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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 2:48:02 PM

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or maybe that nothing of use has come from that puny island in the last century or so.

That's the beauty of the English, Domi: we're put on this earth to please only ourselves. What do you want? A fuckin' handout from us? Isn't a language, the rule of law, a banking system, team sports, John Locke, Thomas Paine, oxygen, fire and water enough for you?

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Even the Lion needs rest...

'Still a lion, though. A cat is no more inclined to live by the laws of a lion, or vice versa, as you are to live by the laws of an enlightened mind.

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It is good to be the King, but every King needs a break...You keep wearing the crown for too long and you end up dead on the crapper.

I know of no king that has ever wanted a break, and I should know because I mix in such circles. On the contrary, kings' power tends to unravel on the back of an inability to maintain his ambitions at an agreeable level; more often than not, he loses his head or is forced to abdicate. So, there's the trick, can you strike a balance between total authority and maintaining an agreeable relationship where you and your woman have their needs satisfied?

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 2:57:34 PM

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Domiguy, I feel your pain. Most subs i have dealt with on a day to day basis are life sucking vampires from hell. They are full of demands and costumes and are more work that a 10 course French dinner. It sucks.

The part that sucks worse is that the nilla chicks I have dated are EVEN more work, have stranger expectations and don't even give me a clue what they are so i am always wrong and a bitch that doesn't care enough to read what passes for their mind.

As for the "I am kinky sometimes" girls, you gotta be a mind reader, sexual acrobat, be able to shift sex/gender AND costume, have more toys than a sex shop, one of the big corporate ones i mean, and suddenly be able to cuddle when they "need a moment".

This is why i started fucking men. Way fewer head trips, baggage that you can ignore (once they are hard at least) most of the time, and they know to get their ass out of my bed and move on. If i want breakfast in bed with a rose, I'll call room service. I may even tip with a blow job.

Oh yeah, I am female and i know what a headcase I can be. I won't even try to defend myself on that one. ovaries=insanity. The Twinkies made me do it, or was it the shoes, or that my daddy read me war and peace. I don't know and i hope to never have to find out. To be "fair" testicles=insanity too. "they were so quite and seemed like such a nice guy."

Tequila shots in Baja help. So do surfer girls/guys and turning Descartes into a mad libs. As a very wise and amazinly drunk man once said "don't go courting weirdness when it will come to your door and ask for money or give you a book". He then threw up on my shoes and tried to have sex with the wall. Ah good times.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:03:23 PM

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And lastly in close, Mikey and BSB, no one wants to hear your monotonous praise for each other that has continued after the "break up." It's sickening.

Like so many others I wished you relationship would have ended with a degree of harsh finality. A door slam,unforgivable passed words, slapped face, black eye or the highly coveted restraining order. I have kept in contact with some of my previous fucks and it appalls me.

I wish your relationship would have ended badly. One of you should be emphatically stating that your time together was like your life was put on ice and that the 342 days that you spent together were ripped away never to be recovered...Similar to the activities of a kidney stealing crack ho.

The damage was irreparable.

Domi, you sweet talker you, you ARE flirting with me aren't you! I am very selective in who I allow into my life and she was an amazing woman before I met her and by her own admission, is a better one for having been with me. I can say the same thing in spades. Oh it hurts at times that it didn't work out but that isn't anyone's fault, we treated each other with respect before, during and after our romantic relationship ended. We will always be dear friends and I trust her implicitly, heck, we still share passwords with each other...

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:05:45 PM

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Feydeplume, that is one of the best posts I've read in days!

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:11:33 PM

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Ha. I'm gonna have to really think about this tonight over a cold beer at the bar and write a more detailed answer. I will say right now though that it is very me to be in a TPE relationship. It was brought to my attention just recently that I've been in one for the past twenty years, but without any kink. That was something I never realized until it was pointed out to me.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:12:01 PM

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imo it all really boils down to personalities...for a Dominant, is your personality such that you need to be in control ALL of the time? perhaps just MOST of the time? or do you not really give a flookie about control when your cock isn't hard? that to me determines the difference between those who pursue D/s as reflection of who they are, and those who pursue D/s as a kink only.

Yanno, that attitude is pretty annoying, though even more from people (not you) who haven't actually tried anything but online D/s fun and games, and claim they are somehow more "twue/real/whatever" than people who have been doing BDSM for a long time.

For me, D/s, when it happens, does go beyond playtime/sexual stuff, but I don't really consider it to be an intrinsic part of my personality, and I definitely wouldn't be satisfied with "a vanilla relationship as long as there is D/s involved" like some folks here. I haven't had a vanilla relationship since just before I turned 21, and some compatibility in that respect is necessary. I don't really have a lot of strong "must use this toy" kind of kinks. Why do you and the other folks with this attitude feel the need to denigrate people who enjoy BDSM without feeling that D/s is a personality trait?

umm...huh?? you have definitely read something into my words that is not there. first, i have not mentioned BDSM at all..and there's a good reason for that, for the purposes of this discussion, BDSM doesn't seem to be relevant. there's also the fact that i am not a part of the BDSM "lifestyle" and therefore certainly not qualified to say what a relationship of that sort does and does not entail.

secondly, there is nothing wrong (imo) with pursuing D/s as a kink. if it floats your boat, go for it. there is also nothing wrong with pursuing D/s as a "part" of who you are as opposed to the sum total of who you are. there is nothing wrong with TPE. there is nothing wrong with full-time D/s without TPE. there is nothing wrong with d/s roleplay and dress up on the weekends and every other holiday. there is nothing wrong with these and many other things....i am only pointing out the differences, not making value assessments.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:16:33 PM

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I've, more or less, taken to dating through normal, vanilla mediums as opposed to BDSM mediums to circumvent and avoid all of that. We attract people compatible to us and my personality is more than enough to bring around the women who desire strong male leadership and masculinity. It's really quite nice to be with a women who simply prefers that the man makes the decisions without any concern to whether her actions are proper submissive behavior and likes a guy to pull her hair without any concern as to whether or not he meets the proper standards of a dominant.

Rabbit, I am impressed! The more I am around the scene, the more I tend to agree with this sentiment. The women I tend to desire are not the typical scene submissive. I have sort of given up on finding my "one" till I am back in the business world wearing suits and ties again. Some of those vanilla women are sick and twisted in the best of ways without the baggage of working how to do D/s "right".

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:17:46 PM

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Have you personally run into or been with that sort of s type? Did she actually try to make you stop your life to live hers for her? if so, all i can say is youch and glad you got away. I know i have seen it in some profiles and i have yet to message one of those people and ask what they really want, but I am starting to think that might make a good hobby.

Don't get me wrong here, if that is really their thing, more power to them and I can even help with the manual (for pay). I just have never witnessed it for myself for anything lasting more than say a weekend or at the most 2 or 3 weeks. The body runs out of chemicals to be aroused at that level after a point and its sports drinks and nutritional bars all around.

I know its in some porn fantasy stuff, mostly i skip over that porn because the details bore the hell out of me,or i start laughing so hard i drop my vibrator. I also skip the new love and gangbang stuff for just about the same reasons. Sometimes i even correct the grammar.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:18:17 PM

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That's the beauty of the English, Domi: we're put on this earth to please only ourselves.

I thought it was to advertise the importance of good dental care and to serve as the lowpoint in cuisine?

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:26:16 PM

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Who has got the patience for TPE? Who has the ability to cater and meet the needs of someone who is always in search of some form of reinforcement or that their actions need to be approved. Maybe my name should be "SortofDom"....But so much of this shit seems too demanding and simply over the top, at least for me. Much of it seems to much like men just behaving poorly and boorishly and woman who lack the mustard to be heard and an overall grace.

hi Domiguy.

i picked out this para because i think its a really interesting statement and it totally highlights the dividing line between guys looking for some kinky fun and guys who genuinely enjoy TPE who enjoy the control, enjoy having a slave/sub and who enjoy the depth of pleasure all of that brings (including the kinky stuff) - for these guys it isnt all about sex, for some it isnt about sex atall but it is about TPE.

it is alot of work being a Master or Domme. it takes an awful lot of effort, thought, committment and time - but thats what they want/like/enjoy/choose. theyre not boorish, speaking as a sub i think they are the most wonderful human beings in the world, because they understand us, they want to understand us and they enjoy who we are.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:30:59 PM

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Feydeplume, that is one of the best posts I've read in days!

agreed!!

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:36:22 PM

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Lets just cut the "my way is more fucking uber than your stupid way" crap.

If you are happy doing TPE, great. If you are happy doing D/s in the bedroom great. If you want to slap and tickle, great.

Cause the reality is some TPE is so fluffy I wouldn't call it topping, some slap and tickle is frigging intense, and some vanillas exercise more control over their partners than most of us.

If some one's partner does everything he tells her to do, EVERYTHING but his actual demands are few or easy, does that make him more dominant than me if my partner only obeys half the time but I loan out her holes, makes her fuck whatever I wants, use her for a toilet, make her lick cum off my fingers that I wiped out of her asshole but she says no to some of the sick stuff I want? And on another level, who the frack cares anyway?

So unless we start REALLY defining what we are talking about, lets leave all the fracking posturing for the peacocks and just help ole Dommi get some!

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:47:58 PM

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That's the beauty of the English, Domi: we're put on this earth to please only ourselves.

I thought it was to advertise the importance of good dental care and to serve as the lowpoint in cuisine?

Mike, has anyone ever said to you: "never, ever, try to be funny in my presence again"? I couldn't possibly entertain an exchange of wit with you, though I'm sure you're hilarious given time and patience.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:58:20 PM

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Well thanks. I thought hey, if i am going to be bitchy and psycho with relief and all emotional, i might as well do it with humor.

Domiguy: immitation is the highest form of flattery. I know mine wasn't nearly as good as yours, but gimme points cuz i am just one of those icky sub/slaves *wink*

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 3:59:39 PM

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I thought it was to create and disseminate the best comedy. Guess i am just wrong on all counts these days.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 4:01:13 PM

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(in response to SM) .... but we all agree that everyone has their own handle on what they want and all power to whatever that is - just calling someone into TPE boorish and the majority of subs a waste of space is a bit crap in my opinion.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 4:01:18 PM

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Great to see you Domi!
This post of yours has drug me out of hiding for a minute.
Your words about ~real relationships~ struck home with me. Having never aimed at being a sport fuck, or just out
to push that edge what I've always reached for has been that emotional end of a ~twue~ connection.
I'm sure I've been labeled as way to Nilla more times then I care to count. As you say, prude comes to mind.
But being kinky I found myself here. I've never been a switch (not as in a lifestyle choice) but what I'm saying is geared
to that 24/7 idea. I am what I am, I cant put on a red cape by day and do my job just to come home, loose the cape and my identity over my self imposed choice of calling myself a sub. again, I am what I am.
I think like anything results here are directly related to intent and what your willing to give it.
I know there is no Super Doms, sub's or slaves here, were all people.
And that is where the stew thickens, some only want to play, some want something else and
discerning who's who is where we might trip.
With all the avenues this place can take, bringing our kink here is natural. Although the Taylor
often times has stepped out, leaving us alone with our own needle and tread.

But to answer your question, "what drives you?" the safety of transparency be it nilla or kink knowing
your accepted, encouraged, adored and loved.

Hugs Domi! (i'm back into my hiding place now!)

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 4:12:07 PM

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Aackkk ! This thread is gonna make my head explode ! And doesn't everyone make their bitch lick cum off his fingers that they wiped out of her asshole ? I thought that was SOP hygiene and aftercare. I didn't realize that was kinky...

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 4:21:05 PM

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Well thanks. I thought hey, if i am going to be bitchy and psycho with relief and all emotional, i might as well do it with humor.

Domiguy: immitation is the highest form of flattery. I know mine wasn't nearly as good as yours, but gimme points cuz i am just one of those icky sub/slaves *wink*

Nice post. I go through moments...Ever had one of those days when you are not feeling so fresh?

Anywhoooo, I enjoy the site. I have always had a rather firm grip on what is to be expected.

If nothing else, it has been a fun read and a little introspection never hurts.

Let's face it how many people in your walk through this world do you actually share a twue connection? A handful? I date vanilla and have met a few folks out here as well. Vanilla can be fun and frustrating, but much like madrabbit suggested, I believe that like minds do in fact attract.

It is an odd fucking thing, when you look at this thang from the outside in....I mean you really fucking scrutinize this thing...hold it up to the light of day, shake the fuck out of it, kick it in the box several times. What do you come away with?

Is it a place of comfort or one based upon something entirely different?

Odd.

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RE: Domiguy or not so domiguy? - 2/17/2009 4:21:39 PM

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Have you personally run into or been with that sort of s type? Did she actually try to make you stop your life to live hers for her? if so, all i can say is youch and glad you got away. I know i have seen it in some profiles and i have yet to message one of those people and ask what they really want, but I am starting to think that might make a good hobby.

Don't get me wrong here, if that is really their thing, more power to them and I can even help with the manual (for pay). I just have never witnessed it for myself for anything lasting more than say a weekend or at the most 2 or 3 weeks. The body runs out of chemicals to be aroused at that level after a point and its sports drinks and nutritional bars all around.

I know its in some porn fantasy stuff, mostly i skip over that porn because the details bore the hell out of me,or i start laughing so hard i drop my vibrator. I also skip the new love and gangbang stuff for just about the same reasons. Sometimes i even correct the grammar.

Yes in answer to your met question. Gotta hedge on the been with question though. My body ran out of chemicals a lot quicker than a couple of weeks. Fortunately there was always some Sir Savage or Lord Dragon around to point them towards as the most dominant individuals on the face of the earth. Have to admit too that most of that was a couple of decades ago when I didn't have a real good clue of what I wanted in the first place. Chalk it up to a personal path I chose not to walk down.

I'm not dissing your lifestyle. In fact, I don't care what lifestyle you lead. Long as you're happy in it, makes absolutely no difference what anyone else thinks - micromanagement or not.

But I am often busy as hell. Maybe that's why. I don't have a few slaves running around making it less busy.

Like I said, peace woman. You and your man obviously have something that works and something you both value. That's all that really matters, isn't it?

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