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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 5:39:23 AM   
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Looking out the window at the street... thinks to myself: "Dang, why doesn't everyone out there look like a gym rat?"


Look, OP, if you want a fit guy... I'd suggest joining a gym and use it as a dating pool, like every other "fitness" oriented person. Maybe join several gyms, that way you can cruise to your hearts content. Eventually, you'll find one that is both fit, and submissive.

But I'd be willing to lay odds that Murphy's Law will apply: once you find them, they won't be interested in you.

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 7:22:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MadameMarque

As for the side discussion, about "normal, adjusted" men and women not being interested in male submission and female dominance:  Maybe the OP of those remarks meant to say that people so inclined are in the minority, and if so, that would be undeniably true.  Makes for a smaller dating pool. 



I not only meant to say it... I did over and over. But I thank you for saying it in a better way.

The obvious truth should not offend anyone.

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 7:46:08 AM   
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Maybe they are out looking for a Mistress who doesn't judge people , who really knows what she is talking about and who can really give a damn. But one never knows
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Ok this came off sounding harsh when what I was getting at is that we all judge people, in one way or another. I know myself I have looked for one type of person and found what I really needed (and wanted) was another type altogether.  It matters or at least should to a degree matter what is inside a person too.

A



I couldn't agree more, and suspect/guess that the OP feels the same as well.

It's just that she's looking for someone physically fit in addition to "what's inside".  I don't think that's a big deal whatsoever. 

I've read some posts in this thread equating "physically fit" with "gym rat" and "spending so much time at the gym they can't see X", etc.  That bugs me.  Being fit doesn't necessarily translate to Mr. Universe.  It can also mean a person who simply eats a nutritionally balanced diet and exercises reasonably - or even someone who enjoys outdoor sports or activites.

Nothing wrong with looking for both "inside" and "outside" attractiveness, imo.  They aren't mutually exclusive.

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 7:48:43 AM   
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lol, if single bi-sexual poly girls are called "unicorns", what shall we name single straight fit men ?

Unavailable. They are rare and hence are already generally claimed by non-lifestylers.


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 9:05:42 AM   
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I just want to start off by saying, wow, you are so beautiful i wish i was a single straight male, but i'm a married bi female. 

There is alot truth on this thread.  It's might be hard to find fit on here because many don't sit still long enough to find such a website and read through a bunch of threads.  Of course that's just my opinion.  

I don't know, maybe the fit could be something you could work on.  I mean if you found one who was straight, and submissive, with 80% of the other qualities you enjoy who just really does it for you, the 'fit' part could be made into a fun excersize.  

On that same note, maybe you could find someone who was fit and straight and work on the submissive.  See where i'm going?

Two out of three ain't bad.   (with a hint of meatloaf lilt). 

Best wishes to you. 


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 9:55:32 AM   
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It is simple. Those who do these things are generally successful in other areas of their life. Hence, they do not need this one and so you will not find them here. After all, if they are hitting the gym, in exellent shape both physically and mentally, then they have no need of this lifestyle as they already will have a good selection of people interested in them. Sorry to be a downer but it is best to be prepared for disappointment up front before you spend years on end wondering why.


Generally unsuccessful people are here? People that don't have a good selection of people interested in them come here as sort of a last resort?

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 10:56:06 AM   
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To be honest, I'd suggest Match.com.  I was on it for three months, and met two of my best friends there.  The SF friend I mentioned is on there now, and has met a few kinky professor-type guys, including one who already had a profile on a kink site.  There's a lot more people actually willing to meet in real life on a site like Match, and people are a lot less weirded out by kink than you might suspect.



Wow, you are so right! I'm going back to match. The last slave and  last switch I met, I met both on Match.com!

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 11:05:05 AM   
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Try Goth dance clubs.

Dance clubs tend to draw fewer oinkers and more people that can move. The Goth community is generally kink-friendly.  Don't assume that someone in leather and fishnets (male or female) is into bondage, but if you ask them if they are, they won't freak.

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 11:16:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Saint

It is simple. Those who do these things are generally successful in other areas of their life. Hence, they do not need this one and so you will not find them here. After all, if they are hitting the gym, in exellent shape both physically and mentally, then they have no need of this lifestyle as they already will have a good selection of people interested in them. Sorry to be a downer but it is best to be prepared for disappointment up front before you spend years on end wondering why.



So by your own post, are we to take it that you are unsucessful, have no life, are out of shape, don't have a good selection of playmates and think the glass is half empty rather than half full and like to spread discouragment?



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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 11:16:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Saint

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ORIGINAL: FelineFae

lol, if single bi-sexual poly girls are called "unicorns", what shall we name single straight fit men ?

Unavailable. They are rare and hence are already generally claimed by non-lifestylers.


Or in my case, too damned old to be of interest to most of the women in this thread!


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 11:20:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: cantilena
It's just that she's looking for someone physically fit in addition to "what's inside".  I don't think that's a big deal whatsoever. 

I've read some posts in this thread equating "physically fit" with "gym rat" and "spending so much time at the gym they can't see X", etc.  That bugs me.  Being fit doesn't necessarily translate to Mr. Universe.  It can also mean a person who simply eats a nutritionally balanced diet and exercises reasonably - or even someone who enjoys outdoor sports or activites.


Yeash, no kidding. Excuse me for wanting to be healthy so i can enjoy my old age. It's interesting to see the stereotypes from both sides of the debate whenever this subject somes up.


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 11:30:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Saint

It is simple. Those who do these things are generally successful in other areas of their life. Hence, they do not need this one and so you will not find them here. After all, if they are hitting the gym, in exellent shape both physically and mentally, then they have no need of this lifestyle as they already will have a good selection of people interested in them. Sorry to be a downer but it is best to be prepared for disappointment up front before you spend years on end wondering why.


Whoa, I couldn't disagree with that one more strongly. I'm in pretty good shape, lead a very active, interesting life, am somewhat successful financially, and have been alone for years - because the "good selection of people (who are) interested" in me don't interest me, because they're not kinky enough for me to fall in love with. The areas of my life in which i am happy, successful, and secure do nothing at all to address my relationship needs, other than to give me enough satisfactions to keep my glass 3/4 full and hopefully make me a more interesting partner for whomever I do match up with, if I'm ever so fortunate. Lonely people are everywhere, and they look just like everybody else.


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 11:33:10 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kdsub
lol...... I always wondered why people looked down on Frank... he was getting more P than the rest.



And with one of the hottest women ever on television, and certainly the hottest woman ever to wear a uniform. The man had the world in the palm of his hand, and didn't know how to appreciate it.


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 12:36:21 PM   
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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 12:43:04 PM   
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Akisha, women want things both ways.  They want to be praised when they lose weight, but still called gorgeous when they gain it.  They want to not be judged on their looks, but they still want men to pay for everything.  They want things modern when it suits them, yet traditional when that is convenient.

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/13/2009 1:40:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: slavekal

Akisha, women want things both ways.  They want to be praised when they lose weight, but still called gorgeous when they gain it.  They want to not be judged on their looks, but they still want men to pay for everything.  They want things modern when it suits them, yet traditional when that is convenient.


LOL well i wouldn't say all women want that. some yes, but some men are exactly the same.

I know exactly how I look. I don't need someone to congratulate me on losing 5 pounds and I actually dislike if someone tells me I'm pretty alot. I find it slightly annoying to be honest.

I have never expected anyone to ever pay for me. When just dating I take my turn paying. When in a relationship it's a moot point as all the money comes from the same account.

I admit i want a traditional relationship where the man is in charge but I do insist on maintaining my own employment. It's too hard to exsist on one income in this day and age.

Being the sole female in a predominantly male enviroment at work, I do find it annoying that I make less then the guys pay in taxes but it's completely different types of work so it can't be compaired. I know I'm valued and respected where I work and that goes along way. For my venue of career I'm paid about average for the industry. Who wouldn;t want to make more?? lol

Some men want to be 350 pounds and 60 years old and be able to get the 20 yr old supermodel gf, so don't try and tell me men can't be just as superficial as women.

I think being "average" is a good thing. you don't get every guy with a hard on trying to get you into bed hehe .

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/14/2009 8:26:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kdsub

You see many here have problems… they are not your normal funny fit guys…those people are mostly normal and do not participate in the lifestyle.

Lets face it most normal adjusted men have no desire to be dominated by a woman. Face this as well most normal well adjusted women do not want to dominate men.

So… your choices are severely limited and you will have to join the rest of us trying to find that rare man or woman…Just don’t hold your breath.
Butch


Omg, that highlighted stuff above is just a bunch of bs!

Adjusted to what society expects, as in "Fall in line" or be socially adrift?

Plenty of well-adjusted people Domme or sub.

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/14/2009 8:32:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: subtee

quote:

ORIGINAL: Saint

It is simple. Those who do these things are generally successful in other areas of their life. Hence, they do not need this one and so you will not find them here. After all, if they are hitting the gym, in exellent shape both physically and mentally, then they have no need of this lifestyle as they already will have a good selection of people interested in them. Sorry to be a downer but it is best to be prepared for disappointment up front before you spend years on end wondering why.


Generally unsuccessful people are here? People that don't have a good selection of people interested in them come here as sort of a last resort?


No, not all members are submissive straight males.


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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/14/2009 8:55:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MissEnchanted

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ORIGINAL: kdsub

You see many here have problems… they are not your normal funny fit guys…those people are mostly normal and do not participate in the lifestyle.

Lets face it most normal adjusted men have no desire to be dominated by a woman. Face this as well most normal well adjusted women do not want to dominate men.

So… your choices are severely limited and you will have to join the rest of us trying to find that rare man or woman…Just don’t hold your breath.
Butch


Omg, that highlighted stuff above is just a bunch of bs!

Adjusted to what society expects, as in "Fall in line" or be socially adrift?

Plenty of well-adjusted people Domme or sub.

ME



OK lets take a walk down main street America...Hey look there a well adjusted average guy...Sir would you answer a few questions please?

Would you be my pain slut?

Would you crave to serve me?

Requirements in your profile by the way

Now on the average what response do you think you would get?

My point all along is most would look at you like your crazy...Yes one now and then would express interest.

The very fact that fewer men and women have an interest in our lifestyle means there would be fewer to choose from and people of common interests would be harder to find. That is all I was expressing to the op.

No judgments on people inside or outside the lifestyle...Nor saying people in the lifestyle can't be well adjusted.

Butch

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RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. - 3/14/2009 11:19:11 AM   
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