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NuevaVida -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 5:34:33 AM)

When I came here I was owned and just wanted to read the message boards.  I never intended to even post - ha! 

Now that I'm single, I'm still not "seeking."  I don't often read profiles and I almost never initiate contact with others.  I'm here for the boards, and I am open to possibilities of a relationship forming, but I'm not actively out there looking for one. I've made some cool friends here, though, and I'm grateful for that!



SultryMomma -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 6:02:39 AM)

For myself, I am basically just here to read the forums and post from time to time. If by some chance, I happen to find what I am looking for, great. If not, well, will just continue reading and enjoying myself.

SM
(Kris)



DavanKael -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:06:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

I've tried hard to articulate what it is I'm looking for, but I don't seem to be very successful. I've literally written pages describing both what I'm looking for and how I feel about it. Here's just a few experts from my profile and journal. How does one boil that down?

Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman, but luckier is the woman who is the last love of a man.
That is what I’m looking for, my last love.
Now don’t think I’m dying or wasting away. This cowboy has a lot of miles left to travel, but I don’t want to travel them alone. I’m looking for a woman who will share those miles with me. Some will be smooth and easy to walk, some will be uphill and require us to hold on to each other as we work our way to the top.
There will be boulders in the road and at times, it may seem like we have lost our way. But, together, we can make this journey.
And when my time comes, I would like to give up my spirit, while laying in the arms of this woman, this woman I will love, honor and trust.

Too often, we let lifestyle or kink overshadow the completeness of a relationship between people. While not denying the power and passion of that side of a relationship, it alone, will leave us with a hunger.
Too many try to fill that hunger by involving more people or chasing the same dream over and over.
But life needs balance. I want the passion along with the quiet love and trust that is actually the truest and strongest part of a relationship.

I’m looking for a strong, complex woman who will take my breath away when I look at her and dazzle me with her intelligence. I want a woman who is smart, philosophical, childlike, mature, wild but needing to be led. I want and need the woman who can submit to the scholar, the cowboy, the gentleman, the barbarian, the child, and the father that is me.

I wish I could say that I would pursue a relationship with you when you are over an hour away, but the truth is, it won't work. Between my ummms, horses and job, I just don't have the time. At this stage in my life, my ummms have first claim on my time, but I would love to share them with the right person.

Maybe I'm just looking for an angel with a dark side that I can carry away?


The things that you have written are artfully said and heartfelt; why in the world would you want to boil that down?  I believe that the way you craft the things that you say assists others in gaining a flavor for who you are.  :>
  Davan



whiteslavebitch -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:17:35 AM)

I started a profile on here as an additional mode of communication with MasterK, but I use it mostly for the message boards.



Madame4a -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:20:55 AM)

I'm open to a casual play partner, all the way to a serious relationship.  That said, I try not to be 'looking' ... I'm just open to getting to know people and seeing how it goes.

While as a general rule I'm looking for a male submissive, I'm open, again, to many other things. 

My life has changed since I first came here.



came4U -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:23:49 AM)

I am looking for what I am looking for....and I know I will 'know it' when I find IT/him.

So far, IT/he is a no-show, but am in no hurry to make a bad decision and play with someone in the meantime.  Life goes on with or without a man in my life.  I don't worry about being man-less, to do so would only torture me physically and mentally.




hardbodysub -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:31:07 AM)

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Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish?


Yes.

Any or all of the above.



Knottydad -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:42:22 AM)

I came here cause I'm way too curious.
I enjoy reading the forums (instead of working), i have learned many things and understood most of the motivations and comments of you CM addicts, but I sadly can't identify to anyone around here.

I just don't live my kink : I live with the one girl I love and we have 2 wonderful children, and I really can't afford to egoistically destroy my family, just to take lots of individual pleasure by slapping butts and tying (an)other girl(s)...

I must be masochist in some way to hurt me every time I start thinking about what would my life be once I've started assuming my tying obsessions.
Plus I feel so lame in not being able to translate my complex French thoughts into proper written English... [:(]


So I'd say : for friendship first, and for a scene, second.



Ropebefun -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:47:48 AM)

Originally I came here to learn more about the lifestyle and where I fit in.  Then that turned into finding friends with like minded people, then to looking for a relationship, and now we are back to just finding friends, that second to last part did not go so well.  From that, I have learned that something more then a mutual interest in one or more kinks is required to make a relationship work and that friendship first is required.  So I think now I'll just stick to the forms and friendship, do less damage that way.



VeryNastyDom -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:47:59 AM)

I have had a few very rewarding LTR that ended when one of us had to move for work or family reasons.  I would very much like to find another LTR partner, but until then I enjoy the forums. 



windchymes -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 7:53:26 AM)

I came here originally because I thought it was only a personal ad site and I wanted to see if it was any different from alt.com and the others.  I later realized that wasn't what I was looking for after all, revamped my profile to be more realistic for my lifestyle and goals.  Then I discovered the forum, and I pretty much just hang out here.  I honestly like a lot of you here [:)]



colouredin -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 8:01:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: JustDarkness

quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

(and being madly and wildly in love with me [:D])
 oh yes...damn..forgot to mention that detail  [:D]


How can you forget me [:(]



chezzy71 -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 8:11:04 AM)

I would like to think i have made some friends here..but i have certainly found the one to cherish all of my life.I like to say my world rocks...that is because Mistress rocks it with me.She has been the one constant in my time here and i am forever grateful.



feydeplume -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 8:18:33 AM)

I/we signed up to meet new face to face friends in our new area. But i gotta say, the forums are a great playground. 



Twicehappy2x -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 8:46:52 AM)

Lol, i am here to pick on Sir Parsley and yak with his lovely lovely subbie erin.

Ooooppppssss, that is Sir Sage.........weg!

Oh my, i better get in good shape because i am guessing i'll have to run next time they visit........

Seriously though, the forums and to talk with my friends.



WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 8:54:58 AM)

I want it all, but not necessarily all at once.  I want the friend , the lover, the dominant force in my life to surrender to, and the passionate force to cherish.   Do I expect to find that here?  Not really, but I do believe it is as good place to make myself accessible to the opportunity, as any other.  In fact, I think it is a very good place, comparitively speaking.  Where else am I going to find someone who wants to do the cruel and evil things I crave from him, without needing to file a police report afterwards?

I'm also on Plentyoffish, but then those who write me are so NOT ready for the quirkier, darker side of my nature, that it becomes an exercise in frustration and futility to even try dating someone who isn't at least aware of BDSM.  I mean, sure I can live without it, but why would I want to if I don' have to?




feydeplume -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 9:30:08 AM)

I lied. I'm just here to stalk T1981 and be in awe of chia.



popeye1250 -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 9:40:23 AM)

Well I'm a frequent poster to the forums in here and like the interaction and banter with other members.
Also, I'm searching for a live-in sub or slave here with me.
Not a "plaything" but a true monogomous relationship with hopefully a life partner.
She would always be my sub/slave but would also be involved in all the vanilla parts of our relationship as well. Dinner, shows, walking on the beach, bicycling, travel, everything.
Or maybe a life partner who is also a sub/slave.
I tend to be the more "protective" type of Dom not the abusive type so a "doormat" type probably wouldn't like me.
And if she needs to be locked up in a cage 23 hours a day we probably wouldn't mesh either. I need *much* more interaction than that! I do love bondage and she'd be tied up a few hours each day and for sex too.
I tend to like subs/slaves who are "service-oriented" and like being dressed as a maid in the home as this serves as a constant reminder of her position in life.
And of course a healthy sex life is important too.
Also, I think a sub/slave should have a job/career outside the home, friends, hobbies, contact with their family etc. Our *relationship* would be between us and not the public, friends or family.
I just don't think a sub/slave should be kept "prisoner" in the home like many seem to want with no vanilla life at all.
So, I'm certainly not looking for a "one night stand" or anything even close to that.
I don't much care for local "scenes" or munches.
Got all of that stuff out of my system years ago. Besides, if you meet "the one" you don't need that stuff anymore anyway.
So, a career woman would probably be best for me, nurse, lawyer, doctor, teacher, businesswoman, etc.
And I do like slender, slim or hwp women.
If I'm walking four or five miles through the sand on the beach that day at a good clip *so are you!* So if you're overweight and *not active* then again I'm not for you. I usually take a 3 to 5 mile walk everyday and I would expect my sub/slave to do so with me as well.
I also have a gym membership and would add my sub/slave onto that too.
You'd think with the nasty winter they're having up North that I'd be getting more than a few inqueries being in Myrtle Beach, S.C.!
Oh, and one thing I'm *NOT* looking for in here is "dates" with bi-sexual men!
I get a lot of mail from them just wanting to say "hi" or whatever but sorry, not gonna happen! I don't know why they single me out.



Lockit -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 9:54:51 AM)

Popeye, they aren't singling you out... they do that to a lot of men.  The one's that do that... They like virgins and to convince someone... anyone most the time... who is a virgin is like a feather in their cap. Or... they just think you are cute and they can't help themselves... hehe 

Disclaimer... I am not talking every bi guy/gay person is this way... just the more trollish types.  And trollish types come in all flavors... but a troll is a troll and when a straight person gets certain types of attention from those who might wish to have sex with them... most likely, with or without a sign... you are dealing with a trollish type.  They aren't just contacting one... but just about anyone they see that might say... yes.

To stay on track with the thread... I am not here for troll types. Now a guy bound under a bridge might be interesting... but the trolls... not so much.



popeye1250 -> RE: Are you looking for a scene, someone to play or use, or someone to cherish? (2/3/2009 10:05:41 AM)

Lockit, ah,...so they just do that to see if you'll bite eh?
Well I do but not in a good way.



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