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Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 7:39:48 AM   
DomCT2002


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Status: offline 		Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 7:43:42 AM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		It depends largely on what one is looking for.  I want a life partner, so when I start shopping again after the new year, I'll want someone closer to my own age.  I'm flattered by the attentions of the ones young enough to be my son, but ultimately I need someone who can stimulate my rather well developed brain.  That only comes with education and experience.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 7:48:04 AM   
Rover


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Status: offline 		I couldn't possibly care less what anyone's age is, Dominant or submissive.  Though age is a factor in choosing a partner (ie: there are both upper and lower limits).
 
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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 7:57:39 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		I'm not very hung up on age. Like John said, there are upper and lower limits, but for the most part, it's what's in the mind and heart that matters to me.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:01:36 AM   
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Age matters to me.  There, I said it.  Personally, I don't want to be with a man who wants a woman anywhere from age 18 to 45 (as is commonly seen when age ranges are stated).  I'm 44, and if he thinks he has as much in common with an 18 year old who has barely started life as he does with someone who is my age, then he is not the man for me.


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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:08:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DomCT2002

Does it really matte rto many what age a Dom or  Submissive is in this lifestyle?
I believe fully that, as long as your physically able to perform amd you are capable of supplying what the partner you have wants on a emotional, mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle.

What say folks anyone else agree or disagree?


Sorry, but age does matter to me. I refuse to tie myself to someone 20 years younger or 20 years older than I am.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:11:53 AM   
oceanwynds


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Status: offline 		Age doesn't matter at all to me. Maturity does though.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:15:52 AM   
oddjobbery


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Status: offline 		I tend to agree. If both parties find the other attractive, I see no reason to let age be a factor.

However, if you were wondering why people put "must be 20 - 45" or "25 - 35" in their profile, it's a quick and nice way of weeding out the people you are not looking for - frankly, if I'm a skinny, pretty, 18 year old girl, what the hell do i want with a fat 60 year old man?

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:16:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have no problem with having younger or older friends in the lifestyle - people are people.

When it comes to relationships, then age does matter to me.  I need someone around my age - someone who has lived, but not too much.  Someone who's learned and matured like myself.  I can't ever see me submitting to someone significantly younger than me (5+ years), or someone too much older than me (5+ years).  That may make me shallow, but it's the way it is.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:19:26 AM   
oddjobbery


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It depends largely on what one is looking for.  I want a life partner, so when I start shopping again after the new year, I'll want someone closer to my own age.  I'm flattered by the attentions of the ones young enough to be my son, but ultimately I need someone who can stimulate my rather well developed brain.  That only comes with education and experience.


Madam, you wound me and the many other intelligent, well - developed 18 - 25 year olds that exist on this plane. Age is certainly not a prerequisite for intelligence or cranial capacity.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:48:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		It depends on the position you are looking to fill. When I was single age did not matter if I was looking for someone to swing a flogger at a party, but it mattered a lot if I was looking for partner material. When it came to partnering with someone I had to have common ground. I'm not going to slight the intelligence of the young for I have met some very bright young people, but intelligence isn't a replacement for actual experience. For example, I want to be with someone who hasn't just read about growing up in the 70's....I want to be with someone who knows what the experience felt like.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:55:34 AM   
antipode


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mental and physical side then age should mean absolutely nothing in this lifestyle


Not sure where you are going with this - there really isn't any such thing as "this lifestyle" in terms of there being a rulebook for it. What you believe is only valid for you.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 8:56:33 AM   
leakylee


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Status: offline 		in someways it does matter to me, i would prefer someone around my own age. it helps with matching on some of the more non kinky or lifestyle interests. (shoot those are hard enough to hit on) but at the same time, with those to consider sometimes it can raise the bar a bit on the expanded range.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 9:00:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

It depends largely on what one is looking for.  I want a life partner, so when I start shopping again after the new year, I'll want someone closer to my own age.  I'm flattered by the attentions of the ones young enough to be my son, but ultimately I need someone who can stimulate my rather well developed brain.  That only comes with education and experience.


Madam, you wound me and the many other intelligent, well - developed 18 - 25 year olds that exist on this plane. Age is certainly not a prerequisite for intelligence or cranial capacity.



It does however, usually vary the level of experience greatly.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 9:12:08 AM   
Icarys


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Status: offline 		Age has little to do with my choice. As long as they are headed in the same direction I am and are compatible It will work. Maturity of spirit is it for me. I see many same age and older females that haven't begun to grow up for one reason or another.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 9:13:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		It really does depend on what you're looking for. Age doesn't matter so much as experience and know how in a play partner, but in a relationship I have my preferences as to age range and am only partially flexible on it.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 9:16:02 AM   
lanie38


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Status: offline 		Compatibility tends to weed out the age thing..but that being said noone old enough to be my Dad and noone young enough to be my kid..

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 9:48:06 AM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

It depends largely on what one is looking for.  I want a life partner, so when I start shopping again after the new year, I'll want someone closer to my own age.  I'm flattered by the attentions of the ones young enough to be my son, but ultimately I need someone who can stimulate my rather well developed brain.  That only comes with education and experience.


Madam, you wound me and the many other intelligent, well - developed 18 - 25 year olds that exist on this plane. Age is certainly not a prerequisite for intelligence or cranial capacity.



As it turns out, wounding people is my speciality.

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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 9:52:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

It depends largely on what one is looking for.  I want a life partner, so when I start shopping again after the new year, I'll want someone closer to my own age.  I'm flattered by the attentions of the ones young enough to be my son, but ultimately I need someone who can stimulate my rather well developed brain.  That only comes with education and experience.


Madam, you wound me and the many other intelligent, well - developed 18 - 25 year olds that exist on this plane. Age is certainly not a prerequisite for intelligence or cranial capacity.



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RE: Age and BDSM - 11/24/2008 10:01:16 AM   
eri


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ORIGINAL: oddjobbery

... frankly, if I'm a skinny, pretty, 18 year old girl, what the hell do i want with a fat 60 year old man?



Well, some skinny, pretty, 18 yr old girls like the attention that those fat 60 yr old men give them. Occassionally its a sugar daddy thing. Mostly, for me, when I was a skinny, pretty, 18 yr old girl, I liked the attention. The young hot boys were too stupid to know how to make me feel special. The old men were well versed in the right things to say and I felt flattered by their interest.

You did make me giggle though. :)


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