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ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile2

It's not worth it to get caught into playing games with him.   I would say make whatever preparations you need to do to end the relationship.  Such as if you are living in his house (to pick a good time when he's not around to move out), perhaps leaving a "Dear John, I have left you because you are lair...and hurt me bad" letter.

The reason I suggest for anybody to get whatever physical things they own in a safe and secure manner.   Ending things, leaving the house and then coming back, you are only placing yourself in a situation where drama could unfold.    Once it's over, don't give him nor yourself any reason for seeing each other again.   Having stuff around his place that you have to come back for and collect later is not always the best idea.

I think some people drag their heels at getting their personal effects out from each other houses or when they move out, just so they can come back and stir up drama/fights in the process.  It's best to end things, and do everything you can to minimize the drama and game playing.   You see on Judge Judy cases where somebody tosses personal effects out to the curb side, property gets distroyed intentionally or simply vanishes for no good reason.   Don't allow yourself to be turned into another small claims court case trying to settle up on personal effects. 

I'm with everybody who has posted advice about not getting caught up in Drama and game playing.   End the relationship then explain it to him.  If you don't explain why you ended it, you are only giving him a valid excuse to use in contacting you.  He will be wanting to know the reason why.   Again withholding the reason why will only give him a valid excuse to bother you afterwards.   Don't do this, is my advice.

Sure, he might have been dishonest with you during your relationship.  That's no excuse for you to not be honest with him in ending it.   Be the better person and stick to honesty.   Being honest works better compared to game playing.  Withholding the truth from him after you end things is manipulative, it's encouraging him to constantly bother you for the truth.  You'll only be turning yourself into an attention target.

Good luck... 

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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel


You and I spoke privately about your issues and distrust of your master over a year and a half ago.  Since that time, you have started a handful of threads all of which have questioned his actions and your relationship.... and when you were given advice, you apparently ignored it or you would turn around and defend him.

Walking away from any relationship can be difficult, but you have to own that behavior.  Perhaps the anger you are feeling is with yourself, moreso than with him.

And to be honest, were I in your position, I might start asking myself if I was an emotional masochist or suffering from some sort or martyrdom syndrome. 

Maybe it's time to step back and do some serious soul searching and introspection?

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ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub
I felt Whips reply deserved to be reiterated..to me it addressed the issue in a practical manner..also Nueva Vida reply was excellent for some good introspection needed by the OP....I wish you best Treasure..healing begins with the 7 steps of grief....Tempting