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ORIGINAL: Quivver

Great to see you Domi! 
This post of yours has drug me out of hiding for a minute. 
Your words about ~real relationships~ struck home with me.  Having never aimed at being a sport fuck, or just out
to push that edge what I've always reached for has been that emotional end of a ~twue~ connection. 
I'm sure I've been labeled as way to Nilla more times then I care to count.  As you say, prude comes to mind. 
But being kinky I found myself here.  I've never been a switch (not as in a lifestyle choice) but what I'm saying is geared
to that 24/7 idea.  

Hugs Domi!  (i'm back into my hiding place now!) 

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave

(in response to SM)  .... but we all agree that everyone has their own handle on what they want and all power to whatever that is - just calling someone into TPE boorish and the majority of subs a waste of space is a bit crap in my opinion. 

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Yer link ain't working, domigod.

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ORIGINAL: Maya2001

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Yer link ain't working, domigod.

there was 2 http's try this  it is a link to a post on  vampirism

http://www.collarchat.com/m_2464421/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#2465053

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
believe it or not some guys/Dominants actually NEED to have that level of control over a woman and her life as well. not because they're insecure, not because they want an excuse to treat someone like garbage, but simply because that is what fulfills them in a personal relationship. my Master has a very controlling/my way is THE way mentality...he can't even do the casual sex thing, because for him if a woman isn't under his authority when she wakes up, goes to bed, goes to work, makes all the major decisions in her life, etc...then he's not going to feel in control sexually, it would feel false to him. He likes keeping me tightly in his grip because it leaves no room for outside interference and unknowns. He doesn't have to worry about gossipy, oprah and dr. phil-influenced friends attempting to pollute my mind or "rescue" me...he doesn't have to worry about my having either the will or the means by which to leave him...he doesn't have to worry about whether or not he comes first, second and third in my life. He has developed and maintained an environment which ensures his own happiness and peace of mind.

i don't this makes either him or i crazy, just with different needs than some.

imo it all really boils down to personalities...for a Dominant, is your personality such that you need to be in control ALL of the time? perhaps just MOST of the time? or do you not really give a flookie about control when your cock isn't hard? that to me determines the difference between those who pursue D/s as reflection of who they are, and those who pursue D/s as a kink only.

I dig you and you know it.  You are always a great read.  For being whatever it is that you are, you make it seem so effortless and commonplace.

However, there is soooo much that is disturbing within your words. If it makes you happy that is great, I guess...  I always wonder how one determines the essence or gets to the definition of one's happiness? Moving from a small cage to a larger one?

I really don't know. It gets to the point that it doesn't really matter what I know or think I know.  Inevitably it is your life.

Fuck. You get older and you see the world within different spectrums. That which you do and partake in and that which you should do or wish that you would have done.

Would I wish your life upon a daughter? Not in a million years.  Would I want a daughter or sister to be treated in the manner that I have sometimes treated women?   Only a complete hypocrite could answer in the affirmative.

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Fuck. You get older and you see the world within different spectrums. That which you do and partake in and that which you should do or wish that you would have done.

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ORIGINAL: domiguy



Fuck. You get older and you see the world within different spectrums. That which you do and partake in and that which you should do or wish that you would have done.

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ORIGINAL: feydeplume

Yanno what? I am a SLAVE. TPE 24/7/365.

So I just got home from getting M to the ER, Doctor, pharmacist, cleaned up, changed into bedclothes, settled with an activity that will keep his mind busy and off the pain, got the laundry going, put the meds and stuff away, fed him, and got a kiss for it all. And I read this thread.

If he wants sex at 3 am and i have to work the next day, we have sex and i am tired the next day, cuz he is way more important to me and our intimacy is way more important to me than some wage slave job. If he sees that I am putting his needs so far above my own that i forget or put off doing things that are good for me, well then he tells me to do them. Does he set my bedtime? sure does, otherwise i will try and stay up late just to be near him. Does he pick my clothes for me? Sort of, in that i don't buy clothes that i don't THINK he will like and if i am wrong and he hates it, well I take it back. Its just clothes, I  have more and I will buy more again. maybe next time he will love it and hey! excuse to go shopping again. Do i plan my day and my life around him, his wants, his needs, his whims, his desires, his intrests, his sexual proclivities? Fuck yeah.

And you know what? That takes a TON of thought on my part, constant on going thought. Everything i do everyday takes HIM into consideration, all of him, not just the hot, kinky sexy parts, but the headcold, whiny, bitchy, steal the covers part too. I strive to add to his life, to make it run smoother, easier, happier, gentler, sexier, whatever.

What do i get in return? He thinks about me and my needs, wants, issues, love, quirks, kinks, drive, interests, and all in every decision he makes for us. He makes a world inside our house where I am free to love unconditionally with all that i am and be loved unconditionally by all that his is.


I am not a sub and i sort of don't get subs honestly. They seem to be full of demands and think that thier "gift" is allowing someone to have sex with them they way they, the sub, wants it. And Doms seem to be willing to do whatever it takes to push all the little subbie (sorry) buttons to accept thier "gift".

And yeah I am tired. It has been a long, scary day full of blood, stitches, and future issues and stuff. And i still have laundry to fold, dishes to do, and a man that i love with all that i am to snuggle and support emotionally while he deals with the aftermath of surgery.

as a final note, no i have not slept well since the surgery that some of you know he had. I have not eaten well, and i have been run off my feet dealng with the helplessness that comes from watching someone you love HURT really bad. and i sorta picked up this coffee habit (i know i know drug use never makes it better).

I'm off to go be a mindless drone that he has to micromanage now. but at least there are apple turnovers for dessert.

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Who's phatslut?  Domi, am I phatslut?  If so, I want to take you to the boney pile.  It's the best place for lovers.   

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ORIGINAL: cjan

Real men don't have "mid-life crises " or suffer "male menopause". That is waaaaay too hormonal for us. Rather, what we experience are periodic ( though not monthly ) episetmological crises often resulting in cognitive dissonance. I suspect that this condition may be what is currently afflicting our gash meister.

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ORIGINAL: MyWorldCT
Awwwww.. our little domiguy is growing up...

Are you saying that you have regrets???  I sure hope not... that shit will kill you quicker than McDonalds.  Let it slide, move forward and keep the bitches coming, because as you get older you get less of them

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ORIGINAL: Maya2001

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Fuck. You get older and you see the world within different spectrums. That which you do and partake in and that which you should do or wish that you would have done.

Had to check your age ...as a thought came to me



Pretty much everyone will go thru a slump in life and start questioning their lives and their choices, that is pretty much normal

and you are smack dab in the age range to be going through  mid-life crisis or the so called male menopause.. a time period where many men enter a  slump due to testosterone changes in their body which can make them feel disatisfied with their lives

and it is a period where many men make often make drastic and often stupid decisions  due to

A dom friend of mine, started to get a bit down, in a rut ...he started thinking he is too old for this shit, developing doubts in himself  and that was time to hang up his whips and settle down, as he had a vanilla girl that was interested in him, so he gave up his job, moved half way around the country, invested his money into a business with the vanilla girl to start a business, the business in going belly up, their sex life is almost none existent, and he is now wondering what the hell he did and is full of regrets

if he had been smarter,  instead of acting on emotions at the time  and making a drastic change,  he should have just taken a break and taken  a time out from  looking for a sub, and pursue some other activities  or hobbies, to  see if in a few months time he felt any different ...sometimes all you need is a time out inorder to come back with a fresh perspective  and feeling recharged again.... and is also helps to be aware of what is possibly occuring  that is causing you to question your life