was that fake submissive... geez I don't know anymore. your offer has confused me!!

missturbation -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 7:25:34 AM)
For me a fake or wannabe is someone who claims to be something they are clearly not. It has nothing to do with them not fitting my criteria in any shape or form. For example someone who claims to be an expert at flogging and then clouts themself with every back swing. Someone who claims to be honest but is actually a big fat liar. Someone who claims they are a pilot but they are actually a cleaner.

softness -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 10:51:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation For example someone who claims to be an expert at flogging and then clouts themself with every back swing. now come on hun .... he explained that .... he was measuring the impact ... nodsnodsnods it's when he knocks his glasses off that's really funny

Dnomyar -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 11:15:21 AM)
stephen I have been told that Im to good to be true. Im still here. Im faux not a fake.

moonvine -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 1:18:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation For me a fake or wannabe is someone who claims to be something they are clearly not. It has nothing to do with them not fitting my criteria in any shape or form. For example someone who claims to be an expert at flogging and then clouts themself with every back swing. Someone who claims to be honest but is actually a big fat liar. Someone who claims they are a pilot but they are actually a cleaner. I would say the same thing but I call that a "liar" not a "fake." Semantics I suppose.

HouseDom -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 7:06:17 PM)
I hope it isn't too far down the thread for me to circle back and agree with littlemisssnarf. I think a lot (definitely not all) of what people call fake dom/mmes & subs/slaves are people who are on their way to being real ones. They just haven't figured it out yet or may have blinked at the last second. Some people may need a few "near misses" & "false starts" before they finally hit their target and get where they are going (boy is that a jumble of metaphors!). The path to "realness" is different for everybody and entails occasional failure. I say we were all fakes before we were real. House

Roselaure -> RE: What do you mean with fake DOMs (I hear in many ads...) (10/15/2008 7:49:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth this slave has pretended to be dominant in the past...in order to please the other person(s) in the relationship as well as when training dogs. the other person(s) didn't respond well to the faking, it pleased them at the time, but not in the long run...as this slave pretty much sucks at it, but the dogs bought it, hook, line and sinker![:)] You're lucky. The last time I tried to dominate my dog he snickered and called me a wannabe!

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