RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish?

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MidMichCowboy -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:20:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub I thought all this was supposed to be in people's profiles. That's what I thought too. But, as I read peoples profiles, it seems that there are a lot of them that are pretty sparse. Now, I understand that not everyone gets diarrhea of the pen as I do and writes overly long profiles and extensive journal entries (in some weird attempt to attract the right person, while offending many others ... unintentionally). So, with all the tact that I've developed over the past 20 years, I decided to just ask.

Lockit -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:20:34 PM)
My former submissive told me about CM and at the time we were looking for other's to enteract with in a non play way. I simply liked the message boards and all there was here... made friends and stuck around. I created my profile, changed it many times determined by what was going on in life and started explaining more in my profile to end the constant emails and questions. Telling my story a bit... creating a rules of communication list... all served to save me from a lot of BS. lol I am still here for the boards and friend's... but just maybe... maybe... have found one hunka hunka lotta love manly, man submissive... That just could be, the bonus! lol

oceanwynds -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:21:03 PM)
Oh, I didnt plan on ever posting nor sticking around to long, but I became addicted to reading the forums. I enjoy the majority of the people here and am learning a lot. oceanwynds

CalifChick -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:21:19 PM)
I know exactly what I want. That's the problem... it doesn't exist. I really should change my criteria back to "breathing, currently or recently". Whenever I see a profile that is looking for a plaything, a toy, a pet, or someone that talks about other qualities that are an automatic "no" (such as wanting someone born around 1990, not wanting a fat chick, or their entire profile is negative), then I hit the "hide" button. I hope there's no limit for the number of people you can put on hide, because I think I have a few hundred there now... and that's just within 250 miles of me and within a certain age range and that are dominant, male and straight. So I'm here now for the abuse... I'm trying to become a better masochist. Sadly, I'm failing even at that. Cali

SummerWind -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:21:26 PM)
Joined to find a f sub purely for play ..........totally fucked that up

CalifChick -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:23:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub I thought all this was supposed to be in people's profiles. Yep, it's there, even has a title called something like, "what I'm looking for". Not that it matters. Cali

hardbodysub -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:30:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub I thought all this was supposed to be in people's profiles. That's what I thought too. But, as I read peoples profiles, it seems that there are a lot of them that are pretty sparse. Now, I understand that not everyone gets diarrhea of the pen as I do and writes overly long profiles and extensive journal entries (in some weird attempt to attract the right person, while offending many others ... unintentionally). So, with all the tact that I've developed over the past 20 years, I decided to just ask. Fair enough.

CatdeMedici -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:37:47 PM)
Discussion--some naughty, some nice, some sarcastic some with ice. I have made some very good real life friends here.

NYLass -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:43:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy quote: ORIGINAL: hardbodysub I thought all this was supposed to be in people's profiles. That's what I thought too. But, as I read peoples profiles, it seems that there are a lot of them that are pretty sparse. Now, I understand that not everyone gets diarrhea of the pen as I do and writes overly long profiles and extensive journal entries (in some weird attempt to attract the right person, while offending many others ... unintentionally). So, with all the tact that I've developed over the past 20 years, I decided to just ask. [rant]I prefer a man who actually puts in his profile what he's looking for. I won't contact someone who's left a profile blank, or has no interests. If I am contacted by someone, I mention that I'm not interested in someone who won't list preferences. Damned if I don't get the "ask me"... I ask about extreme, and oddities. What do you know? It seemed he was so into those things. How much you want to bet if I said those same things were my limits, I'd have heard the same thing. [end rant] I'm here to hopefully find a sadistic spouse, one who also enjoys being on the receiving end of pain as well as dishing it out. I had to explain in detail, that I'm not submissive. I don't fit into the categories listed, as I'm a sadomasochist. That's not too tough to comprehend, is it? However, I'm just out of a 20 yr marriage, and not rushing right now. I find the fora are interesting and do follow many of the threads.

MissIsis -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 8:49:34 PM)
I am here for the message boards. Sometimes, I learn new things & sometimes, I find something to laugh & smile about & other times, they provide an outlet for my creativity & a place to put down my words.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 9:23:16 PM)
I don't really do the public thing outside of wanting to attend big events with lots of different people. I don't really play/scene. What I do that may be kinky, is usually foreplay with a boyfriend. What I'm looking for, as it turns out, is a smart gentleman doormat, who can laugh at life and himself along with me. M

atypicalsub -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 9:31:59 PM)
Hmmm, what I found here, is a life I couldn't have imagined being part of this time last year. I originaly came here because I had learned that normal relationship models just didn't work for me. I had run across the blog of a person who wrote very prolificly and eloquently of her relationship with her Master. So I came here to learn, and very timidly to explore. I hung out here in the chat rooms and reading the forums to learn what this was all about. Somehow in one of the chat rooms I caught the attention of a Domme. I thought she was just being friendly because it was obvious I was new to all this. It took me a couple of months to realize she was really interested in me. We started talking on the phone, which quickly became every night. Over the summer I came to visit her for two weeks. Now I live with her and wear her collar 24/7. This is the first time in my life I feel I am truely allowed to just be who I am without having to fit into some set of society's expectations. This is also the first time in my life I understand what it means to be cherished. Mistress and I are both very poly minded. I am here to tell others about my experience, and also looking for others to join us. Most of all Mistress needs a good pain slut. That is something I definately can not be for her so I am hoping to help her find someone to fill that. It would be wonderful if that person can also be a playmate for me but that would be a bonus, not a requirement.

goodgirl85 -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 9:37:33 PM)
I came on here to get over my Ex. I did that by meeting first one, then another person, both of which I played with a few times. In my case, the old Third time is a charm cliche works as my current Sir is the third person I seriously talked to, and met and now we are happily in love. I stayed for boards, I may not be a frequent writer, but i occasionaly post, and respond to posts. I like the people on here, and its always interesting to see where a topic can go. And as always, I'm open to meeting new people for simple friendship.

Carnae7 -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 9:47:56 PM)
quote: I'm looking for someone to share my life with who blends into just about everything vanilla but can also share a healthy intimate sex life with me as well. For me, just being able to share BDSM/power exchange wouldn't be enough. I guess I want it all and believe I can find it all in one person. I prefer that said individual be my last great lover, companion, and life partner. I am kind of old fashioned and believe in traditional values, and I desire one who is family oriented, loves animals, and is someone I could comfortably introduce to friends and family proudly. I'm a very assertive, know-what-she-wants kind of woman, thus I need a man who understands and accepts this. Im not sure if I'll find what I'm seeking here on Collareme, but I'm taking a look around! Holy Crap!!! This is me too!! Only I'm a submissive! I'm sorry Dominant Damsel, but you just said it so absolutely perfect, I just could not say it any better. And MidMichCowboy - I know what you mean. I'm also verrry explicit in my profile and explain what I like and don't like. Yet sadly, many profiles are so sparse for what they do and do not like, it's hard to tell who wants what. And then I find blank profiles, which really just mystifies me! So, like yourself, I find it's easier to just ask bluntly - What do you want here? My struggle in looking for a potential partner here is that I am a very strong and intelligent person, which seems to intimidate most of the men I've found interesting so far. (At least, this is what I'm often told!) I am willing to do a lot of things to make a relationship work and adjust a fair amount to accommodate a partner. I have a verrrry adaptable personality, and have a wide variety of interests, so I'm very open to numerous initial differences. But here's the kicker; the man I'm looking for needs to be smarter than me and have a stronger personality than mine. Without these qualities, I find I cannot fully submit as I want to. But I have to say MidMichCowboy, you really rock my boat!!! I find myself verrry attracted to you, first of all because of your looks, then because of your profile and what you say there. Your personality really comes through and I think any woman would be soooooo verrrry lucky to have a chance to be with you. I am honestly looking for a man who is the type of person you have described yourself to be. Well - except for having young kids at home. Mine are grown and on their own now, and I'm quite liking this stage of my life. ~smiles~ They also need to live in BC, Canada, as I love it here. So... sorry cowboy if I got your hopes up - LOL!!! Just joking! But I sincerely wish you all the best in your search!! You seem like quite a catch!

myotherself -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 9:52:12 PM)
I joined to find out more about the lifestyle. Met someone, played and then stayed to find out more about me. I've met some people, some who have become good friends. Some who have become vague memories. Some who were bad nightmares, for a while. I've learned to ignore those negative people whose profiles are a litany of complaints regarding the 'twoo-ness' of subs. I've learned to ignore those whose profiles are cut and paste 'I want to push your boundaries' lazy text. I've learned to ignore those whose profile is empty - they hide more than just words. I've learned to talk to those who talk from the heart, and with joy. Now I know how to choose more carefully, I'm hoping to find the man who wants to love me, nurture me and give me pain.

CarrieO -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 10:01:42 PM)
A friend of mine told me I should check out CM because it might be a good place to find what I was looking for. That was a year ago. In that time, I've changed...my wants have changed...heck, even my profile has changed! I was looking for (and maybe still am but find it to be a futile search) a relationship, a partner. Not a play partner or a "toy"....not really my style....but a complex and creative individual, one that challenges/inspires/engages/accepts me. One that has more in common with me than bdsm or D/s and is willing to look beyond labels to see who I am and in turn show me who he is. I don't think that person will be found on CollarMe....which is fine. I stay here for the few people I've made friends with....and these damn addictive forums!

DavanKael -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 10:04:34 PM)
Hi, MidMichCowboy---- Hope that the New Year's treating you well! :> I discovered CM several years ago when my ex- and I were still together. I'd look around the site and learn a bit here and there while wishing for D/s dynamics in my marriage. When my ex- and I separated, I put up a profile with the determination that I wasn't considering my interests/needs optional as he had. I re-met someone on here that I'd met once years before and essentially didn't visit the site during the relationship; we'd occasionally read the Boards together. When that broke up, I went back to perving profiles and had become active on the Boards while that relationship was falling apart. Now, I am in a relationship with a wonderful person, am joyously not looking, and altered my profile as such. Yaaaaay! I'm here to read/contribute on the Boards and to keep in touch with folks/socialize. Best wishes, all---- Davan

Jeptha -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 10:14:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy ... So tell me please, what do you want and why? Great, direct questions! I'm the "second" in a poly sort of thing right now. My partner is married, and she sees me with her husband's knowledge and blessing. Right now it's all I need and I'm only looking for friends. We expect that maybe someday I'll find a primary partner for myself. But I'm not really actively looking right now because I'd rather not mess with the nice chemistry and balance that we have. As far as my likes go; I like objectification, but I also like to cherish my "object". Maybe not always at the same time. I find the forums here thought provoking and entertaining in their own right.

peppermint -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 10:54:35 PM)
The forums where I used to read died a slow death due to people leaving dial up for faster service. Not looking to hook up with anyone for play, sex, kink, etc. here on Collarme. Just enjoy reading and posting in the forums.

chiaThePet -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/2/2009 11:04:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming I'm having a staring contest with chiaThePet. You blinked. Did too. Yes huh. Mom, dreamers cheating. I'm looking for someone who goes well with some fava beans and a nice chianti. You blinked. chia (the pet)

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