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Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursue you - 1/16/2009 10:52:16 AM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		Hello everybody. Hope everyone's doing well on this mild Friday night in Dublin. The weather being so unreliable either brutally cold or so damn wet and mild that it gives you stomach bugs, i thought id give everyone a laugh
a simple question
do you hunt for subs or do you find it easier to allow subs hunt for you
kevin
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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 10:59:51 AM   
aravain


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Status: offline 		As a submissive I find it incredibly difficult to contact others, but I do/would search through profiles and leave a small note, if I'm terribly interested.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 11:02:38 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Easier to let them find me, of course........but I've tweaked a few here and there.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 11:52:22 AM   
lateralist1


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Status: offline 		I hunt for the right subs.
If I waited for them to get in touch with me I'd wait forever.
Kevin I thought you wanted to give up BDSM?

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 11:54:02 AM   
Lynnxz


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lateralist1

I hunt for the right subs.
If I waited for them to get in touch with me I'd wait forever.
Kevin I thought you wanted to give up BDSM?


Only until he wants to try and leech out some pity from some poor unsuspecting forum goer. Don't worry, by the second page it'll be back to how unfair it is for a pro domme to charge him because he deserves everything for free, because of depression....

Or something?


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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 11:54:15 AM   
rednicky


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Status: offline 		I like being pursued so I wait.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 12:44:54 PM   
ALAstella


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Kevin, how's the craic?

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 1:03:35 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Everyone has to say yes at some point, how you get there is personal preference.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 1:24:09 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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When I try to contact them, I get the same lack of response so many subs complain of on the boards.  Go figure.  So now I let them do the work of approaching me instead.  I find it's a much better use of my time.  The rare exceptions are for those who have said something so thoughtful in their profiles or blogs that I feel compelled to comment on it.  However, those messages are not with the goal of establishing a relationship, so I don't think they apply to the OP's question.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 1:35:04 PM   
devotedinSD


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Status: offline 		I usually don't contact dominants first.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 1:46:03 PM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		When I was looking I did both.

If a profile interested me I would drop a note saying "Hi, I found your profile interesting" or something. I didn't make the first move very often tho.

Before Master and I started talking on here we had looked at each other's profiles numerous times. Thankfully he said "Hi" first cause for some retarded reason i got realy shy every time I thought about emailing him first lol.

Last last partner i messaged first cause I loved the motorbike in his profile picture. *S*

I think as an adult everyone should be willing to put there neck out and try to meet someone, not sit passively by and wait for the perfect partner to fall from heaven into thier lap. Relationships take work, may as well start out in a forward motion.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:07:30 PM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		Dom's court me,it I never,ever contact a Dominant

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:15:20 PM   
ChristyCougar


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From: Sunny Florida
Status: offline 		In real life, I feel a girl can lure a man with her charms whether she is in the Dominant or submissive role being passive or aggressive.  Often I find I have to send a signal of some kind to inspire or invite a man to approach me whether he is sub or Dom.
Online, I personally do not initiate first contact though.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:32:35 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		No my role is simply a facilitator nothing more. Though yes your right I have an interest in social justice and any kinds of unfairness disgust me
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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:34:00 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		its good if you have a good sense of humour. If you want a really good session with plenty of Guiness you will happy to know that prices in the pubs are coming down here. We are celebrating the recession in style
kevin

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:45:51 PM   
SassySarijane


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From: KC Area Missouri
Status: offline 		I will contact someone, dominant or submissive or whatever if I have something to say, something catches my eye.  In the past, when I was looking some, outside of contact as stated above, I didn't actively pursue anyone. If they had interest in me beyond the contact I made then they could and did let me know.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:47:33 PM   
goldentriangle


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Status: offline 		Jaysus Kevin. Given the regularity of your posts I would have thought you'd taken the pledge.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:51:38 PM   
lobodomslavery


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Status: offline 		i wouldnt be seen dead without a Guinness. it is THE drink for the single cold blooded irish male. its cool
kevin

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 2:56:45 PM   
mc1234


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Status: offline 		I've done both, been the first email, or been the respondent.  Even if contacting him first, though, I do like to sit back after I've shown interest and feel his pursuit a bit.

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RE: Do you pursue the sub/slave or does the slave pursu... - 1/16/2009 3:02:41 PM   
goldentriangle


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Status: offline 		Better hurry, so. From what I read in the IT most cool pubs will soon be closed. Rip off Ireland is officially dead.

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