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RedMagic1 -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (4/7/2009 7:07:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: asianchloe
It's possible that in my experience, the vanilla men I date are more successful and wealthy because they're the ones with enough confidence to ask me out...the kinky men who want to meet me just might be more middle-class and have less disposable income for the fancy dinners and expensive gifts (but that doesn't make up for being stingy in other ways).
Something getting lost with all the talk about money is the real issue is: What are you willing to invest in the relationship? Not being willing to spring for coffee is a sign of narcissism.
On the other hand, "fancy dinners and expensive gifts" seems like an unwise filter to me. Many of the women I have dated have made more money than I do, and women have bought me an awful lot of meals, CD's, etc. I've paid for stuff too -- and on a first date, I have always paid -- but I've always cared more about people than money. My friend B, whose annual income is around 100 times my own (and I do OK), once told me, "You're the only person I can count on to tell me the truth, no matter how I look or how much money I have." She and I met because she had an active profile here, though she's hidden it for now.
My point is that you shouldn't confuse the online "confidence" that comes from horniness and seeing a username that starts with "asian" with the reality that not many people in the world -- male or female, straight or nilla -- are going to be more interested in you than in how you appear. In particular, people who spend a lot on trappings sometimes cannot see below them.
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