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Fisting - 11/16/2008 5:47:29 AM   
amberyone


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Status: offline 		Ok, so I've looked around on here for posts about fisting, and none have really answered my question.

Me and MH have been trying to get to the point where He can fist me, it's taking it's time, but the main problem I seem to have, is not being able to relax enough for His knuckles to go in, and if I push against His hand it just hurts. Which obviously isn't ideal. So yeah, any advice on how to take it further, so His knuckles will actually go in?


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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 5:55:43 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		lots of lube, gentle foreplay, more lube, don't force it, more lube, lots of patience, more lube.

Did I mention lots of lube?

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 6:13:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

lots of lube, gentle foreplay, more lube, don't force it, more lube, lots of patience, more lube.

Did I mention lots of lube?


I don't know if anybodys mentioned it, but lube, lube and more lube!!
Take things easy,  relax, relax some more, have patience,  relax again.... gentle stretching.........and lube. 
Its' not something that can be rushed into at the start. 


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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 6:24:58 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		Chain.. you forgot to mention lots of lube :D

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 6:31:29 AM   
Darias


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Status: offline 		in my * limited * experience ...

it often depends on the woman involved on how easy things go initially ... some women just *are * easier to fist

previous activity ... i have had experiences where fisting was much much easier after some old fashioned sex ... this may have been specific to the person i was with but its worth a try

mindset .... if you dont really WANT to be fisted its gonna make things harder ... you`ll flex and clinch muscles that need to be relaxed

reguardless of any of the above ... lube and relaxation go a LONG way ..... also lots and lots of foreplay / practice .. as with anal and / or dildos .. sometimes working up to it over days / weeks can help


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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 6:42:21 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		Some people can be fisted without any pain at all and for some (me) it's painful every time, especially the knuckle bit. It might be the case that if you want it to be painless, it may never happen.

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 6:47:48 AM   
persephonee


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Status: offline 		No matter how slow you go...how careful you are...you will reach that threshold where you either have to press forward or go back...and until you press forward you will not get there. Its a burn and a stretch...but with enough lube you can get there on the first try....its a matter of number of orgasms the girl is having during the process...if your partner can time the press forward into the actual orgasm...and then just move forward....its only difficult every time after but at least youll know what the feeling is and whether you can manage it....its an acquired taste...and soo worth it.

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 7:53:52 AM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		contrary to popular belief, not all women can be fisted.  i'm a mother for christs sake, and the only person who was ever able to sucessfully fist me was a female switch with tiny hands.  where there's a will, there's a way,  and lube, lube, lube, doesn't amount to shit when the physical aspect of things won't allow it to happen.  my advice would be to be happy with what you can do and don't worry about sticking his arm in up to his elbows to consider it to be 'real' fisting.  as long as you're both enjoying it, that's what counts most of all.

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 7:57:41 AM   
subrosea


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Status: offline 		i never realised i could 'squirt' until i first indulged in fisting. it is an activity, for me, that is truly orgasmic!


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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 8:14:12 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Hey -   did anyone mention lube??????

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 8:15:54 AM   
GreedyTop


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Status: offline 		damn.. no, you're right, kiwi!  I knew I'd forgotten something.....

liloneds does make a good point though...

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 8:19:14 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Lots of lube and maybe try picking up a book called "A Hand In The Bush".
You may also find that latex gloves will help as well.

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 8:24:58 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		Now the latex gloves are a great idea - much smoother going in!      .....  and the oft-forgotten LUBE!

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 8:25:25 AM   
kristileigh


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Status: offline 		i had been fisted before by another Dom.
Now Master has much larger hands and knuckles and i have not taken His fist.
He just keeps trying but it will happen....with time.......patience......and i dont know if any one has mentioned it yet but.....
LUBE.

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 8:51:35 AM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

lots of lube, gentle foreplay, more lube, don't force it, more lube, lots of patience, more lube.

Did I mention lots of lube?


And it just might not happen for you, for some women it simply doesn't work, though there is usually a little trick, hard to describe, it's twisting your wrist sideways a bit while gently (did I mention GENTLY) forward, imagine his hand is a screw and he turns it 30 to 90 degrees.

I don't know if you are open to playing with others, but I would recommend somebody with smaller hands trying it before he tries, that will only work if you are completely OK with it or find the thought exciting, otherwise it's really a no go.

Maybe you simply need more time?

And as somebody might have suggested LUBE, lots of LUBE

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 10:02:06 AM   
aravain


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Status: offline 		Hrm...

Why doesn't anyone differentiate whether it's Vaginal or Anal fisting that they/re talking about?

*mutters to self*

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 10:24:00 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		silly bunny - does it really matter?    and don't forget the lube!

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 10:27:43 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Now the latex gloves are a great idea - much smoother going in!      .....  and the oft-forgotten LUBE!



There are actually fisting gloves, they make it even easier than the regular latex ones

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 10:31:25 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		Ah hell, I've squeezed out a few puppies, so I believe it is probably possible to eventually spread it wide enough to shove a grapefruit through (unadvisable, but possible.)  If you want to guarantee a painless delivery, beg for an epideral.

On the other hand () If your man's hand can wrap around a watermelon, beg for a surrogate.

In my limited experience (having had it done once,) I didn't even know what he was doing at the time.  I just found myself hanging precariously from the headboard, like an orgasmic version of a female spiderman, and he was laughing his ass off and pointing to where his arm disappeared at the wrist.

< Message edited by WinsomeDefiance -- 11/16/2008 10:34:44 AM >

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RE: Fisting - 11/16/2008 10:31:58 AM   
kiwisub12


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Status: offline 		I wonder if they look like the ones the vets wear when examining cows. They go up to the shoulder.


Actually - thats a really good idea. If a glove came off my Sir whilst inside me, it may never be seen again!!!!!

< Message edited by kiwisub12 -- 11/16/2008 10:33:01 AM >

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