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the problem is the relationship was always like this from day go and i was happy with that untill a few months ago yet i still yern for it now, yet when i had it i couldnt

i guess the piont to my post is im curious has anybody ever gone thrugh this? does love change things? does a Master love his slave differently to how he could love a free woman?
is BDSM love diiferent to that of vannila?>

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ORIGINAL: hunnibunni09

this isnt about cleaning tghis is oen certain aspect someone zoomed in on earlier and explained it to them.


i was ignored all day long as far he was concerned i could have keeled over and died and he wouldnt take on bit of notice for instance the fonal straw was i fell on a  spilage in the living room from his drink by the way i had hard fall right down he walked over me  later that night   he was horny so i was the slave that he loved and cherished so i was to furfill my slavery duities

to me if u loved someone u would have picked them up maybe helped them see if they were ok even asked?  

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adjustment to love in an Ms relationship can get confusing unless you manage to keep in focus what the dynamic is all about. ive read youre post a few times and im not going to attempt to read between the lines, im just going to respond to what you wrote.

you talk about rows, about starting to resent stuff and get confused about his rules and refusals. and yet you entered this dynamic as his slave. you were getting youreself confused with the mainstream notion of love and relationships and this lifestyle. in this lifestyle as a slave you dont row, you do what is expected of you within the remit of youre dynamic.

yes, there are times when ive hurt, when ive wondered how he could do or say something that did not reflect how i feel about him - and then i remind myself of the position i have taken in his life and i suck it up. first and foremost i am his slave and when something gets hard to swollow i remind myself of that and its then easier to deal with.

i dont think emotions suddenly get a refit when you enter an Ms relationship. love still means love. what you got confused with was youre idea of how lovers should be and how an Ms dynamic often is. youre Master took you on because yes, he fell in love with you, but also because he desired you to be his property, his owned and valued slave who would serve him in the ways that he wished to be served.

i think you thought that with love in the mix he should have been more mainstream in his treatment of you. why should he when he had made it clear he wanted you as his slave - his love wouldnt diminish in any way, infact probably it would strengthen as youre enslavement and his position in youre life grew.

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ORIGINAL: lally2

i think you thought that with love in the mix he should have been more mainstream in his treatment of you.  why should he when he had made it clear he wanted you as his slave - his love wouldnt diminish in any way, infact probably it would strengthen as youre enslavement and his position in youre life grew.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I don;t think most people sign up for slavery expecting that if they get hurt the owner will step over them and not pay any attention to them until he wanted sex. Most decent people of whatever orientation will check on their partner and call an ambulance if needed. This guy didn't.

She wasn't safe with him. He didn't believe in taking care of his property.

And I'm sorry, people enter into these relationships expecting to be happy in them, nobody signs up saying that they understand they will work outside the home 10 hours a day and in it 4 hours a day and still be excited about sex when they are weeping with exhaustion.

However she's 19 and I have to assume her screening skills aren't very good and that her ex hasn't any relationship skills either.

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ORIGINAL: hunnibunni09

this isnt about cleaning tghis is oen certain aspect someone zoomed in on earlier and explained it to them.


i was ignored all day long as far he was concerned i could have keeled over and died and he wouldnt take on bit of notice for instance the fonal straw was i fell on a  spilage in the living room from his drink by the way i had hard fall right down he walked over me  later that night   he was horny so i was the slave that he loved and cherished so i was to furfill my slavery duities

to me if u loved someone u would have picked them up maybe helped them see if they were ok even asked?  

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And you still yearn for him?

If someone I DIDN'T like fell over, I'd help them up. That's got nothing to do with *love* and a lot to do with being a semi-decent human-being.

agirl

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ORIGINAL: Malkinius

Greetings hunnibunni.....

From your description you are wanting the standard modern male as a Mister, not a Master. Per your profile you are young enough to not have nearly as much knowledge or experience as people who have been doing this for years or decades. You still have a lot of learning and living to do even if you do become someone's slave.

If you want equality and someone sharing the workload, you don't want to be a slave. You really really don't want to be a Gorean's slave. You may be better off sticking to being a sub and enjoying some dominance and bedroom play but otherwise living a normal, mundane life. The whole husband, 2.5 kids, flower garden, whatever you think happiness with someone else is.

If you become a slave, your happiness doesn't matter. What you want doesn't matter. What you want to do or don't want to do and when you do or don't want to do or not do it doesn't matter. You don't matter. When you are ready for that level of obedience and service, think hard about it then run like hell the other way. Only return to it if you can't do and be anything else. Otherwise you will be unhappy and will make other people unhappy.

Be well....

Malkinius

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I don;t think most people sign up for slavery expecting that if they get hurt the owner will step over them and not pay any attention to them until he wanted sex. Most decent people of whatever orientation will check on their partner and call an ambulance if needed. This guy didn't.

She wasn't safe with him. He didn't believe in taking care of his property.

And I'm sorry, people enter into these relationships expecting to be happy in them, nobody signs up saying that they understand they will work outside the home 10 hours a day and in it 4 hours a day and still be excited about sex when they are weeping with exhaustion.

However she's 19 and I have to assume her screening skills aren't very good and that her ex hasn't any relationship skills either.

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If you want equality and someone sharing the workload, you don't want to be a slave. You really really don't want to be a Gorean's slave. You may be better off sticking to being a sub and enjoying some dominance and bedroom play but otherwise living a normal, mundane life. The whole husband, 2.5 kids, flower garden, whatever you think happiness with someone else is.