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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:15:58 AM

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I've also been told by several gay Doms who are fisters, that another technique is to have the person being fisted to soak in a warm bath for 10-15 mins. The warm water also helps to relax the muscles and they say it's less painful on the fistee (if they are tense and nervous) and makes it a little easier for the fister.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:24:16 AM

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I doubt that you need this, but, to be on the safe side - most of the responses here are valid for vaginal fisting - anal fisting is a whole other subject, in my opinion. I generally don't even want to think about that, as it causes permanent, irreversible damage, just in case you were tempted.

Uh... if it's done incorrectly sure...

But if you've got a good head about you it can be done, and without any permanent OR irreversible (isn't that kinda redundant?) damage.

If you're talking about stretching issues, well, that's what kegels are for. Depending on how long the session was, how, er, intense the fister was (some people want to try and fit both arms and a foot in for some reason), among others, but you *do* return to normal... it just takes longer (and it usually takes much longer than vaginal fisting no matter how light it was).

If you're talking about tearing or popping a mucus membrane or something... well, yeah, that's also a risk in anal sex... and in vaginal fisting... and insertion of anything anywhere in your body.

It doesn't really have the capacity to cause worse irreversable damage than vaginal fisting, just different. :\ In either case you need to keep your head about you (and your partner does too, especially).

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:40:15 AM

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quote:

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I'll have to pass it all onto Master

And did anybody mention the lube?

I doubt that you need this, but, to be on the safe side - most of the responses here are valid for vaginal fisting - anal fisting is a whole other subject, in my opinion. I generally don't even want to think about that, as it causes permanent, irreversible damage, just in case you were tempted.

Only if you haven't got the slightest clue what you are doing, I think I fisted more men than women and I might have noticed if one of them had a permanent or irreversible damage, going slow will do the trick!

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:45:37 AM

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sorry, but fisting scares the hell out of this slave. she doesn't quite believe the theory that "anyone can be fisted".
perhaps it is the PTSD associated with needing to have this slave's vagina sutured, after it ripped, in two directions
a) all the way through to her ass
and
b) almost tore into her urethra
during a birthing episode that for other women would have been a walk in the park.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:46:37 AM

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anal fisting is not something that automatically causes "permanent irreversible damage" to anyone...but this poster has mentioned that the inability to mark during a beating is a sign of "permanent and irreversible damage" as well...however that poster is not a medical professional at all....
any activity done without common sense and backed with as much experience and knowledge as possible can cause permanent damage...riding a bike, driving a car, walking up or down stairs....fisting....

go slow, stretch the sphincters slowly and gently and with constant pressure, use lots of lube....and stop if needed....its not rocket science and its not NOT going to cause permanent irreversible damage....as a matter of course. Obviously if you invade any body part with speed and lack of care you will hurt the person....but its not necessary and its completely safe if done correctly.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:50:03 AM

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I think it is a myth that anyone can be fisted, just not everybody likes certain activities.

If you hate the idea alone, it just would not work for you because you would be far to tense, the most important thing is that the person being fisted is actually relaxed, otherwise it can cause very nasty injuries (provided the person doing the fisting is irresponsible enough to continue when it actually causes a lot of pain and harm)

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:52:35 AM

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Agreed. Not everyone can be fisted in the same way that not everyone can give birth 'naturally'.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 11:00:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: persephonee

~fr~
anal fisting is not something that automatically causes "permanent irreversible damage" to anyone...but this poster has mentioned that the inability to mark during a beating is a sign of "permanent and irreversible damage" as well...however that poster is not a medical professional at all....
any activity done without common sense and backed with as much experience and knowledge as possible can cause permanent damage...riding a bike, driving a car, walking up or down stairs....fisting....

go slow, stretch the sphincters slowly and gently and with constant pressure, use lots of lube....and stop if needed....its not rocket science and its not NOT going to cause permanent irreversible damage....as a matter of course. Obviously if you invade any body part with speed and lack of care you will hurt the person....but its not necessary and its completely safe if done correctly.

Agreed, an anal fisting will cause permanent irreversible damage if the sphincter (ring muscle) is torn or damaged, which can happen if you don't use enough lube or go too fast, nobody in their right mind will think "I can do that within a few minutes" and just "push" the hand in.

The only damage I ever encountered was caused by the person himself and it wasn't a tear in the sphincter but the guy had a rather large doll up there and it was his "kink" to do "anal births" at fetish events, after each of his "performances" he had to wear diapers for a few days until he tensed up sufficiently to well, not have rather large skid marks in his undies...

I wouldn't recommend it and it wasn't a pretty sight, but then again, I would also consider a life sized doll up your rectum as more than just a bit extreme

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 11:08:31 AM

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lol...yeah...thats a touch extreme...

i find it off putting when alarmists announce that something causes permanent or irreversible damage when in fact, its only the case when people go shoving things places quickly and without thought...and then wonder why they now have a colostomy bag to deal with. Darwin was right. my bumpersticker tells no lies.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 11:13:02 AM

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That guy called himself ANALisa (little pun because Anna-Lisa is an old fashioned Germanic name) and he told me he could take a double fisting without a warm up, took my hands and looked at them and then my feet, told me with my small feet even a double footing... I just stared at him and said "How about I take my coat off and come in?" He didn't get the joke

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 11:30:09 AM

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ew ew ew...i got it tho....ew....be sure to keep your raincoat on tho....i thought i was getting too kinky for myself when i started looking at a friends anal speculum with eager eyes....im an asswhore but not really that much of one...or so i thought....hmmm...we shall see what next year brings for this girl, now wont we....

off topic...

beth...you have cmail.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 12:31:20 PM

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my mistress has been fisting me now for almost 3 years

any damage ? no !! if call the craving to have it done at least once a week damage --i dont

amazing feeling it is once she slides in

love her going in deeper too

never thought i would enjoy it as much as i have boy she sure knew what she was doing when she starting my training

if you love strapon play and love the bigger strapons try having her fist you next ..being fisted by a woman is awesome i think ..mal

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 2:32:52 PM

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I really think someone ought to mention lube. You should use lots of it.

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 5:09:26 PM

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oh oh what a great idea!!! Lube - who would have thunked!!!!!!

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 5:47:13 PM

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:39:30 PM

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you need to give that pussy a good work out before you try it. lots of foreplay will help, but you need to take it slow. you can take it, but you need to go easy

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RE: Fisting - 11/17/2008 10:42:27 PM

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I think we've forgotten to mention lots of lube....

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RE: Fisting - 11/18/2008 4:40:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: amberyone

Ok, so I've looked around on here for posts about fisting, and none have really answered my question.

Me and MH have been trying to get to the point where He can fist me, it's taking it's time, but the main problem I seem to have, is not being able to relax enough for His knuckles to go in, and if I push against His hand it just hurts. Which obviously isn't ideal. So yeah, any advice on how to take it further, so His knuckles will actually go in?

amber,

but why do it?

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RE: Fisting - 11/18/2008 5:16:19 PM

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I haven't ever fisted, myself, but my sub and I have been trying. Our problem is that the opening in her pelvis seems to be smaller than my fist. I have fairly large hands, but I keep hoping that we'll get there. We have gotten close several times using a glove, a multitude of lead up orgasms and gallons of lube (not really, but a lot). Each time, my knuckles hit her pelvis.

We are currently looking for a submissive woman to share, so if any of you our there live in Southern Oregon, and have small hands, give us a ring. :)

The moral of my story is this. In my opinion, fisting isn't all mind over matter. Everyone's body is different. It's possible that his hand is just too big for your body. Never give up though. :)

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RE: Fisting - 11/18/2008 5:19:38 PM

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I never thought that I would be able to let Daddy fist me because his hands and his arms are just huge...(hes a big man)....but over a few different times of trying it worked finally...it took LOTS LOTS LOTS of lube and lots of patience......the experience was absolutley amazing to me and i cant wait for him to do it again...i seriously think that its and accuired taste though...not everyone is gonna like it or for that matter beable to make it happen some times it just phsyically wont happen..hope it works out for you though and that you enjoy it.

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