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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 11:55:37 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Personally I wouldn't likely  be a bit interested in any one under 21, however that's just me.
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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

I'm really interested in this 30 year old guy...he's unlike any other dom i've ever talked too...i really do like him . The only thing that seems to be getting in the way is the age difference..but in the end when i'm like 20 something and he's in his 30's do people even pay that much attention to age anymore?
what do you guys think?

I just don't know...............i really like him.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 11:57:51 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I personally don't care what people around me think of my relationship. They aren't in it and they're not a part of it, and if they happen not to like my relationship they can shove it where the sun doesn't shine.

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

kk :)
ty:)


- do ppl around you guys usually think its weird though?

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 12:08:55 PM   
lucyNEEDSaDaddy


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Status: offline 		my former dom was 22 yrs my senior. although we had a lot of chemistry and could talk easily it was still difficult. when you are in your middle years it is not such a big gap but i think the difference between 50 and 70 is very great... a 10 yr gap is not so bad. i typically prefer men about 10 yrs older than myself.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 12:12:45 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		One time my now x and I were in a store in the mall cuddling and holding hands and I was leaning on his chest, and someone said something about are we brother and sister?

I was like no, I wouldn't be cozying up to my brother in the manner I cozy up to Joseph.
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. We've had some laughs when people have thought We were brother and sister, aunt and nephew and even mother and son!!
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 12:18:32 PM   
Sfortzando


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Status: offline 		*snerk* From a historical perspective, one could almost argue that exclusively dating those within your own age range is what's weird.

To be serious though, it's all about the two people involved. One of my best friends had been dating a man twenty-three years her senior, and my sixty-two year old aunt has been married for eight years now to man who is thirty-six. You watch the way they interact, and age quickly becomes a non-issue.

Do what feels right. 

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 12:31:17 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 12:36:44 PM   
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Fox took it upon himself to learn about the 1970s in many facets so he can relate to the things I say.


While the rest of us try to forget the 70's. lol

I age myself according to how many times flares have been in fashion in my lifetime.  So, I guess I need a guy who has seen 4 'flare' years.  

Disco.  oh the shame of it all,

Days of actually believing the Monkees had talent,

all I got, glad I have forgottent the rest lol.


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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 1:57:08 PM   
domiguy


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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I personally don't care what people around me think of my relationship. They aren't in it and they're not a part of it, and if they happen not to like my relationship they can shove it where the sun doesn't shine.



Whenever I read your posts I really don't know what to think.....They remind me of this.....is it genius or something entirely different?   Me thinks the latter.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 2:00:19 PM   
NorthernGent


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

I'm really interested in this 30 year old guy...he's unlike any other dom i've ever talked too...i really do like him . The only thing that seems to be getting in the way is the age difference..but in the end when i'm like 20 something and he's in his 30's do people even pay that much attention to age anymore?
what do you guys think?

I just don't know...............i really like him.


I don't think so, providing you want the same things out of life.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 2:02:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I personally don't care what people around me think of my relationship. They aren't in it and they're not a part of it, and if they happen not to like my relationship they can shove it where the sun doesn't shine.



People disagreeing (mainly parents) can be a big pressure on the relation though...so much that eventually the younger one can break under the pressure or end very unhappy.
IF the younger one is still at home...it is not always a solution to ignore the other opinions.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 2:29:57 PM   
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 2:38:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: junecleaver
Come on....you're suppose to say sex just gets better with age!  I need something to hold onto I'll be 23 soon. lol


Um.....sex really DOES get better with age! A LOT better!!!

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 3:04:15 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		That is certainly a point, all though I live at home at 26, and their opinions of my partners never mattered a bit to me.

I am lucky though that if they disproved of who I was dating they stayed quiet on the matter.

I got lucky though that they so far like my partner of 3 years. He's 11 years older than me, at 37.

They liked him enough to allow him to move in when he got transferred from Petaluma, to Sacto! And he's been here a little over a year. and we're both welcome to stay for as long as we need.
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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I personally don't care what people around me think of my relationship. They aren't in it and they're not a part of it, and if they happen not to like my relationship they can shove it where the sun doesn't shine.



People disagreeing (mainly parents) can be a big pressure on the relation though...so much that eventually the younger one can break under the pressure or end very unhappy.
IF the younger one is still at home...it is not always a solution to ignore the other opinions.


< Message edited by YourhandMyAss -- 1/31/2009 3:22:51 PM >

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 4:49:52 PM   
ThatDaveGuy69


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Status: offline 		"...he's unlike any other dom i've ever talked too..."

Uhm, lilmiss, just how many other doms have you talked to?

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 5:30:13 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I personally don't care what people around me think of my relationship. They aren't in it and they're not a part of it, and if they happen not to like my relationship they can shove it where the sun doesn't shine.



People disagreeing (mainly parents) can be a big pressure on the relation though...so much that eventually the younger one can break under the pressure or end very unhappy.
IF the younger one is still at home...it is not always a solution to ignore the other opinions.


wow someone smart thanks

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 5:32:00 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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ORIGINAL: ThatDaveGuy69

"...he's unlike any other dom i've ever talked too..."

Uhm, lilmiss, just how many other doms have you talked to?

~Dave


a lot, i like to talk to people to learn more..figure out more... i don't see how that's wrong it's not like i get naked for any of them or anything. or even talk about bdsm to a serious point..to me it's just learning and figuring out things by talking to others...


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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 5:42:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		Age don't mean diddly, as stated previously. When I had my 3 slaves, the youngest was 19 and the oldest was 53 and I was in my 30's then. Age is but a number only and means nothing. It is what is in the noggin (brains) and heart that matter more and IF there is a connection, even better. 

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 5:49:39 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		I personally disagree, if they're younger than 18 they're illegal, if they're not over 21 they can't drink and go clubbing with me. If they're so far ahead of me, to be like say 20 years older than me, WE probably won't have the same life goals.

Someone who's that far older than me will probably have already raised their share of kids and done the family man thing, and wouldn't be interested in starting all over.

And personally for me, I am not interested in someone who's so far ahead of me  in life, When I am 40 I don't want them to be 80 odd years old.

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ORIGINAL: Naberius

Age don't mean diddly, as stated previously. When I had my 3 slaves, the youngest was 19 and the oldest was 53 and I was in my 30's then. Age is but a number only and means nothing. It is what is in the noggin (brains) and heart that matter more and IF there is a connection, even better. 

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 5:54:12 PM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		Talk to all the Ds that you can! Get incite into how D (of ALL flavors) minds work so that you can get a better idea of what YOU respond to in a D.  It seems like the age thing is sort of an issue for you or you wouldn't have brought it up here. I hope i am wrong there and you are braggin' on your happiness. Maybe think about why it is or isn't an issue for YOU!

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 6:25:29 PM   
MistresseLotus


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Status: offline 		Let's have you put it in perspective.....

How do you view a person of 8?   Why?  Because you have more life experience. Do you see them as an equal.. or just mature for their age?  The older you get the less it matters. Right now 18 is a very tender and vulnerable age which you will not see until you yourself have more living under your belt. We all have gone through it.. you'll survive.  What is really going to shock you later on..like when you are 40, is just how immature guys of 30 are..they just want to get laid. LOL!
















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