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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:22:12 AM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		Age matters.  It's that simple.  Do I like the idea of pounding on the tight beautiful flesh of some pup? Sure...I gotta dick ....means that I think like a man.

Compatability is essential as well.  However, even though it is true that age is not the sole measure of one's character and the underlying compatability it does play a huge role in determining one's life experiences. 

Tits that don't sag, a vagina untouched by the rigors of childbirth along with thousands of plunderings and an ass that you can crack an egg on, are all pretty damn fine qualities.  The question becomes how much bullshit am I going to have to swallow to enjoy these wonderful perks of youth?  

Apparently out here it is quite a lot.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:24:39 AM   
DavanKael


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Status: offline 		Age differences generally matter less when you're older but there are no hard and fast rules. 
If you have a mutual interest and there aren't reasons not to, why not see where that interest takes you (both)? 
That having been said, I consider myself at 18 and then again at 30 and note that while I was the same person fundamentally, there were certainly a lot of life experiences between those 2 ages that changed some details of inteaction, temperment, direction, etc.  Also, there are 18 year olds who are more mature than 30 year olds.  everyone's different. 
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:28:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		there is a 13 years age different between Master and myself. that being said i'm in my middle 30's and 13 years put him in his late 40's. i have found with the age difference i found the man in the Master that i can respect and surrender my life and care into his keeping.


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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:30:16 AM   
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Well my mother died...so i don't have to worry about her...
I know my dad will prolly not be thrilled..but he'd never ditch me in the end he'd always support me..

it's my older brother and sister who would be the hardest ..oh well

and i know he isn't playing me....if you read my journal enteries i know when something is wrong and this guy is sooo different.
Thank you guys it really helped to read all this feedback...it really did!



Oh heck I forgot, yes my sister kicked me out of my parents house when I told them I was living with to be hubby. It can be tough, and yes they came around.sort of, but he was that important to me. I don't think I would have known that though right away. I am slow as molasses in that department after a previous marriage and some rough roads, so was not so eager at 24 to jump into anything. He was the same way, so it worked it for us.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:30:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: whis31

there is a 13 years age different between Master and myself. that being said i'm in my middle 30's and 13 years put him in his late 40's. i have found with the age difference i found the man in the Master that i can respect and surrender my life and care into his keeping.





I do think people afther 30....will have less problems with the difference then a situation where the youngest is 18.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:32:22 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: whis31

there is a 13 years age different between Master and myself. that being said i'm in my middle 30's and 13 years put him in his late 40's. i have found with the age difference i found the man in the Master that i can respect and surrender my life and care into his keeping.





I do think people afther 30....will have less problems with the difference then a situation where the youngest is 18.



ya def think that too

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:33:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: oceanwynds

quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Well my mother died...so i don't have to worry about her...
I know my dad will prolly not be thrilled..but he'd never ditch me in the end he'd always support me..

it's my older brother and sister who would be the hardest ..oh well

and i know he isn't playing me....if you read my journal enteries i know when something is wrong and this guy is sooo different.
Thank you guys it really helped to read all this feedback...it really did!



Oh heck I forgot, yes my sister kicked me out of my parents house when I told them I was living with to be hubby. It can be tough, and yes they came around.sort of, but he was that important to me. I don't think I would have known that though right away. I am slow as molasses in that department after a previous marriage and some rough roads, so was not so eager at 24 to jump into anything. He was the same way, so it worked it for us.


im sorry that sucks

seems like you got through it though<3

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:41:29 AM   
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seems like you got through it though<3


Yes, i truly was honored to had him as my husband and a person who had inspired my life for 29 years. I still feel he looks after me and I know he likes Sir:)

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 9:51:26 AM   
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:04:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Early in my life I had one of those relationships...actually the age difference was even greater. It lasted 3 years and I learned a lot. I thought it was forever....I'm smarter than that now. Ultimately, the age difference was our downfall. It wasn't that we didn't get along great...we did. Loved to do all of the same things together. But in the end he realized that it wasn't fair to me. We are still great friends and get together several times a year (he is now retired and living in Florida). I'm not going to say that you won't have an experience that you can cherish forever....but I highly doubt it will be a forever relationship. When you are older, age difference doesn't matter so much...but when you are younger, over time...it does.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:11:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Hell, the only reason the age gap is as narrow as it is for me present day, is that i keep getting older...*dammit*...Trust me, a good 25 yr age difference is hot when youre the 18 yr old...Slightly different for me now, as apparently im pushing 40 pretty hard...

Ah, those were the dayzzz.....*sits back in her chair, tweaks a nipple and takes mental inventory of her younger days...le sigh*

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:12:08 AM   
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:17:06 AM   
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are you?

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:28:07 AM   
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:44:38 AM   
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aw cute.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:45:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

I'm really interested in this 30 year old guy...he's unlike any other dom i've ever talked too...i really do like him . The only thing that seems to be getting in the way is the age difference..but in the end when i'm like 20 something and he's in his 30's do people even pay that much attention to age anymore?
what do you guys think?

I just don't know...............i really like him.

Without reading any other responses, a 30yo is a tad too old for a teenager whereas for a 54yo (ahem ), society practically expects it....
 
Call me...!  ;-)
 
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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:45:44 AM   
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what do you think your self?
are you?


idky lykje dats y i asked dis question ya

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 10:45:56 AM   
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Hell, the only reason the age gap is as narrow as it is for me present day, is that i keep getting older...*dammit*...Trust me, a good 25 yr age difference is hot when youre the 18 yr old...Slightly different for me now, as apparently im pushing 40 pretty hard...

Ah, those were the dayzzz.....*sits back in her chair, tweaks a nipple and takes mental inventory of her younger days...le sigh*


Come on....you're suppose to say sex just gets better with age!  I need something to hold onto I'll be 23 soon. lol


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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 11:09:26 AM   
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Imo, yes you're too young and he's too old.

You're just beginning your life. You should be out there enjoying your life, experimenting, getting to know what you do and don't like, etc...

He might be good for something short term but don't expect it to last or for him to be "The One".

Personally when I see older men going after young girls I think they're going through a mid-life crisis. Someone will get hurt.

But then I'm old fashioned.




Agreed with littlewonder, reluctantly no, if it's about eventually living together and/or getting married.

Yes, he at 30 can potentially teach you much about your own submissive path and that is good, and that may be worth exploring. But it's not specifically about how wide the age gap itself is, it's about where your age starts in the age gap -- 18.

At age 18, you do need to give yourself some time to experience the world first (I mean all the world, not just BDSM) so that you can have a variety of exposures to different people and situations, and later, perhaps in your mid-20s, you may be clearer about who you are and what Master/Dom partner/lover/companion you seek and sync with.

It might be that you re-discover him at a later age and hook up, but in the years ahead from age 18, it is in your best interest to test your life in all its choices. I suspect that is what your older brother and sister would tell you, once they got over the shock of the news, and settled down. you have more of a life to live first, and you only get it once at age 18.

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RE: is an 18 year old sub too young for a 30 year old dom? - 1/31/2009 11:51:22 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm 25 and officially dated a guy who was 33 and then had a fling with a guy who was 34, possibly 35.
In D/S relationships I dont think age matters so much.
I used to go this fetish club (35 year old owned the place. guess why I dont go anymore......we had a nilla thing cause we werent actually together but yes I absolutely wanted to have a loving relationship that included D/S) and there was this guy who would come. he was known as the club's Resident Bondage Expert. not sure how old he was....late 50s or early 60s I'd say. as a fanatical clubber, most people who go to nightclubs are in their twenties. he'd just tie up and whip any lady in the club who wished it. and he was married, and his wife was a lot younger than he. he tied me up one time.

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