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LadyEllen -> RE: Lesbians: Why do you hate transsexuals so much? (5/25/2009 3:19:34 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MissDominae
Lets see...... Stella, myself, Jenny Boylan, Dana Beyer, Calpurnia Addams, Andrea James, Marci Bowers, Georgina Beyer, Karen Gurney, Jessica Orsini, Jenny Bailey. Kimberley Rae, Kayleen White, Rachel Wallbanks, Michele Taylor. In that group we have lawyers, surgeons, teachers, Professors, Advocates, engineers, senior public servants, writers and a host of other talents and skills. In most of these cases they did not reach their position of status until AFTER their transition.
.............. Most of us leave the self pity crap behind us and just get on with being normal people. My little list above is just those I know personally or know of through publicity who have shown clearly that life as a normal, happy and successful woman IS possible for those born transsexed if we just put down the placards and the slogans and the labels and the huge chips some of us carry shoulder-high.
agreed; except that you missed me off the list
and except that some of us are ridiculously lucky in passing well enough that we can build new lives from the ruins of old ones. those who dont pass well often find themselves undermined and prevented by reactions from others.
albeit, this is something which to large extent we suffer with alongside natal women - that our success in life is too often determined by others' reactions to our appearance more than our abilities, talents and interests.
and what has to be noted for me personally and to my shame perhaps, is that because I pass well and have been able to get on with building a new life and becoming successful, I dont feel any need for protesting and fighting for rights and recognitions which (taken to be a natural born woman) I get anyway.
but working with the police, and having people referred to me for help who dont pass well (hence their contact as victims of violence with the police), I get some insight into why and how all the protesting and fighting goes on.
when I hear the stories of some of these people (most even, maybe all), I feel helpless and something of a fraud - it was too easy for me, it all just came naturally, I didnt have to change anything much and I never really experienced many of the problems that these people suffer daily - I didnt even lose a great deal; so how am I meant to help? in many ways, it puts me in the same position as natal women perhaps who may possibly have little understanding of the trials and tribulations of some trans women and hence not understand too well the problems that get talked about in threads like these and the ideas and attitudes (often confrontational) that are presented.
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