LaTigresse
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Yanno, I am going to write a short story about a contact I had on here recently to prove a point about going with your gut.
Woman contacts me, age 42, submissive, less than gorgeous profile and photo, but several pleasant emails. We email back and forth for several days, seem to have similar interests, etc. However, I just am not getting a good feel for the person she is. Something is just, off.
She asks for another way to contact me via net. I have 4 total, email accounts aside of this one. An old hotmail account I rarely use except for junk. My work account that is strictly work. My long time yahoo account, which has my full given name. I've given it to a few people from here that thought were leaving CM, or I want to have more access to contacting me. They were people I almost instantly had a good solid feel for. And, a newer yahoo account I set up for.......people I don't want to have ANY access into my personal life yet at all. I gave her that account.
More emails exchanged, she then told me that she was coming to Iowa for work and would like to meet. Cool, fine, no problem, let me know. She asked to speak on the phone. I replied that I would, but I was going to get a pay as you go phone, and give her that number. Again, not something I have ever felt the need to do with anyone I've gotten to that point with, but there was still something, some little voice I was listening to. Her email back was a bit more......attitudinal......and gave me a phone number to contact her. Saying that SHE had no problem with it! Yet, something jumped out at me. Supposedly she lives in Arizona, but the phone had a Canadian area code. I wrote and asked about that, it was the hotel she was staying at while traveling for work...okay that makes sense.
Friday evening I called her, like I promised. We talked for about an hour or so, a bit of an unusual conversation, she seemed over eager to consider herself my submissive. Rather like, this is what I like, what I want to do for you, I am now yours! I was having to say things that brought the conversation back to reality. Real life, etc. Then when she expressed an interest in "serving me" via phone sex, I decided I had better things to do. Like take the dogs out to pee and go to bed. But, I had promised to call her again and meet her sometime this week. I was planning on following through.
Since then I've got two, increasingly weird and demanding emails. Pushy, accusing me of not following through. The last one was the final straw. I know me, I know what I've promised. I raised two teens and I know how to be specific and how to word things so that I don't leave things open ended. I gave zero specifics about when I would call. I was actually planning on doing it this evening when I knew I would have time.
After that final email, I sat and thought. What red flags have I got? No mention of being in Canada until questioned about area code, slight changes in story with phone, first it is hotel, then it is the phone number I use while traveling in Canada. Several very slight discrepancies in travel agenda. One age was given on profile then a different one just happened to slip out in phone conversation. Weird breathless voice on phone, maybe affected or electronically altered in some way.........? Some small talk of sex in first email...then of course an appology. First phone call wants to tell me about her fantasy of being used in a barn on a farm, then later wants phone sex......to serve ME of course....(insert snort here) And now a freaky demanding attitude because I didn't call when she wanted, which of course had not been communicated.
Okay, I don't have any pet bunnies, but I am having visions of bunnies in my soup pot.
I wrote her back that I am not calling her again, and I've no intention of meeting. Along with a few other points.
Yet.........in much less time and communication I've given people my full name, personal email address, the name and location of where I work, and my personal phone number. I don't even worry about it. If any one of those people showed up on my doorstep, I would welcome them in.
The difference.........it's subtle as hell. Maybe not everyone has the antenna I do, maybe I'm lucky, maybe..........whatever. I don't know. I just know it's working for me.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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