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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

Pro-Dommes get alot of stick, the tribute being the main factor really for many to stomach, and digest.
Being a lifestyle/pro-Dominant, I do not have a category really to fall into, however just prefer to reveal myself as a Pro-Style Domme
Why do non profit/none pro Dominants/submissives, look down at Professional Dominants/Pro Submissives?
You dont really hear many Pro-Tops saying "more fool you, for not charging" to lifestyle/none tribute Dominants/subs, so the stigma of taking payment for a genuine passion/career is still raw and unacceptable in some eyes, which is their opinion, which I also respect.
Surely a Professional Dominant/sub/fetishist can enjoy the lifestyle, aswell as investing & enjoying a career out of his/her passion, and something they have skills and job satisfaction with!
Many non profit/tribute Dominants/submissives, cannot understand the dynamic of a paid transaction/tribute based sessions, and only see the romanticism of a poly or monogamous D/S or s/m or BDSM relationship, which I respect, and each to their own.
Service Tops fill the void for those that wish: a quick fix, convenience, fetishes (especially which leather and latex are very expensive), an abundance of equipment, and the none commitment of sharing a session with the option to leave, and walk back into their own structured day to day lives.
Many I see for sessions, professional or not, say the release and escapism from day to day life, is the main focus of their reason for sessions, aswell as sharing a senario/time/session with "yours truly" lol
So some enjoy the "tribute and go" aspect, no responsibilities, and many tribute paying subs/players/fetishists wish not to have a romantic relationship, they like to keep their interests private/individual/discreet, and many do not wish the 24/7 commitment of a non pro BDSM lifestyle.
Life does indeed get in the way, for many to indulge or to have any hands on involvement/experience in any BDSM activities: children, partners not really into it, disabilities, hectic work schedules/busy lives overall etc.
So for many I understand the tribute aspect, in a Pro/Service Top arrangement may not be for many, but like myself there are many lifestyle/service Tops too
I will happily just need to sit in the Pro Domme bracket of the system, after all they are only labels aren't they

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ORIGINAL: MistresseLotus

Did you have a question or is this an ad?

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

I find the name Pro Domme confusing...like it is the elite....Domme by profession would be better
(lol..but somehow  I read Pro always as better)

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ORIGINAL: Evility

I don't think there is anything wrong with professional domination. It's a business transaction. If you can provide a service that someone else wants to pay you to perform then good for you. I am all for capitalism. Having said that any pro domme using this free kinky matchmaking site to advertise their services deserves all the grief they get heaped on them. Most of that comes from male submissives here and I don't blame them a bit. If they're really professionals then they should behave line one and get a real website to advertise on. I'd dom professionally if I thought I could make money at it. I would not be a slacker and advertise here, however.

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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

I find the name Pro Domme confusing...like it is the elite....Domme by profession would be better
(lol..but somehow  I read Pro always as better)

Oh that is a lovely label, reverse it to suit

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

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ORIGINAL: MistressRouge

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

I find the name Pro Domme confusing...like it is the elite....Domme by profession would be better
(lol..but somehow  I read Pro always as better)

Oh that is a lovely label, reverse it to suit

reversing it would be Orp....doesn't sound sexy
(tis early :P )

No seriously...Pro can lead to confussion....by  some.
Who gives some one the label pro...what security do they have...other then paying.
Damn..I am curious today.

(Btw..serious question..not to make fun of any one)

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ORIGINAL: world4penelope

Mistress Rouge,

As another pro domme, I hear your complaints in a way that I feel other responders don't realize the issue exists. For instance, many times I have moved to a new city and wished to become involved in local bdsm communities only to be chastised by the lifestylers immensely.

Personally, I don't think that it has anything to do with conceptions or misconceptions about prostitution. I think that one of two things occur: Either, people believe that we don't have a passion for it and use that silly notion as a way to momentarily exalt themselves; or, (believe it or not I mean this as a valid argument) they hate getting shown up at the munches and parties, because we are usually thinner, younger, and in spectacular wardrobe. This becomes a quick threat. So they retreat to any reason to ostracize us to remove the competition. That's been my experience. Sadly.

Mistress Penelope St. Devi

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ORIGINAL: world4penelope

Mistress Rouge,

As another pro domme, I hear your complaints in a way that I feel other responders don't realize the issue exists. For instance, many times I have moved to a new city and wished to become involved in local bdsm communities only to be chastised by the lifestylers immensely.

Personally, I don't think that it has anything to do with conceptions or misconceptions about prostitution. I think that one of two things occur: Either, people believe that we don't have a passion for it and use that silly notion as a way to momentarily exalt themselves; or, (believe it or not I mean this as a valid argument) they hate getting shown up at the munches and parties, because we are usually thinner, younger, and in spectacular wardrobe. This becomes a quick threat. So they retreat to any reason to ostracize us to remove the competition. That's been my experience. Sadly.

Mistress Penelope St. Devi

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I'm not going to completely disagree with some of what you have said here, however, I don't think it's entirely correct.

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ORIGINAL: world4penelope

Mistress Rouge,

As another pro domme, I hear your complaints in a way that I feel other responders don't realize the issue exists. For instance, many times I have moved to a new city and wished to become involved in local bdsm communities only to be chastised by the lifestylers immensely.

Personally, I don't think that it has anything to do with conceptions or misconceptions about prostitution. I think that one of two things occur: Either, people believe that we don't have a passion for it and use that silly notion as a way to momentarily exalt themselves; or, (believe it or not I mean this as a valid argument) they hate getting shown up at the munches and parties, because we are usually thinner, younger, and in spectacular wardrobe. This becomes a quick threat. So they retreat to any reason to ostracize us to remove the competition. That's been my experience. Sadly.

Mistress Penelope St. Devi

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Well, I couldn't possibly say that none of the points have merit.  I'm sure some of them do.  I've been rather rough on some of the pros from time to time.  There are those like Rouge, who have gained My respect exactly because I've learned over time that she does have a passion for what she does.  She and I don't always agree on the topic because we have different views about what works for each of us.  Still, I can't deny My personal opinion of what I believe is a good assessment of her skill level.  Though I've never met her, I've listened to the things she's written.  Quality isn't that hard to spot.  I happen to think she has it. 

Just because someone slaps the title of "professional" on themselves really doesn't mean squat to Me.  What matters more is the concept of is that person a competent professional. 

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ORIGINAL: DontUDare

I personally use the title Professional for two reasons only, a) it is what has been used by others, see no reason in inventing the wheel and b) in the same way a golfer who goes on pro tournaments or photographer who has a studio and takes pictures for a living. On the other hand, I believe I am professional in what I do and was in the meaning "good and accomplished" in my field long before I started charging for some of my sessions. Which in my book is what all pro-dommes should be, first good on their own therms, and like MistressRouge said I'd probably prefer sadist also as that is my best field :)

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: DontUDare

I personally use the title Professional for two reasons only, a) it is what has been used by others, see no reason in inventing the wheel and b) in the same way a golfer who goes on pro tournaments or photographer who has a studio and takes pictures for a living. On the other hand, I believe I am professional in what I do and was in the meaning "good and accomplished" in my field long before I started charging for some of my sessions. Which in my book is what all pro-dommes should be, first good on their own therms, and like MistressRouge said I'd probably prefer sadist also as that is my best field :)

Pro means your paid.  You could be the worst pro in the world...  after all someone has to be the worst at what they do for a living.  I still find it odd that some of the pros that have responded why I do this for a living.  I don't see the other poster having to "explain" their profession. 

Food for thought.  BadOne